He sold my chicks while I was out of town... :*(

[sfw2]

I'm so glad that you and DF have talked this out. From your original post, I really didn't have the impression that he had any "hidden agenda" in selling your chicks while you were absent, and that this was all a huge misunderstanding.

I think that when we reply on these posts, we tend to let our own personal experiences influence our responses. If I had a history with somebody who sabotaged me at every turn, controlled my life, and wanted to punish me for being away, I might think that your DF did this on purpose. Fortunately, that's not my experience, so I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm glad you did the same.

That said, I truly hope you can get at least the two chicks back. And if he EVER does something like this again . . . .

 

[EweSheep]

LOL! Glad you got it straightened out in the communication department. That is the first lesson in marriage!

Keep them open when you are both in good mood for a conversation that needs to be cleared up. Our marriage counselor said alot of the misunderstandings comes from miscommunication such as " I thought..." "You thought..." "I assumed..." "You assumed...". If the two of you still don't get it, rephrase the sentences that your partner can understand what EXACTLY you meant in what you are trying to say.

From now on, your hubby to be can do answer phone calls and "I will relay this information to my wife....." or "I will have my wife call you back when she is available".

Good idea to have yourself there at all times when birds are being sold and there would be no mixed up of orders. If there is something that HAS to be done, like a death of a family member and it is the only time the customer can be there, at least you can pen those birds in a cage and put up a sign (these birds are for Mr/Mrs Somebody) and your husband can do that for you.

My husband knows he would stay clear of me doing the physical part of the bird purchasing, all he could do is to relay information, catching birds (in my presence) or giving birds in a specific cage for this person to be picked up. Or if it is chicks, I would MARK them with red or green dots on heads and write up the sales that the red/or green dot chicks goes to whomeever it would be sold to. I never had any problems with any of it but hubby does know that if he sold a chick or chicken without my authorization, his butt would be nailed to the wall! (his punishment, get me a started bird shipped to me!)

 

[Hangin Wit My Peeps]

Aww that is sad but happy to hear your and your fiancee worked it out too. Sometimes things get really mixed up and not communicated well but it sure doesn't mean he is a bad person. I think the sooner you ask for them back the less time the kids will have to get attached to them. So I would hurry because we all know how fast THAT can be! I'm sure he will be just fine with it. I know I would if someone contacted me with that same story. I would give them back in a heartbeat.

 

[BlackBart]

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I would ask myself what else will he do down the line? Be cautious with your future with him.

 

[speckledhen]

I'm glad you worked this one out, but I'd sure be on the lookout for the next similar incident. I agree with someone who said you bring your experiences to your answer, however, in my case, it's because I have an awesome husband and the bar is set waaaaaaaay high! In fact, I told him about your situation and he agreed with what I said. As far as the chicks go, I won't take back any bird who has left my property, not knowing what it was exposed to out there, just for biosecurity-type reasons.

 

[cluckcluck42]

I woke up today at the crack of noon and he had cleaned the WHOLE HOUSE spotless including cat litter, which he HATES to do. He even cleaned the whole yard in the pouring rain and made me breakfast. He cleaned everything we had discussed doing this week in a matter of 3 hours!!! He is calling the guy in the next hour and I am just crossing my fingers. I know this won't happen again, forgive and forget. Even if the guy doesnt agree to give us back two of the chicks, I will be okay, the rest of my chickens are happy and healthy so what else can I ask for. And boy, are 5 chicks easier to care for than 11.

I went in this morning and was shocked by how much food was still left lol.

Thanks everyone

 

[speckledhen]

Sounds suitably contrite to me. Good for him. Maybe he's learned a lesson from this to carry into your marriage.

 

[77horses]

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That's nice of him.

That shows that he must really be sorry about what he did, which is a good thing because he knows not to do it again.

I hope you at least get your 2 chicks back!

 

[Chook-A-Holic]

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[Randy]

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X3 What's done is done and you know that he didn't do it to be mean.