heartbreaking when children go astray

[jeaucamom]

More drama today... such heartache.... because I can't condone her behavior when she tries to draw me in, I am such the bad guy... it just makes me want to cry a RIVER of tears.

babylady4, yes, I have been very open about ALL my mistakes in an effort to stop the cycle. I question now the wisdom of being so open because she seems to be running headlong to make the same mistakes and more. And yet my other two (who are younger) I have not been as open with them, because of their age and other reasons and yet they both don't seem to have the same "hellbent" disposition in them....

Prettiestfrog.. thank you for your post and being so open. My deepest concern for my daughter is NOT her happiness, it is her relationship with the Lord. PLEASE ALL THE NONCHIRSTIANS REFRAIN FROM JUDGING ME IN THIS!!! If she were doing a hundred detrimental and dangerous and SINFUL things and was really happy, I would still be completely heartbroken for my daughter because her relationship with the Lord would be suffering. I would much rather have her at peace with God (which brings unspeakable joy in ANY situation) than happy in this life. I am NOT talking merely about things that I don't "approve of or agree with", but things that are clearly spelled out as wrong and sinful in the word of God.

I am well aware that there are few people who understand this point of view, so please be gentle with me. Chicabator.. yes... I am praying, praying, praying!!!!

 

[deb1]

Jeucamom, is your daughter physically endangering herself or someone else? Does she have a plan for her future?

I am no longer a Christian but if God is what Christian say that he is then he can turn a wayward daughter's life around.

Sometimes time is all that is necessary to help people get back on the right track.

 

[NonnasBabies]

Just remember you can't shove your religeous beliefs down someone's throat!! Sounds like there your beliefs not hers!! I hope ya'll find the way past this because honestly it sounds like your doing more harm than good to your relationship with your daughter!! I hope I'm not sounding ugly because I'm truly not trying to be. You can't make people feel and believe the way you do. God gave everyone a brain and the power to think their OWN thoughts, feelings, etc. Sounds like you gave her the base and now it's up to her as and adult to find her own way and become the person she wants to be not the person you feel she should become!!

Just a thought anyway!!

Missi

 

[redux]

If you love someone, you respect their beliefs, even when they are not the same as yours. Period.

 

[whenchickensdream]

It is so heartbreaking. I know I cried a river of tears 16 years ago when my daughter was in her teens. I am very much a Christian in my beliefs. Sometimes I think our kids want to know that we love them no matter what they do, as God loves us. It took me a long time to realize that, although I don't approve of what is going on in their lives, I love them so very much and would give my life for them. Do not give up. It may not turn out the way you want but keep your heart open. My daughter and I are very close. She has been happily married since she was 18 (16 years ago) and has 2 wonderful kids (a daughter, 11 and a son, 6). I don't know what I'd do without her or my other 2 children. I will keep you in my prayers. Joy

 

[DuckLady]

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This.

I have family who I don't agree with, but I love them anyway.

 

[fowltemptress]

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The truth doesn't require many words, does it? Well said.

 

[ranchhand]

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Agreed.

 

[Katy]

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Very true.

 

[claud]

How difficult this must be.

I think you should research some books on the subject. A many a book has gotten me through tough times.

Go to Amazon.com and look up "Wild Child, Waiting Mom" . Browse through the other related books as well - check out the reviews. You may find something that's quite helpful in your specific situation.