Help Me! I'm STUCK in OB!!!

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Dawn you're batting a thousand today...

Are you related to Debbie Downer? Got to be the most negative posts I have ever read on BYC.

I have 3 kids. Breastfed every single one, extensively and exclusively. My yougest nursed until she was 10 months with no baby food (she wouldn't have it), then nursed to sleep until she was 26 months.
I have had two natural hospital births and one homebirth. I NEVER sent my babies to the nursery. All of them nursed within 15 minutes of birth.
I cloth diapered, did no vaccinations, wore my kids in slings all the time, made my own baby foods (when they were eating them) etc....

Man those nursing pillows come in handy! I LOVED mine.
I would sit down in my rocker with my pillow and baby and just nurse for hours without having to hold them up..
Good things, those boppys.

 

[MysticScorpio82]

Quote:
Ok I agree with you in most cases, however there are times that it is NOT healthier to breast feed, those cases being - if the mother has to be on medication (like an anti-depressant), because the medication will go to the baby through the breast milk and I firmly believe the medication that affects brain chemicals is not a good thing to allow a baby, who's brain is still developing, to have. The other case is if the mother is not taking care of herself, such as not getting vitamins or eating well. Everything you take into your body is going to your baby, so if you aren't eating or eating well, taking vitamins etc, then your baby isn't going to get the vitamins, calories, etc it needs to develop properly.

Breast feeding is personal choice. For my first child I couldn't for the above reasons. I am was severly depressed. I need meds and I wasn't eating...at all. In that case formula was the better and healthier option for my child. Now that I am preggers again, I keep holding on to the hope most people how have depression the first time around, are less likely to suffer in other pregnancies. I would love to breast-feed, however if the I can't take care of myself properly, I am not going to risk my baby just so I can say I breastfed.

 

[PineBurrowPeeps]

Amy

Congrats on your pregnancy! When are you due? DUH it's in your sig!!!
I had my youngest on November 29...

Babies are a blessing. My husband and I would love more. We're trying for number 4.

 

[mamagardener]

Quote:
Ok I agree with you in most cases, however there are times that it is NOT healthier to breast feed, those cases being - if the mother has to be on medication (like an anti-depressant), because the medication will go to the baby through the breast milk and I firmly believe the medication that affects brain chemicals is not a good thing to allow a baby, who's brain is still developing, to have. The other case is if the mother is not taking care of herself, such as not getting vitamins or eating well. Everything you take into your body is going to your baby, so if you aren't eating or eating well, taking vitamins etc, then your baby isn't going to get the vitamins, calories, etc it needs to develop properly.

Breast feeding is personal choice. For my first child I couldn't for the above reasons. I am was severly depressed. I need meds and I wasn't eating...at all. In that case formula was the better and healthier option for my child. Now that I am preggers again, I keep holding on to the hope most people how have depression the first time around, are less likely to suffer in other pregnancies. I would love to breast-feed, however if the I can't take care of myself properly, I am not going to risk my baby just so I can say I breastfed.

You said It!!!
Sometimes you just can't, and people should stop trying to make women who don't feel bad about it. All that matters is you love your children, and take good care of them. Never let anyone else make you feel guilty because you don't do the same thing as them.
Just love your kids and do your best, that's all!!!

 

[BarkerChickens]

Quote:
If we do decide to adopt someday (I have a genetic auto-immune disease that I refuse to pass on), we intend to use cloth diapers, make our own baby food, etc as well. It is SO much healthier for the baby and their developing immune systems. I won't be able to breast feed obviously (though I have heard of hormone therapy that causes the body to produce breast milk without the pregnancy...not sure how true it is). I'm just not sure that we will ever adopt though (and if we do, it may not be an infant since the older ones are harder to find families for). DH is going to be 40 this year, so time is running out.

 

[MysticScorpio82]

Quote:

Thank you. I was hoping to wait another year before trying again, but sometimes the best things in life are suprises. I am due on the 12th of November, though I keep hoping it comes on or before my due date because my birthday is November 17th lol.

And I agree, babies are a blessing! Each one is precious. Good luck on having another one!

 

[quail newbie]

Quote:
You said it, I too felt the wrath of ddawn

My son was breast fed for almost two years, we also froze milk to give to him when he gets sick and he is a very healthy boy. I loved my boobie pillow! My sister in law didn't have milk and their baby started to lose weight and had to be given formula. She felt tremendous guilt about not being able to do something that was supposed to come so naturally, especially knowing the how much better it was for their daughter. It is and should be a personal choice. There may be more to the situation than what you see.

 

[19Dawn76]

Quote:
You said it, I too felt the wrath of ddawn

My son was breast fed for almost two years, we also froze milk to give to him when he gets sick and he is a very healthy boy. I loved my boobie pillow! My sister in law didn't have milk and their baby started to lose weight and had to be given formula. She felt tremendous guilt about not being able to do something that was supposed to come so naturally, especially knowing the how much better it was for their daughter. It is and should be a personal choice. There may be more to the situation than what you see.

I'm glad someone is responding in a mature way. My smart mouth always gets the best of me. No one told her to suck it up when she said she should of never had kids.

 

[astylishgirl]

I have two adorable teen daughters who seem to be very healthy. I hated breast feeding. HATED it. I did try with the first and I have never felt such pain and I was so stressed out, I cried every day. Switched to bottle and it was AWESOME. Had my baby in the hospital and was absolutely thrilled to have my epi. Brought her home and used huggies. We had a great stroller and I used a sling just a little... but not much. Also used a baby swing.

Guess what y'all. There aint no right way. Have kids... don't have kids. Your choice. But let's support each other rather than point fingers. We are all people! We all love our kids! (or know that we are better off without them!)

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I have five children (someone get the O2 out for ddawn, and put a pillow under her head, please!

ddawn, I'm teasing you!) and I am so glad I have them. They are such a joy!

I realize parenting isn't for everyone, some people should and some shouldn't, but it's a personal choice for each of us.

I don't care what it did to my body, the end result was worth it!

I have these five, beautiful pieces of my husband that are just so precious!!! They are the living beauty of our love, and they are our legacy to this earth. I wouldn't change it. None of it.

Ok, I'd change the labor experience a bit...and some of the OB nurses I had were just NOT understanding at all....hmm....

LOVED breast feeding. Not everyone can/should breastfeed, which is personal choice, or might be medically impossible. Still, no one else's business if you do or don't. Your baby, your choice on how to feed. (Considering we have the unfortunate freedom to choose whether or not we even carry our baby to term, I don't know why anyone would think they have the right to say you have to breastfed.)