Help Me! I'm STUCK in OB!!!

[Judy]

I dearly love my son; he is a treasure. Sheer luck, actually. However... I had no business having a child.

If you have any doubt at all about having kids, for whatever reason, DO NOT let anyone influence you otherwise. Especially if your doubts are about the delivery, and what pregnancy, etc. does to the body. These are nothing compared to what lies ahead.

A child changes your entire life, until you die. They do not stop being your child because they turn 18 and you can tell them to fend for themselves.

IMHO, about half the people on this planet who think they want kids should not have any.

 

[19Dawn76]

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I had doubts. My whole life. Until I was 30 years old and held my son in my arms for the first time.

 

[Judy]

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I babysat once, when I was about 12. Decided then I would never have kids. Never reconsidered til I was 30 and looking at being too old. Changed my mind and had my son at 32; got married (2nd marriage) so my child would not be called a "jerk." He is 33 now, so obviously that was a different social climate.

Of course we are going to feel this bond, if we are halfway normal. I already said my son is a treasure. To experience this is not a good reason to have a child, though, IMHO.

Huh, on the "jerk," this was automatically edited. I was referring to his being called an illegitimate child.

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

There may come a day when I decide to have a child of my own. But alas, after 12 hours of this business, it's not going to be any time soon!

 

[ems_chick]

we've been fighting a drunk that got tasered... i'll take that any night over anything OB related

7 more hours to go then this 24 is over

 

[saddina]

Make sure you ask who wanted to room with thier little ones, then with luck all you'll need to do there is help them position for nursing.

Then again, first thing I did when both boys were born, was demand my son (both were c-sections and they wanted to bottle feed them while I napped), ask to be handed a boppy and diapers within reach, and to be brought my meals.

 

[Judy]

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If you do, just please be sure it is about the lifelong change, and not just about labor and delivery, please. They are nothing, really, no matter what they entail. That surge when you see the newborn wipes labor and delivery out, but does not change what you are up against.

It is not about labor and delivery and bodily changes. It is about a lifelong commitment. You will barely recall the labor/delivery hassles within about two months, regardless of how bad they were, but you will NEVER escape the rest.

 

[BorderKelpie]

OOOOH! I'm not the only one working the ED lab tonight! Yeah!
And yes, I've been calling critical ETOH levels for hours now. Not fair, when do I get to have a critical ETOH level of my own......
Careflight made 2 back to back deliveries already (gee, thanks guys, could you run them through the carwash, first? yech!) lol

 

[BarkerChickens]

I dearly love my son; he is a treasure. Sheer luck, actually. However... I had no business having a child.

If you have any doubt at all about having kids, for whatever reason, DO NOT let anyone influence you otherwise. Especially if your doubts are about the delivery, and what pregnancy, etc. does to the body. These are nothing compared to what lies ahead.

A child changes your entire life, until you die. They do not stop being your child because they turn 18 and you can tell them to fend for themselves.

IMHO, about half the people on this planet who think they want kids should not have any.

I agree!

My sister went to school to become a nurse specifically for neo-natal. She loves it! She says she still gets emotional every time she helps with a delivery. Some people are made for it...others (like me!) are not.

I, however, opted to become a geologist...without children. I love babies and want to hold them if they are around me. I don't mind the feeding, changing, etc. The idea of pregnancy and delivery doesn't bother me. I don't mind the idea of being a mother either. I don't want to raise a kid in today's society (they get mouthy and know too much at elementary age...let alone the teen years!)!! (Well, that and I refuse to pass on my family's genes!) DH and I enjoy being the Aunt and Uncle that the nieces and nephew like and that family can bring the kids to for the weekend. Nothing is better than spending time with adorable children...and sending them back home!

Maybe we'll change our minds and adopt someday.

Have fun in the OB tonight!

 

[Judy]

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What the heck is a boppy? And why on earth would one need help with position for nursing?

I haven't worked in labor and delivery for a lot of years, but I did a bunch of it in the 70's. I was always horrified at how unnatural the protocols were, like glucose water for 24 hours, and no nursing or even formula for 24 hours. Most of those moms did not even consider nursing, it was straight to the bottle, as if formula manufacturers could reproduce what babies needed.... My experience since then has been mostly with old folks, not babies. It does not sound like they have changed a whole lot with babies. How awful.

I am horrified that we have not moved to natural care, like nurse them when they are born, room in the child, etc. Breast feeding was not even in vogue at the time mine was born, but I know this is no longer the case.

I believe I would deliver at home at this point, if that is how it is.