How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
Raising Your Spirited Child Rev Ed: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Your Four-Year-Old: Wild and Wonderful orYour Five Year Old: Sunny and Serene or Your Six-Year-Old: Loving and Defiant by Louise Bates Ames--check them out and find the one that most closely matches your child's temperament--kids develop to a certain extent on their own timetable, which can be 6 months or more ahead or behind the "average" schedule.
One thing to note is that defiance and obstanance can be good things--you would not want a child who would let himself or herself be bullied or talked into doing bad things. You want a child who has a strong sense of right and wrong. The important point is learning how to channel these traits into positive growth rather than letting him become a self-centered brat who cares nothing about those around him.
A child should not be THE center of attention for a family; the FAMILY as a whole needs to be the center. Certainly the needs of one member override the needs of others all the time, but by and large it should balance between all the members. It is usually easier to correct behavior earlier rather than later.
Raising Your Spirited Child Rev Ed: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Your Four-Year-Old: Wild and Wonderful orYour Five Year Old: Sunny and Serene or Your Six-Year-Old: Loving and Defiant by Louise Bates Ames--check them out and find the one that most closely matches your child's temperament--kids develop to a certain extent on their own timetable, which can be 6 months or more ahead or behind the "average" schedule.
One thing to note is that defiance and obstanance can be good things--you would not want a child who would let himself or herself be bullied or talked into doing bad things. You want a child who has a strong sense of right and wrong. The important point is learning how to channel these traits into positive growth rather than letting him become a self-centered brat who cares nothing about those around him.
A child should not be THE center of attention for a family; the FAMILY as a whole needs to be the center. Certainly the needs of one member override the needs of others all the time, but by and large it should balance between all the members. It is usually easier to correct behavior earlier rather than later.
