House Divided by Religion

[StrawberryHouseMouse]

Well after my last post I called the friend's cell phone that he was suppose to be out with and got no answer. So I called Angie the woman who's house they go to for service. She has the phone numbers of everyone that attends at her house. So I told her the situation and asked her if she could find him for me since she knew everyone's numbers. I got a call a few minutes later from the same guy who I tried calling before her. It was my hubby on the phone so he is with that guy and his wife. He said he is on his way home. They don't live that far away so I doubt it should take long for him to get here. I plan on setting down with him when he gets home and interrogating lol

 

[redhen]

Good luck.

 

[PaulaJoAnne]

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We will pray that you will be able to gently shake his world to allow him to see where he is heading.

 

[Tala]

Did any one else get the "creep alert" when I put together that the husband was taking the daughters to a meeting where they don't think much of women, stay out ALL night long, and now the daughters are having nightmares and refusing to go anymore?

Something just SCREAMS child abuse to me!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Wifezilla]

A husband and father does not up and forsake his family like this, even for church stuff. Its not natural, nor is it Biblical.

I wonder if he forgot the "Let no man put asunder" part of the marriage ceremony?​

 

[maryk117]

1. When I read your original post something screamed...CULT with capital letters.
2. When you said he stays out all night something screamed...FEMALE counterpart.
3. When you said that "female friend" was in the back of your mind something screamed...listen to your intuition woman!!

Honestly, I think your initial post was a cry to get this forum to help you summon up the courage to do what you must...you must put your foot down and if that means it lands out your front door with your kids and your bags, then I don't think anyone here would judge you harshly for it.

I had a husband who was manipulative and charming to boot. I felt like he wanted me to think what he thought (politically, religiously, racially, sexually...), like what he liked and of course raise our children in his faith, which was not at all like your husband's, but it was the fact there was no discussion. He made rules and when they did not suit him any longer he changed them. Sorry to say the arguments escalated into hands on and I was never really beaten, but it does something to you mentally to have someone put their hands on you in anger. We sought counseling, together and apart, but in the end he was not willing to change and I could not keep choking my personality and spirit down. I ended up moving on (with 2 children) and 10 years later I have never looked back. My current husband and I have totally different religions, and we agree to disagree. My two husbands could not be anymore opposite and I could not be happier!

Well, I digress, this wasn't supposed to be about me, but about you. You may need to kick him out/leave just to have a break and/or make him realize what he has lost or could lose and to realize you are serious! Perhaps he doesn't care, but that is a tragedy in and of itself. Know that it is not you! It sounds like you have done quite a bit to bend. Someone said midlife crisis, which I believe is insecurity and though he is only 26 he sounds insecure and that is what alternate (cult) religions prey on.

Best of luck to you and I'll keep reading to see how this turns out.

 

[daraae921]

All religion aside, a relationship just doesn't work if one person randomly decides to change everything about who the are. If you are unwilling to accept this new life, it seems to me that an ultimatum is in order. He is young. People change, I get that but when you are in a relationship you aren't just making decisions for yourself anymore. It's selfish and immature for him to expect you to just change your life just like that. If that's what he thinks a marriage is, this kind of situation will come up again. I hope you guys work this out.
I am so sorry for what you are going through.

 

[StrawberryHouseMouse]

Still waiting for him. He called me again and asked if I was hungry. He knows he's in deep doo doo. He should of thought to ask if I had anything to eat all day instead of waiting to ask till after 8pm. Its things like this that make me mad.

 

[DuckLady]

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and who else?

My first husband's friends covered for him.

 

[Funky Feathers]

I would put 100 (or more) miles between {me, the kids, pets & bags} and {him and his cult}. Seriously. Right now, before he gets home. Find a new man with at least a little sanity this time. You & the kids need to get far away from this nut-job!!