How About a Break? Is it too much to ask??

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by rodriguezpoultry, May 10, 2009.

  1. rodriguezpoultry

    rodriguezpoultry Langshan Lover

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    Today is Mother's Day.

    I hate it.

    I lost my mom 2 years ago and now my dad is going through the same thing. His mom, my grandma, died only a month ago. Last night I went to the store and got memorial flowers for my mom, roses for my grandma and a card for my granmda and my boyfriend's mom.

    That hurt. Imagine your heart being ripped apart realizing you can't give the stuff to your mom other than lay it on her grave? Oh...and you have to keep your composure because you're having to walk to the front of the Wal-Mart store to do it.

    And now the kicker. My 12 year old rooster Mr. Mom died today. He was taking his last breaths in the pen and one of the other birds was pecking on him. We moved him into the green grass next to the pen where he could hear the baby chicks chirping. He loved baby chicks.

    So how much more ironic can one day get?
     
  2. lockedhearts

    lockedhearts It's All About Chicken Math

    Apr 29, 2007
    Georgia
    My Dad's birthday back on 2002 was the same way.
    I lost my son and my Grandmother (my dad's mother) had a stroke the same day. Daddy didn't celebrate his birthday for a couple years after that.

    Today hurts me too, I wonder how different it would be had Evan lived.

    You will get through this, I try to remember the good things on times like these.
     
  3. Chicken Fruit

    Chicken Fruit Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 25, 2009
    Echo Homestead
    Mom's devote their lives to us so we'll know how to devote our own lives to the next generation. Its ourselves we feel sorry for when we lose them.

    I've lost a lot of people, but not my mother- so maybe I dont know what I am talking about. But I have witnessed women who have lost their mothers and then wasted away doing nothing with their lives except thinking of the good old days, and pining away after their mom who's not there to guide them anymore. Does that mom no service, she might as well have never be a mother to begin with.

    Sorrow is sorrow. On days like this is hard not to let your mind wander there, but finding ways to honor the time and teachings your mom put into you is the best way to heal that hurt in yourself, and to give her praise where ever she is.

    Our moms make us who we are, its best to go out there and practice all those things they taught us to do- so those skills are not only honed but passed on to those around us.

    When my mom dies I am sure it will crush the air out of my lungs, but I refuse to act like death will have won, or taken something from me. Our time apart will only be temporary, we're forever.

    Hope you feel better. Sorry about your chicken!
     
  4. Lorettawyandotte

    Lorettawyandotte Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I find that cherishing the good memories, sharing the special moments with those who are no longer with us with those who are to be very cathartic...my parents are gone and my brother died two years ago...we three sisters get together and share stories and laugh, celebrating the lives of those we have lost...I thnk it helps an aching heart to do these things...
     
  5. I have WHAT in my yard?

    I have WHAT in my yard? Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 24, 2008
    Eggberg, PA
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    So sorry, sweetie. I lost both of my parents almost 15 years ago. You never stop missing them, you just learn to live in honor of them.
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  6. mmtillman

    mmtillman Chillin' With My Peeps

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    So sorry, sweetie. I lost both of my parents almost 15 years ago. You never stop missing them, you just learn to live in honor of them.
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    I agree....MAY God bless you today...[​IMG]
     
  7. gritsar

    gritsar Cows, Chooks & Impys - OH MY!

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    Oh M, I am so very sorry. I hurt with you. I know how much you loved that roo.
    Sooner or later, between the two of us, we are going to get you a Mr. (Thor) Mom to watch over your chicks. [​IMG]
     
  8. Sissy

    Sissy Chillin' With My Peeps

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    yes mothers day is hard for all of us that have lost our moms. this one was a specially tough.
    for me. its the first with out mom
    my mom left us march 20
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    8 months before my younger sister suddenly.
    and a year before We lost our only son.
    after a heatbreaking tough fight against
    cancer.God Bless..to all that are hurting.
     

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