How could he do this to me?!?!

[WriterofWords]

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yep that sounds like me. i plan on moving out right away and telling my dad i'm never coming back. thankfully, my parents are seeing lawyers now so he will be gone. when he leaves, i'll make sure to tell him he will never see me again. i'd like it that way.

No matter how mad or upset you are, NEVER say anything you might regret no matter how far down the road.

 

[dustysangel]

Never say never. If you have a job of your own or get allowance save it and get you an incubator. Make sure it is ok with Mom first. Talk to Dad about it too but keep a calm voice. You sound like a young adult respond to him like a responsible adult and keep your word. If you tell them you are going to do something then do it, use that with everyone.

 

[Ugly Cowboy]

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This is excellent advice. I've said stuff to folks years and years ago that I almost get sick thinkin about now...

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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i have over $600, i've been saving up for awhile! next year i can legally get a job and i can't wait. i've wanted a job since i was 7. i'll talk to my mom because she was excited to do it! one of the people that was going to take our (hatched) ducks backed out. he said they were too big, but there are plenty of people that want ducks! i was going to make my own incubator that would end up costing around $20 so thats no problem. my mom said by next week we should have the eggs in there, but she doesn't know that he said no yet.

 

[Junkmanme]

I had a teenage daughter (1 of 3 daughters) who could never see any point of view except her own. She is now 33 years old and has made many mistakes in her life. She still blames everyone else for her miseries. I quit expecting her to grow up.

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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i tend to act without thinking sometimes and then after i think about it, i feel horrible. i can and will see other points of view. i will at least listen to another person's side and then decide which is better for me. i tend to blame myself too much when things go wrong. if i was attacked by a criminal, i'd probably find some way to blame it on myself. like "i left the door unlocked," or whatever. there's always something for me to find. haha

 

[FrChuckW]

Let go of your resentment towards your dad. As you have already stated, he will be gone soon. You need to have a sit down with both parents present and calmly ask your questions regarding the project, their permission was originally given and is now being withdrawn by one parent.

The Divorce is between your parents, and not all adults handle it correctly, fairly or even politely. They are often reacting out of hurt and anger themsleves, and thoughtlessly say and do things to others around them. You are not at fault for his behavior.

I am sorry that you and your sister have to go through this, but realize that you are not to blame for this situation.

 

[patyrdz]

I know this is hard for you and you are angry with your Dad, but maybe he doesn't want to start something he can't finish. Only he knows the real reason why. Talk to your Dad like the other person posted, that was good advise. I was going to tell you to go to your mom, but I don't know if that would cause more problems with them, and it sounds like they already have problems in their marriage. But honestly maybe your dad doesn't know how bad this hurt you, men are like that sometimes, some are not as "intune" in a relationship (any relationship) as we are! They really do not think like us! REALLY

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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yeah i know its not my fault. i learned that pretty quickly one night. there was a huge fight and my mom wasn't home and he just attacked me and my sister. not physically though, although i wish he had. i'd have him arrested. anyways, i would always shrink inside myself and cry whenever he yelled, but this time, i stood up for myself. he was saying that "i bugged the s*** out of him because i was always making problems" my sister was nice enough to point out that he just flips out on me more. apparently i resemble my mom a lot....getting back to the subject. i stood up off the couch, looked him straight in the eye, and in a matter of fact tone said "i hate you." he flipped out. he continued yelling then asked me what i thought. i said "i think i hate you." he told me to leave at that, i tried to leave the house. he then went upstairs with my 5 year old brother and came back down and got me and my sister in the kitchen. in the tone of voice like he was still yelling at us, he said sorry. my sister said okay. not me. i once again got right in his face and said "your apology means nothing to me." he flipped out once again. he went upstairs and i was able to sneak out of the house. i walked three miles to my mom's work. i was terrified of him. he still blames me for leaving saying it was "disrespectful. he had told me not to leave and i had disrespected him." this happened before christmas. he is still holding to that it was disrespectful. sorry daddy that it was disrespectful to leave because i was so afraid of you. he had threatened to throw me against the wall and when i finally lost my nerve when he went upstairs, i was standing there shaking. my legs couldn't hold me up anymore. well, yep. thats pretty much why i don't like him.

 

[morelcabin]

As a teenager I had alot of issues with my dad too, he was just plain mean as far as I was concerned. After all, he was the one that always made sure I respected my mother and followed the rules. I hated him!
But you now as I got older I learned that he was there...always. If I ever got myself in a jam he was there...he didn't give me everything I wanted, but he made sure I learned to be the responsible person I am today.
I never had to deal with divorce though, or play between two adults, so I an't comment there except to again say that I am sure they both love you very much. They are having a struggle with each other. That is not your fault at all.