How could he do this to me?!?!

[Junkmanme]

tend to act without thinking sometimes and then after i think about it, i feel horrible. i can and will see other points of view. i will at least listen to another person's side and then decide which is better for me. i tend to blame myself too much when things go wrong. if i was attacked by a criminal, i'd probably find some way to blame it on myself. like "i left the door unlocked," or whatever. there's always something for me to find. haha

That is a GOOD Attitude! On one of my business cards, years past, I quoted an old Czechoslovakian proverb:

"Trouble comes in through a door that was left open for it".

We can NEVER anticipate what "apparent" difficulties we may encounter in our short lives.....However.....we can make the MOST of our lives by honest effort.

A BIG PART of "honest effort" is cultivating the "empathy" to try to understand other people's difficulties, regardless of how it may impact us (as far as UNDERSTANDING is concerned).

WITH the "tool" of empathy, we can work together to improve everyone's condition. (BUT, it takes EVERYONE'S co-operation and empathetic LISTENING.......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................what do you hear about other people's worries????............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................Listen quietly...and learn to HELP YOURSELF by helping us ALL.............

MY APOLOGIES................

I sometimes care TOO MUCH.

Keep your HEAD about you and you'll be FINE!!!

Best Regards,
Ole Junkmanme
P.S.

HAVE a PLEASANT evening!

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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that made me smile so much! thank you!! i love those really wise quotes, while some may dismiss them, if you think about, they've got a point. like Confucius, i love all of his quotes. they are so amazing.

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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my dad has made me stronger. i was always so weak, people would walk right over me and i was never able to say anything about it. turns out i had social anxiety disorder which i'm being treated for, but ever since things have gotten really bad, i've gotten so much stronger. people don't walk all over me anymore, they know not too, because i'll fight back. i have won against the meanest girls out there which i would never have been able to do before.

thinking about what my dad has helping me with, he is the one that makes me blame everything on myself. i had a boyfriend break up with me because my "friend" convinced him to because she wanted to see me cry. too bad for her, i didn't cry. but when i got home and told my parents, my dad said it was my fault. that i had created this problem. he layed every problem i ever had on my shoulders. always. thanks pops.

 

[Junkmanme]

I AM SURE that everything (overall) will work out just FINE for YOU.

Keep your chin up (yet protected) and KEEP SMILING!!!!!

.......AND ......listening.............................

(THEN.......make up your own mind.)

BEST REGARDS,
junkmanme

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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you seem like an awesome person. you should write a book or something about life and how to make it better. bet it would be an awesome book. thanks for the advice, i'll truly take it to heart. i'm always trying to improve what i can, what i can't improve is just part of me. a part of me that makes me me

 

[morelcabin]

Don't let your heart get hard, that is not the answer for anyone, and it isn't healthy either. One day you will find out who YOU are and you will get comfortable wth yourself. Until then don't let yourself get hard, it isn't worth it. That is where the guilt comes in. When you keep your heart soft other people mght hurt you but you will be confidant in the fact that you were not the cause

 

[Junkmanme]

GOOD WORDS

from "MorelCabin"............

 

[Blackbird]

Everyone that said you need to respect your parents is right, without respect people will get no where.

But.. I really don't think thats the issue in this situation. DuckCrew doesn't seem like shes purposely trying to get on her father's nerves OR an angry high matinence wannabe daughter that didn't get something she wanted.

Seriously, who's the parent and who's the child?
I've been in that situation far too many times so I understand exactly how it is.

It seems that the parents are divorcing for a reason, and that seems to be good...

I'd get both parents there at the same time, and tell your mom that your dad no longer says you can hatch the eggs, and if your mom still says it is ok, then tell your dad that you will be hatching the eggs no matter.. You are the one taking care of the ducks right?
I think its safe to assume who cares more and does more as a parent, and I'd listen to that person. I always used to tell my dad "I'll start respecting you when you start acting like a parent." and if what you said about him is really true, then he isn't acting like a parent. Even if they are getting a divorce there is no excuse for his behavior.

This isn't an stab all parents post, just seems that someone like that really shouldn't be having a family right now, until they get their priorities right...

 

[TheDuckCrew]

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thank you! i try to be good and not bug him, but no matter what, i always do something wrong.

i am the only one that takes care of the ducks, unless there is something big that needs to be moved, then i need help. i built them a new pen, a food station, and a "shade box" so far this weekend. cutting all the wood with a hand saw. my arm muscles are getting pretty strong!

but tomorrow (my mom is working tonight) i will ask to talk to the both of them and figure this all out. they both agree that we need more girls (3 drakes, one hen) and that hatching would be a nice way to do it.

thanks for all the help, support, and advice.

i do NOT think that all parents are bad, but for one thing, respect is earned, which means it can be lost. if my dad would act a little more like a dad and listen to other peoples views (yep yep!!) then i would respect him. but he always thinks he's right and everyone else is wrong, which is no way to be, as stated before.

 

[Blackbird]