How do I find out who adopted him?

[NoseyChickens]

I know it is hard to have to give up a dog this way. We had to rehome one of ours that was killing our chickens as well. We were lucky to place him with a non chicken family that we know. I am from North Edwards as well. APET is an incredibly small shelter run by mostly volunteers. They do not update their site often. I think it would be better to let go as well. They will not give out personal information on who adopted the dog. Even if you found out, chances are highly unlikely his new family would allow you to visit. I think you need to let go. Be happy has a family and your chickens are safe.

 

[welsummerchicks]

Once my sister was visiting with her kids. I was quite young at the time, and I was quite honestly shocked when she left and her kids didn't seem to be all broken up about leaving auntie.

My sister set me right. 'Would you be happier if they wailed and cried and refused to eat after we left? If they suffered?'

It set me back on my heels. We have no right to make anyone's happiness, not man nor beast, so dependent on us.

 

[RoeDylanda]

In my area no-kill shelters usually place the animals in even better situations than standard shelters, because there's not a time limit pressuring them to just get the animals out of there. It's sad that you had to give up your dog, and it may be that you're carrying some guilt around about what happened, but part of loving animals is knowing that, one way or another, one day you're going to have to let them go.

Growing up has great parts and rotten parts. They all combine to make you into the person you're going to become. I'm sorry this part is so hard, but Grizzly Bear deserves to be with a family where he won't get in trouble. I hope you can find a way to take comfort in thinking of him with a family who adores him all the time.

 

[Bunnylady]

I know it's hard, but what you need to do is let Griz go, and get on with your life. Killing things is a very normal thing for a dog to do, even a very sweet family pet (those doxies would probably do it too, if they got a chance, but it sounds like you know this). Once a dog has learned to entertain himself that way, he will keep looking for opportunities to play that game again. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I'm stupid enough to continue to own a couple of dogs that have repeatedly broken in to my rabbitry; every time they do, they manage to drag rabbits out of their cages and kill them. They are constantly looking for ways to get out of their pen; I have to stay one step ahead of them to keep them from getting out and getting in, because every time they do, something dies (usually several somethings, including some of my kids' favorite bunnies).

It's rotten that you had to give up your dog over this, but life gets that way sometimes. You and Griz are lucky to have had a no-kill shelter that would take him. The shelters around here won't touch a dog that has killed anything. Griz is still alive, but he needs to be dead to you. Be glad of the good times you had together, and accept that he is a chapter in your life that has ended.

 

[SillyChicken]

Tough as it is to give him up, you have to let him go. Enjoy the time you had with him. It's not fair to your boy or to his new family if you try to keep contact with him. I understand you're suffering the loss of your boy and thats ok, it'll get better with time.

You also better get used to being denied, turned down, and told no and disappointed... you're going to get alot of it as you grow up! It's a part of life we all have to deal with, none of us like it, but it's what will seperate you from a decent person and a spoiled brat! How that turns out for you is up to you!

 

[acid_chipmunk]

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I was trying to think of a way to say the same thing.

OP, I may be wrong about this, and don't mean any harm, but if you have a fear of being denied something, sounds to me like your family doesn't deny you anything. I am an only child and an only grandchild. My family got me pretty much everything that I wanted, however, they did know that it was good for me to be denied things, that way I didn't become a spoiled brat and think that I deserved to have everything that I wanted. I have, in turn, used this on my own children.

I am sorry you had to give up your dog, but you need to let him go.

Also, you should never be afraid to ask to go to the bathroom at school. Doing this, when you really have to go, can cause some major health problems. If you ask and the teacher says no and you really can't wait, just get up and go. I don't know any teacher or principal that is going to punish you for that.

 

[SillyChicken]

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I was trying to think of a way to say the same thing.

OP, I may be wrong about this, and don't mean any harm, but if you have a fear of being denied something, sounds to me like your family doesn't deny you anything. I am an only child and an only grandchild. My family got me pretty much everything that I wanted, however, they did know that it was good for me to be denied things, that way I didn't become a spoiled brat and think that I deserved to have everything that I wanted. I have, in turn, used this on my own children.

I am sorry you had to give up your dog, but you need to let him go.

Also, you should never be afraid to ask to go to the bathroom at school. Doing this, when you really have to go, can cause some major health problems. If you ask and the teacher says no and you really can't wait, just get up and go. I don't know any teacher or principal that is going to punish you for that.

Actually, if you're a girl, the teachers cannot really deny you to use the facilities because of that monthly friend of ours. Although you should use your time wisely and make a pit stop between classes so you don't have to worry about it.

 

[Moochie]

Thanks everyone... I know I have to let go but I know I will never forget him also. I do want him to be happy. It'll be hard just give me time...
My parents do deny me of things. I don't think it has to do with my social anxiety so I don't know why I have it. Maybe the awkwardness, like if..... I think it started in 5th grade, my evil teacher wouldn't let kids use the bathroom. He said only 2 times a quarter. He also used to keep me in during half of lunch. Mr. Kerr would have our class run around the entire playground and blacktop, I think it was to run a mile. Anyways he expected us to run the whole thing, which Tera and I couldn't. I think he assumed we were lazy so he'd keep us in during lunch. I remember Tera, Stefanie, and I always complaining that he can't keep us in during lunch for some reason I forgot. When I told my parents that it was happening nearly everyday my parents raised hell with him. Mr. Kerr tried reasoning with my mom and touched her shoulder (to get her attention), and she yelled at him "don't touch me". That had to be the best memory ever
I remember another teacher trying to help Mr. Kerr out by talking to my parents but my dad said "no only my daughter's teacher, this is none of your business". After that he stopped keeping me in and Tera in. At the end of the year he got fired! Yay! But since then I haven't been as outgoing as I was...
Anyways my parents always deny me of stuffed animals because I used to ask to buy a stuffie alot, I don't do it as often but deep down inside I urge to ask my mom.
I'm still keeping the pictures of him though -__-

 

[Moochie]

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Did you draw that? Can I post it on my Facebook?

 

[SillyChicken]

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Did you draw that? Can I post it on my Facebook?

yes I did, yes you may. pm your email and I'll send the file. It was just a quick sketch.....I did it for you cause I know it hurts to lose a dog. You never have to let go of your memories and whats in your heart!

If your parents and other people of authority didn't "deny" you things........ well, frankly you'd be a big spoiled brat, and grow up into a really selfish, spoiled adult. Being denied things, help you to learn the difference between wants and needs, it'll make life much easier for you if you don't just get what ever you want, not just with material things, but time, attention etc... Cause there will be times in your life when you may not have much, and you'll appreciate what you do have more than if everything was just handed to you.

It'll help you to be a better person.