How do I get myself into these things?!

[kargo]

Okay, so I got dragged into being in the school play. (https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=353381)

NOW my friends' parents are trying to convince me to sing at their new restraunt to attract customers! Ugh, I'm already freaking out so much over the acting thing.... this is just crazy! I feel like I'm going to turn right into my friend M!

This year I'm taking two Honors classes. Could possibly end up taking BOTH Choir and Drama! Then, I'll be auditioning for the school play. Oh, boy, do I have a lot ahead of me! Why is it that so many people think I'm talented at just about everything?

 

[PineappleMama]

Well, I suppose it's better (for your ego) that everyone thinking you suck at everything...

But still, I'm horrible about not being able to say no so I feel your pain... I'd have to pump myself up to tell them "No, with *list all classes, obligations, after school stuff* that I'm already committed to I just don't have time... perhaps an email so they can't interrupt the recitation? I much prefer email... so much harder to say no in person...

That'd be less painful then getting so overbooked with things that you botch your honors class or end up forgetting something and then having to apologize for blowing someone off.

 

[DuckLady]

Not long ago you were going on about being shy. It seems you are coming out of that and moving forward.

Nothing to dramatize, I think.

 

[kargo]

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Not exactly. I'm still shy. I think people are just attempting to make me come out of it by telling me to do all these things. Believe me, I am still freaking out just as much about doing any and all of these things. Except for taking Honors English. That I know I can handle.

 

[DuckLady]

Then say no.

End of anxiety.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Or tell them you'd rather wait and see how you do in the play first, then maybe you'll consider singing at the restaurant. If singing or acting is something you might want to consider pursuing in college, I would not necessarily turn down the offer to sing at a restaurant! It would be a great resume booster, even if you are only in high school.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Not exactly. I'm still shy. I think people are just attempting to make me come out of it by telling me to do all these things. Believe me, I am still freaking out just as much about doing any and all of these things. Except for taking Honors English. That I know I can handle.

On one hand the only way to get over the shy is to get out there and try new things such as the opportunities you have been presented with. IF they are things you would enjoy. On the other hand, if you are more comfortable remaining shy, then by all means, you have made no commitments, just say no. Decide what YOU want, don't put too much emphasis on pleasing others...sounds like that is where you are currently...worrying about pleasing other folks instead of yourself. Sometimes that realization helps you decide whether that is something YOU really want to do, or if you feel shoved into it just for the sake of making everyone else happy. Do it for YOUR happiness, not for others happiness, and I promise, they'll live on if you decide not to.