How do I mend a broken heart?/ Im cured!

[Buff Hooligans]

Bantymum, just think this: "Am I better off with him or without him?" And what are your goals for the future?

Hope your heart continues to heal without too much interference. Take care.

 

[bantymum]

Hi all, thankyou again for helping me pick myself up from the floor.
Craig has been texting me everyday hoping to meet up.
Im in a hopeless situation here. Ill try and explain without losing you all, youll probably think why is she tellling us this.

Ed is my son's dad, we live together though separately, we arent a couple in the strict sense though he loves me heaps.
Theres no spark after 17 years however he is a good man, (when he is sober)
Craig worked in a place next to my work 2 years ago, we forged a hilarious friendship with lots of joking and trivial laughter.
Craig gives me something that Ed doesnt have.
Then Craig left the place to get another job, we exchanged cell ph numbers. we kept in touch by sending funny messgages, nothing sinister. I didnt see him for months.
Then one fateful night i was out with the girls and there he was, he bought me drinks and somehow we become closer.
I fell in some sort of weird love/lust, i dunno.
The text messgaes stopped for 3 weeks, then i fell in a heap as you know.
Now just as i got myself back together again, he is back more than ever trying to meet up.
Craig also had a live in partner however they were on the rocks when he started to contact me, now I think she has moved on so he is alone , I think, he lives just around the corner from me
So here I am with 2 men in my heart.
Am I allowed to have 2 in my heart, or am i being greedy.
My heart has lots of room in it!!
We can have several Girl friends who provide different ways of interaction with us, so i ask myself, why cant i have 2 male friends!!
Life is complicated sometimes but i think I will just go along on this ride and live from day to day!
so there it is in a giant nutshell!!

 

[Farmer Kitty]

All I can say is

. You are in a hard place and need to ask yourself if it is really worth it to get back with Craig. There are other men out there maybe one who will appreciate you and not leave. Have you considered that if the other gal has left her maybe feeling out and that is why he has started contacting you again? Don't be his second choice you deserve much more than that!

 

[bantymum]

Thanks sweety, Yes, i am being strong, He was contacting me before she left and once said to me" now all i need is someone to share it with" meaning a new house that he is thinking of getting.
I feel that it was his decision for her to leave .
The one thing about Craig is that he doesnt divulge info easily, meaning he doesnt trust many people, he is a closed book, which is something that i enjoy trying to get into! I dont ask him curly questions.
I have never married.
I dont want to be tamed, i think I must be wild!!!

 

[Farmer Kitty]

If he doesn't share info with you and you have to play the question game, maybe he doesn't trust you?

As for never having been married, not always a bad thing, but maybe you just haven't found someone you want to share your life with to that extent either. Which would rule Craig out.

 

[PurpleChicken]

 

[bantymum]

True,
I'm one very confused gal right now, but im not going to try and psychoanalyse anything, im just going to enjoy the sunshine and when the night rolls in, ill think again!!

 

[debilorrah]

You are allowed two men in your heart. But your mind needs to choose one or the other. To be with both is not fair to either of them or you. It is hard.... been there. thank God, I made the right choice. You just have to do some soul searching until you KNOW.

 

[KrisRose]

Go with your heart. If it gets broken then pick your silly a$$ up off the floor and come to BYC for some hugs. If you don't try you will always wonder "what if".
Also- about being greedy- if I lived in OZ than yes-two men would be greedy, but I don't so grab as many as you like

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[Buff Hooligans]

Quote:
This is the most wrenching question you can have if you are in a committed relationship.
As soon as I have the answer, I'll let you know.