How do I word it? Continuing saga of evil lil SD#2

[Rozzie]

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[easttxchick]

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We had BTs when I was growing up-that is the cutest picture. Gotta love those flat nosed dogs when they sleep-they could snore the paint off the walls.
Sorry for the hijack, Kat!

 

[gritsar]

It's okay Sheila. Cute pic, Birdaholic.

We aren't bailing her out. DH learned that lesson the hard way. As some of you already know from my past threads about her, we don't trust her in the house at all. After she was gone last night, DH noticed our medicine box (which used to have a lock on it, but we found the lock broken awhile back, hmmm) was not in its usual position. He asked me if I had moved it and I told him the truth, I hadn't. Too bad for her the narcotics are hidden in another place, not in the med. box.
I know she continued to hang around last night, hoping I would feed her supper as usual, but I didn't. After dealing with the heat, the animals and everything else, the last thing I wanted to do is feed someone that would leave her dirty plate on the table and expect me to clean up after her.
I'm walking a thin line here. DH and I have been together six years, but only married for one. This house was her grandparents and she's used to doing what she wants in it. I'm trying to change that, without upsetting DH or creating bad feelings with her older sister. It's been hard work building a relationship with DSD #1 (the older one). I can now honestly say that I love her like a daughter and we have a great relationship. For some reason unknown to me, #1 feels the need to always step in and fix what #2 has messed up. Added to that, in "real" life I am shy and very introverted. It's hard for me to stand up for me or mine.
I get the feeling that #2 is taking out on my dog what she'd like to do to me. Either that or she's jealous that her dad spent so much money buying me Kane in the first place.

Impy, can we postpone your visit until the holidays when it will be time for me to explain to #2 that I don't care if she has her time of the month, a headache, is tired or whatever, that she can't just get up from the holiday meals leaving all the cooking and cleaning to me and her sister? (Already working on a strategy for that one).

 

[Imp]

Impy, can we postpone your visit until the holidays when it will be time for me to explain to #2 that I don't care if she has her time of the month, a headache, is tired or whatever, that she can't just get up from the holiday meals leaving all the cooking and cleaning to me and her sister? (Already working on a strategy for that one).

Your wish is my command!

Impy​

 

[ScaredOfShadows]

Shes an adult yes? I dont know how old, I don't remember seeing it mentioned. I'm 22, and I have no issue telling someone off NOW

I don't like contraversy (sp) and what not, and I used to be VERY VERY shy, but I out grew it about age 14 15 - I got tired of being walked all over. I don't put with it, now I get even *evil grin* Too bad I don't live near you, I'd tell her like it is for ya

If you see her do it again - flat out that you will NOT tolerate YOUR dog being treated that way and you better not see her do it again. Talk to DH and discuss what to do about it - not just calling her on it. - discuss with him the option of HIM telling HER that neither dog is to be treated badly, and if she can't treat them EQUALLY then she shouldn't be coming over. If she's stealing medicines - you don't need her over in your house anyway. Or if you know she took something next time call he police - its called TOUGH LOVE. At the early 20's age I believe tough love is a must for some people, my ex and DD's daddy is 26 and an only child and coddled by his parents. He's got the maturity of a 12 yr old and while he doesn't do anything illegal or 'bad' - he can't handle GROWN UP THINGS. he still lives at home and whines to his mother about EVERYTHING - and his mom B****es about it but allows it all.

to people like this - lol.

If your not very confrontational - write a note on your door when you expect her to come up - "(insert name here) When you open my door - you will treat my dog with equal respect and attention - if you can not do that - Goodbye." *snickers* she will atleast think about, at worse whine to your DH - and he can call her on it and deal with his DD.

But best thing to do is talk to DH about it, and discuss options and thoughts though make it a UNITED FRONT and not "Step mom vs. Stepdaughter" if your worried about upsetting DH or DSD.

Good luck!

 

[SarahBeth9394]

If you ever see her mistreat the dog again chew her out. Tell her you won't stand for anyone abusing animals. Also tell her she better be very happy you're biting her head off and learn the lesson because if she doesn't stop Jax will teach her not to and be the one biting. The other day my daughters friend came over. He picked up my cat and was bouncing him. The cat didn't like it and was meowing so I reached over and took the cat away from him. The next day he was over again and he picked up the cat and started bouncing. The cat meowed twice then boxed him with both front paws right in the face. Otherwise this kid is a good kid. Just a bit stupid at times. I can guarantee he won't do it again.

 

[chick4chicks]

I am sorry this is happening to you and Kane. It is not right and has to be stopped now. Talk to DH and with his help you can stop it one way or another. Good luck.

 

[gritsar]

Thanks y'all.

 

[PineappleMama]

Ouch. My sister, BIL, Wayne... know plenty with this sort of attitude, but not one has ever been stupid enough to try and hurt one of my pets... then again they also know we all collect weapons (from bats, to flails, to claymores) and can use them and we adults have a penchant for wearing steel-toes (only way we can dance together)... think maybe that's got something to do with it... I do.

I think a simple "Why don't you pick on somebody your own size" would suffice. Would work best if DH or other is there to see that you said that calmly... so if she goes all looney it's on her, not you. But I think that pretty much sums up the situation. She's beating a creature that is smaller (and one would think not as smart seeing as pup keeps coming back, but then she's at your house again too so who knows) and nicer anyways... and you think perhaps she is taking out her anger about you on your pup... so, give her her shot... and point out to others what a pathetic bully she is while you're at it.

Might work...

 

[Catstar68]

Being a DD#1 myself (out of 6 DDs), it seems the oldest children often end up the peacemakers. Esp. if dear mom wasn't around much or didn't care to do much mothering. A bit off topic, I know but don't let DD#1 assume the responsibility for anything DD#2 screws up. Taking too much responsibility or too little responsibility both have their own unfortunate repercussions.

and a hug for you,

and a hug for Kane.