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How do we get off our own backs?

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by I have WHAT in my yard?, May 16, 2011.

  1. I have WHAT in my yard?

    I have WHAT in my yard? Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 24, 2008
    Eggberg, PA
    I had a rough weekend. In a really really stupid way. It was just me and what went down inside my own skull. It can be a pretty rough neighborhood in there some days!! [​IMG]

    We all make mistakes and we ALL do stupid stuff and I would never talk to some one else the way I talk to myself in my head. I don't know where it comes from. I don't know why I get SO upset over stupid stuff. Why I get to feeling so very inadequate sometimes. I genuinely don't know how other people manage to get everything they get done done and keep their lives looking so manageable when mine feels like a go cart built by a 6th grader rolling down mount everest!! [​IMG]

    What do you do when you are feeling crazy in the head?
     
  2. Momagain1

    Momagain1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 13, 2011
    Central IL
    I lean on God; honestly though thats what I do..sooo hard...

    I dont know what advice to give you..but i just want you to try to realize just how good you are doing with everything..
    remember you have to take time to relax or just take a walk; realize what good you have in your life and DONT judge
    or compare yourself to anyone else...

    HUGS hon!!!
     
  3. theoldchick

    theoldchick The Chicken Whisperer

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    What do I do when I feel crazy in the head? Turn off the TV and go for a walk with binoculars or a camera in hand. Or read a book.
     
  4. dkvart1

    dkvart1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Nov 5, 2010
    Quote:Actually very good advice. I think it's natural for most of us to be a little tough on ourselves at times. It's funny most of us would never allow someone to be as mean spirited with us as we are with ourselves at times! Negative self talk sadly is much easier to believe than positive self talk. Don't know why, maybe by nature we're just doubtful of "good". [​IMG]

    The other problem we have is that we judge what we see in others to be the truth, when in fact what we see is often merely a perception and has nothing to do with the truth of the situation.

    Everyone has something they struggle with. Everyone has something about themselves they are less than thrilled with. It took me a long time to accept who I am and realize I have it better than a lot of folks do and that I cannot measure myself against anyone. Am I doing my best? Yes. Do I have moments that I disappoint myself? Oh YEAH!! Do I beat myself up over it? Not so much anymore. Nowadays I'm more prone to examine why I feel disappointed in myself, what, if anything I could have done differently and let it go. Life is a learning experience. We aren't expected to be perfect by anyone except ourselves.

    [​IMG] Kick those roughneck thugs out of your "neighborhood". Every time they open their foul mouths tell them to shut up and leave that neighborhood in a hurry! Be gentle with yourself. [​IMG]
     
  5. dianaross77

    dianaross77 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Oct 10, 2010
    Grand Blanc, MI
    I just try to remember that there are things I'm really good at. I'm a terrible housekeeper. But I'm really good at making people laugh! It's an even trade in my book. Just remember, all those people who get things done and are really organized and make you want to poke them in the eye have plenty of problems too.
     
  6. RJ3

    RJ3 Out Of The Brooder

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    Somethings I do when I'm being consumed by negative thoughts, I wear a rubber band on my wrist so everytime I catch myself dwelling on negative things I give my self a good snap! It works:) exercising usually helps me as well, a change in scenery or going into a different room, if I'm feeling really unraveled I start making lists, grocery list, to do list, wants, needs, chores, or even copying recipies out of a cook book! Anything to get my mind busy with something other than negative issues! Also checking out funny animal videos on the web helps sometimes. [​IMG]
     

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