Recently a friend of mine told me about her son. She is a religious woman brought up in the church and has brought her kids up best she could in her faith too. However the messages she get from her son recently were anything but. He accused her of being Smothering - but she has not seen him more than twice in the whole of the last year and has rarely spoken to him. When she gets him things he does not want them as he says he is "feircly independent" - but then accuses her of favouring and spoiling other siblings? He accuses her of embarassing him - but she has not been out with him in public more than once in the last year. He accuses her of "treating him like a child", - to which she answered that he would always be "her child!" He accuses her of making herself out to be better than him because she is a Christian woman and he hates her God and the Church! He says that there was NO difference between them as they are "both adults!" Which I guess is his way to justify his treatment of her as he does not recognise the family hierarchey of parenthood. He has rejected all things Christian and the moral values that she had tried to instill into him. Instead he has no respect for his "relationships" either with a partner or towards his parents. He has not cellibrated either Christmas or Easter or Birthdays for at least two/three years. Which of course means he doesn;t have to get anyone anything! He told her to go (pro-create) with herself? When she challeneged him over imoral life choices. And told his father he wished his father was dead. He told them both that he would never want them in his life. That they would never see the children that he may have in the future or a partner he may have. He is her eldest son and she deeply loves him and is left heartbroken. This is not a teenager having a blip - this comes from a Mature fellow in his thrties! She sent him back the first and only bible verse she has ever quoted to him. Prov 25 v17 A foolish son is a grief to his father,.... Because of his folly and wickedness, and the ruin he is bringing himself to; and bitterness to her that bare him; a cause of bitterness of soul to his mother, more distressing than the bitter pains with which she brought him forth into the world.