Couldn't stand my MIL from my FIRST marriage; she was defintely the matriarch, at least in her own mind (got along fine w/FIL and his wife). But my MIL/FIL NOW are really decent people, and they mind their own business, really important on a "family farm" setting. You were much kinder than I could have ever been in your restraint w/your FIL...lol.
the 700 mile thing doesnt work for me lol
Cant stand my inlaws and I live on one coast they on the other.
they want my kids to spend summers with just them my oldest is 8 (they have been asking/nagging/whining about this issue since my oldest was 12 mnths)
we say we want to drive to visit in at least 2 years (its gonna take alot of saving for that trip)
they offer to buy us 5 tickets to fly in less then 3 weeks - nice offer but we will still need to have all the money for spending/ and money to have when we get back to cover 3 weeks of hubby not working
+ the kids are in school and cant miss that much school.
When I say Thanks but we want to DRIVE in a few years (thats our plan so the kids can see the country and that we cant afford to come out right now) I am called a crazy ungrateful you know what
They also like to buy very expensive gifts for one child and then a cheap $ store gift for another child for birthdays and when I say something well I am a crazy ungrateful you know what.
if I say no to something they phone hubby at work and try to get him to go with their plans thinking that we dont discuss anything they love the " lets try to convince our son that wife is wrong we are right" game which I truly truly hate.
My FIL loves to antagonize people just to get a reaction out of them. My mil I can get along with as long as I bite my tongue and just suck it up.
Glad I only see them about once a year. but its usually for 2-3 weeks at a time in a small house.
its not the gift part its the unequal part- the kids are starting to pick up on these things
like why does he get a quad for his birthday from nan and pop and I get a 5$ movie. (i did stop the quad thing from happening)
hmmmm not very fair in my mind
would rather them all get crap then one get more then the other.
I rarely see my "someday to be" in laws and dont have problems when I do.
Its MY father that drives me insane. I swear he hones in on peoples weaknesses and uses that knowledge to torment reactions out of them.
Unbelievable.
I love my inlaws... there isn't many of them left... but they all are great... I know my hubby can't stand mostmy family(ok there is some of my family that even i can't stand)