How many cant stand their inlaws? *ranting*

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ok, I just have to add in here, while sitting at the dinner table tonight my husband sprang (sprung?) on me, his father and his new wife are staying here turkey night.

ummm, my husband and I are barely living under the same roof right now. Tense would be one word to describe it. Now his 83 yr old father and his new wife are staying here? His father spent a winter with us a few years ago. I cooked virtually every night, because... I cook,.... real food, .... ya know, meat we raise, veggies I grow... bread I make.... never once would he say, thank you, it was good to me, but if my husband cooked something on the grill... it was ooohhed and ahhed over. He is the kind of man that thinks women are less intelligent than men and need to be seen and not heard. One day we were talking about gardening and I had said how I prepare the soil.... in regards to ph balance and he looked at me and said, "what do you know about ph" with a sneer on his face. Guess what, he was lost when I began a dissertation on parts of hydrogen per million, acid vs alkali , how to change organically.... helllllooooo the science degree comes in handy occasionally
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I am NOT cooking this year as I always have. My house is where everyone comes... not this year, my SIL is cooking in a one bedroom teeeeny tiny apartment. I love it!
 
So did I Katy. I miss my in-laws so much. They were wonderful people and I never ever had a bad word to say about either of them.
 
When DH and I first got engaged we talked for a long time about his parents. He wanted to live next door to them later. I gave him two ground rules: we come first no matter what AND we don't live near them for at least the first five years of our marriage so we could have our marriage on solid ground before getting into theirs.

We did both which really helped. AND he stands up to them for both of us. NO matter what. He threw his mother out of our house once for being disrespectful to me in front of our children. He said she and I can fight our own battles all we want but he will not have her denigrate me in front of my children.
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But, FIL and I established things early on. He kept on talking about how great DHs first wife was right in front of me! Finally, I sat down next to him and said: "You know I am marrying him no matter what you say right? So realize that I am most likely the person who will be taking care of you when you cannot take care of yourself. And, I will take care of you. But I can wipe your butt with cotton or I can wipe it with steel wool. It all depends on how you treat me now. You decide."


After several long seconds he burst out laughing and told everyone what I said. Some people thought I was awful but most understood he needed a firm hand. He is still very annoying, but we get along OK 12 years later.




(One day after he had called me misshapen when I was pregnant he came over with a box of brillo pads!!
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Told me I better stock up!)
 
my MIL asked me once in the beginning of mine and hubby's relationship if i was just getting fat or was i pregnant! i had lost about 10 pounds since she last saw me! me being the smarty pants i am (putting it mildly) looked her in the eye and rubbed my stomach and said just getting fat! mind you she is shorter than me and weighs probably a good 50 to 60 pounds more than i did at that time. now due to health issues i have put on another 70 pounds.
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I have WHAT in my yard? :

When DH and I first got engaged we talked for a long time about his parents. He wanted to live next door to them later. I gave him two ground rules: we come first no matter what AND we don't live near them for at least the first five years of our marriage so we could have our marriage on solid ground before getting into theirs.

We did both which really helped. AND he stands up to them for both of us. NO matter what. He threw his mother out of our house once for being disrespectful to me in front of our children. He said she and I can fight our own battles all we want but he will not have her denigrate me in front of my children.
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But, FIL and I established things early on. He kept on talking about how great DHs first wife was right in front of me! Finally, I sat down next to him and said: "You know I am marrying him no matter what you say right? So realize that I am most likely the person who will be taking care of you when you cannot take care of yourself. And, I will take care of you. But I can wipe your butt with cotton or I can wipe it with steel wool. It all depends on how you treat me now. You decide."


After several long seconds he burst out laughing and told everyone what I said. Some people thought I was awful but most understood he needed a firm hand. He is still very annoying, but we get along OK 12 years later.




(One day after he had called me misshapen when I was pregnant he came over with a box of brillo pads!!
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Told me I better stock up!)

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I loooove it!​
 
anytime anyone comments about my house and says it should be done this way or that way I just say "show me" and had them the cleaning supplies, that usually shuts them up
 
When my in laws moved in with us (with less than five days notice) and lived with us for 9 months I learned a lot. After my FIL passed and my MIL moved out I went to a wedding in Wa. that had all of my extended family at it and none of my husbands. Lets just say that I gave every one of them a hug and told them how much knowing that they loved me had made a painful year a bearable year.
 

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