How old were you?

[darkmatter]

Graduated HS at 17 and joined the Navy to avoid being drafted, served my time on Nuclear Subs, got out and became a migrant nuclear worker for 20 years before settling(?) down to chickens and a garden. Now if I only could get my Kids to stop coming back!!!!!

 

[silkydragon]

im still not out of my parents house (have been yelled at for saying my age so lets say ill be out of the house by the age of 22) but have been putting in applications everywhere for yrs now and i tell ppl oh i put in a job here to here "oh the owners friends with my mom they only higher family members by law they only have to take applications from ppl not higher them". Most recently i put in an application at a gas station there was a help wanted sign in the window (airforce recruter told me may be a yr before i get in so was looking for a job till i got into airforce)i talked to the manager who acted like i had the job for sure went home feeling like it went great its 3months later and never got a call back. On the way to the mall with my mom aunt and her care taker my aunt is always calling me lazy and comparing me to her son who is 10yrs older then me and divorced his wife becouse she told him to clean the house so i said i put in an application there and there pointing out different places and her caretaker said oh the manager at that gas station only highers women. im like no matter what i try in ohio im not going to find a temp job to make money till better oppertunitys come up (my friend was actualy forced to quit kfc even though he only worked part time becouse he started taking classes at the tech and his manager pourposly shceduled him to work when he had classes)

 

[Tala]

Moved into the dorms when I was 18 (but came back w/mom over summer breaks)
Moved into my own apartment w/fiance when I was 19 to get away from college roommates - and never moved back in with mom after that
Bought my first house when I was 22

I would have to be in dire straights to move back in with mom now, because she won't let my dogs live inside.

 

[CoyoteMagic]

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Good for you! And yes it can be done. I've been there myself. July 13th 2010 made 23 years clean & sober.
Some of us just have to learn the hard way.

YEAH TEAM!!!!! Rehab didn't take the first and second times around, just my drugs of choice. Heroine to amphedemines to alcohol. I hit rock bottom the 3rd time and clawed my way out 20years ago.

 

[MysticScorpio82]

I was 23 when I moved out, and the only reason I did was because I got married. Had I not gotten married when I did, I think I would have waited a while longer. It was just easier to go to college and save money while living at home with my father and brother than trying to have an apartment of my own. Yes I did help out by doing chores, sharing the cooking responsiblity and by helping with some of the bills. I really hate debt and my goal was to save enough to either buy or put a large downpayment down on some land and a small place (like a trailer) of my own...

 

[annaraven]

Joined Army at 17, right after highschool. Never moved back after that. DD is 19 and lives at home (with the ex) but goes to school fulltime and works parttime. She's looking for a 4year college to move to. DS is 17 and a senior at highschool. He's considering military service after highschool. He wants to be a chef. I'm hoping the military service will help him get more independence, otherwise, I'm gonna have to figure out how to kick his butt out after school... or he's likely to never leave.

 

[Blackbird]

18 now and paying for an apartment. Wasting all my savings that I had set aside for my own land. I'll have to move back with the parents at least for the summer unless someone hires me!

My mom and I are best friends and she wants to keep me around forever

I told her only if she'll divorce. I'm hoping once I get my own land she'll move in with ME.
I considered joining the military for a while but that would be a bad idea.

 

[ebwy2]

went to university and lived there when I was 20. Got married aged 22 (separated 11 years later, divorce came through after 3 years separated). Haven't lived with my mother since the breaks between terms at uni. Unfortunately for me, the whole "you've always got a place to live with me" thing she'd said all my life turned out to be lies when I needed it. I won't bother asking again. Equally, if she ever needs to live with me it'll be too bad for her because I treat people how they treat me.

 

[Blackbird]

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Oh, heck no. My wife wanted the son to stay at home and go to the local tech college to get his general ed credits out of the way and then head off to finish at a four year school. I said no way. He ended up going to a University of Wisconsin school about two hours from here. Just far enough away for him to learn some independence and responsibility, but still come home every now and again. He's in his second year there now.

The first few weeks he was in school he called me saying that the college didn't get his transcripts from high school. My response? "What the heck are you calling me for? Handle it." He's catching on...

10 years ago I would have been the same way. With the jobless rate at 17% here, I can't just toss him into the street when he is trying, and fulfilling our demands. He is doing ok too - knows he has to work his butt off here on the weekends and shut up about it.

I agree, Debi. In areas where there are no jobs, you should only kick your kid out if you want them to take up hooking

Heck, I would LOVE to have a couple cleaning jobs - I don't mind cleaning, it's actually pretty therapeutic, but can I find any? Nope. I'm pretty low maintenance.. Very, actually. Can't afford a car and I can't drive so I walk everywhere, Goodwill is my favorite store, I wash my clothes in the tub and hang to dry because I'm not paying almost two dollars for a load of laundry.

So if any of you know young adults that are still living at home (and pulling their weight around the house) - don't look down or degrade them because of it, it's tough out there!

 

[Blackbird]

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