How soon is too soon to date?

[redhen]

I'm the type of person that HAS to move on right away..for some reason it helps me heal faster. Maybe its just because i have something/someone to keep me distracted and busy...so i dont dwell on my hurt from the EX..i dont know..
also..my hubby is a rebound guy (shh, dont tell him that..lol) i had just been through a split and i started to date to keep me busy.. hee hee..poor guy has been stuck with me ever since..

 

[maplesky7]

Then I guess you don't need "Mike" after all.

 

[WingingIt]

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I hope that you don't think I was attacking you, I wasn't. It's VERY common to be told that you can't divorce someone who's deployed, so I just wanted her to know that it can be done if he wants to proceed and they can agree on everything. It doesn't happen very often because, I guess, most people can't agree on assets and children and stuff so they HAVE to have court dates, which IS impossible for the one deployed. I was only trying to clarify, not argue.

 

[maplesky7]

Oh no, I know you were just informing her or anyone else who may benefit from the info. I'm just surprised I was told this by a lawyer and I took it as truth... oh wait, or is that, I shouldn't be surprised? ha ha ha.

 

[ams3651]

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do you have girlfriends you can lean on? When my relationship of 10 years was literally ripped from under me, it helped to have the girls around. It also only took me 2 or 3 weeks to realize I could find someone SO much better and I was really over him. So I understand your feelings about wanting to get out there. Maybe a good male friend to go to a movie with or to dinner would be the best thing to find right now. Good Luck to you.

 

[gritsar]

Christy,
As much as I understand your situation and your needs, I can tell you for a fact that Arkansas judges frown on it very much and it could hurt you in the divorce.
If you need a shoulder or a sounding board, please feel free to contact me.

 

[redhen]

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its always good to have a back-up...

 

[deb1]

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its always good to have a back-up...

Redhen's husband is very understanding.

Plus, she is such a great woman that she gets two men.

 

[Dar]

Can we define "dating"?

Is a date two friends enjoying a meal?
Is a date two friends watching a movie?
Is a date two friends havin a couple of drinks?

I will stop there but you can see where I am going.... I dont see an issue with having friends.... now when the friend expects breakfast.... ummmm that was a date..lol

there is nothing wrong with an adult female having a friendship with another adult male.. no body needs to put a "title" or name on it...

If thats the case then I have been on many dates with men other then my husband in the last 14 yrs...

 

[redhen]

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its always good to have a back-up...

Redhen's husband is very understanding.

Plus, she is such a great woman that she gets two men.

Sadly, theres enough of me to share.. tee hee hee