How would you react?

[duck walk]

No is my favorite word...feel free to use it and in this case it seems appropriate...

 

[herefordlovinglady]

I feel the only "Need" he has is needing to get free rent on equipment that he would usually pay for otherwise.

 

[applefalls]

Charge some rent, but less than what he would pay elsewhere. That way you are still being charitable, but also making your point that you don't want to be taken advantage of.

 

[onthespot]

no, if his business plan is to borrow equipment he needs to do the job, he is not in the right business.

 

[Penturner]

My answer would be no in a heart beat. Your equipment is Business. I do not mix business and personal. I would not loose a second over it either. Now if he want to hire me to go do the job fine, If he wants to rent the equipment fine. But everyone is in it for one thing, Money. and that is the bottom line truth. So money gets involved.
Playing the Devils advocate now. So lets say I see the guy is on hard times and choose to do the charitable thing, which I have been known to do often. It is no longer business for me, it is now personal. But still there are correct and incorrect ways to go about it. like it or not your equipment only has so much life in it. What is his experience in operating maintaining and otherwise caring for the equipment. and who will be responsible for repairs or replacements if needed. at the very least these are questions that no one walks away with of mine without it being brought up directly. There is a responsible way to be even charitable and it is not always comfortable to do it that way. If you feel he was deceptive in his need before, so be it. He said he had a need, did you clarify just exactly what that need was? Now that you know what it is it looks like your decision to be charitable changed. basically I say recognize that decision and live accordingly. and you do not need to have a reason to not loan him equipment. Just tell him you think you went blind cause you just can't see it.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Yeah, this has gotten even uglier today. And my heart is breaking for my poor DH. He is such a good person and so very giving and kind, but even he has his limits. He is being pressured in the extreme by his own mother. She "lent" us the money for the tractor. Three years ago. The deal at the time had been she was paying - we could not have bought it - and we would do her tractor related work. Suddenly she is c;aiming the tractor is "hers" and she can do whatever she wants with it.

DH is mostly really hurt by her attitude. And I am furious because while she may have paid for it, it is in our name which makes us legally responsible should this person do anything stupid with it. And I am furious at her for hurting my husband.......... She had a key and the tractor was missing this morning.






Family. What are you gonna do?

 

[MareeZoCool]

I pick C ~ let him use it, for a price. One of these days, he's going to want to use something again. Who's gonna pay for any repairs, sharpening, or other up-keep? Your time is valuable too!

 

[herefordlovinglady]

And I am furious at her for hurting my husband.......... She had a key and the tractor was missing this morning.


Oh that is sad. I hope she did not have anything to do with the missing tractor, that could cause some long term damage in your dh's heart.

 

[pips&peeps]

My answer would be no. You got taken advantage of once and that is enough.

Besides, there are liabilities involved and you most obviously don't have insurance to cover it, otherwise you would be in the equipment rental busines. Which is where this person should go.

I would call and report the equipment stolen. Do you have some kind of title or bill of sale in your name for this said piece of equipment?

 

[math ace]

So mom paid for it ? ? ?

It is in your name ? ? ? So that makes it yours ! ! !

BORROWER - - NEEDS to go rent the equipment for a person willing to rent it to them.

You are not in the business to rent.

BORROWER has options. He can do what every other business person does.
EITHER BUY or RENT.

MOM can pay for his rental of the equipment if she wants to help him out so much.
Mom can loan anything she wants too that is hers.

BUT the equipment is in your name and is yours. THANK YOU mom for helping us buy it.
BUT IT IS RUDE to try to take a gift back. Your original deal with mom did not include loaning of equipment to any Tom, Dick, or Harry that she desired. If that had been the "STRINGS" attached to the orignal deal - - - you would of said NO.

So say "NO" now. Mom will have to get over it!