How would you respond?

[mamagardener]

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I guess I don't see anything to get upset over?!?! She simply stated that she was sad that you can't go but she is still making a day out of it with the kids..
And commenting that you have to work??? so you have to work... she didn't say you were poor or had no money simply that you have to work. lots of people work no biggie...
Hope you don't take it as a personal attack you may be feeling like that out of feeling guilty that you cannot make it...
Just my opinion from what I am reading here, you know your sister better than I.

I agree

 

[MeatKing]

I think I was just feeling super guilty about not being able to go. She understands the way money is for us right now.

She did offer for us to go around and help her shop, but really my kids would be so not happy with that. There not the kind've of kids that ask for everything when out, they don't ask for stuff in stores. Unless I say go pick a fruit or veg. Their not little whining brats or anything

but with that being said, once a year I take my kids to the city, to the great big mall and we do school shopping. New runners. new school bag, a few new outfits etc. Food court a whole day of city life. (Once a year) I would never let them watch their cousins get all this new stuff and them none, when they know they need new stuff too

Then turn around and go back to the city a week or two later and do it again, doesn't make sense..

 

[MeatKing]

and this was how I responded "So sorry we will miss it Jen, So happy you are still able to plan a nice day with your kids "Hugs"

We later spent time on phone discussing which museum she should take her kids to, and how I can make more money.

So I guess, all's well that ends well. Maybe I will Always think my big sister is out to get me.. lol You know she usually is

Thank-you everyone for your ideas

 

[MeatKing]

and for putting up with me

 

[MeatKing]

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Cause It's my big sister and she can't have the last word..

 

[redhen]

Maybe its me, but i dont think she was being sarcastic... (but i dont know her..)
She just sounded kinda bummed about it. Which is understandable.
Its not like she wrote," Darn! My stinkin sister spent the money she was supposed to use for school shopping! And i took the day off today so we could go together too!"

This is why i dont really like FB either.... you say one thing, and someone can blow it all out of whack...
Its just dumb.
Just be polite and say "Sorry to let you down, Sis.( " or something like that..

ETA: Nevermind, i see you handled it fine!

 

[herefordlovinglady]

Well, I think you handled it perfectly. You know best for your family. Us not knowing the whole "picture" makes it easy to comment and say how we feel in the moment and what we think we would/should do. You sound like an awesome mom and you were looking out for your family.

I can remember growing up and mom always telling us to wait for payday before we could get something. Payday for dad was once per month -- always loved that time of the month, we learned patience and learned to really put thought into what we wanted because we knew that it had to last until the next payday. Haha...

take care. you did good today.

 

[SarahFair]

I kinda get upset when my sister bails on me (she doesnt have as good of excuses as you do though

) but in the end I always understand and forgive...

Im glad yall worked it out and tried to come up with a future solution for yourself!

 

[sourland]

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Cause It's my big sister and she can't have the last word..

Sourland understands.

 

[Cetawin]

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X2 big girl panties come in a variety of sizes