Hubby is not doing well. long post

[Alleyoops25]

Well we are having a horrible time at my house. My Dh who is 32 is having alot of health problems. He was diagnosed with sleep apenia a feww wekks ago. So he has been on oxygen during the night. We live up on a little hill and last night he chased our dogs up it. By the time he got to the top of the hill he couldnt hardly breath. We checked his O2 and found it was low. So he spent the rest of the night on the oxygen. Well today he was at work and I called him there. When he heard the phone ringing he was out side he had to climb a whole sum of five steps to get back in the building. Doing this dropped his oxygen again, this time he couldnt get it back up so we had to go to the E.R. we spent most of the night there. They did chest xrays which came back clear. BUt they did blood work to see if he had a blood clot. The test came back abnormal so they did a CAT scan on him to see if they could find a clot. This came back with no results. Even though his O2 was still low and they couldnt figure out what the problem was they sent him home and told him that it was something he needed to take up with our Family Doc. who isnt in the office most of the week.

I ended up having to buy a oxometer to test O2 today as he took the oxometer he had back to the oxygen bussiness and they "didnt have another one avilable" And that really made me mad becauase our health insurance doesnt cover them, and they arent cheap. I ended up spending almost 300.00 on the stupid thing. So now I am up watching him to make sure he doesnt crash on me, and have been checking his O2 levels about every 30 minutes. A normal level is up in the 90's. He cant seem to keep his O2 above 85.

I cant believe how stupid some Doctors are. I cant believe that they send people home who clearly have some thing serious going on,and dont even bother to figure out what is cuasing it in the first place. This same darn hospital tried killing me a week ago. I came down with strep throat, and I am allergic to peniccilon. So of coarse they had to give me a antibiotic with the stuff in it. And that landed me three days in the hospital trying to recover from that. Now I feel they are trying to kill my DH!!! Ihave been sitting here staring at him and we are working on 5:00 am right now. And the whole time the oxometer has been reading between 76 and 85. He is really pale, and at times his lips turn a little blue. I called the E.R. at about mid night, and told them I thought he needed to come back in and they flat tell me that they wouldnt admitt him again as they dont have a answer to his problems and that it was something our family Doc. needs to take care of.The next Hospital is 45 miles away, and it is just as bad. The hospital I think he needs to go is in Grand Junction which is about 75 miles from us. I dont have a problem with taking him that far, but He refuses to go that far becaus he is worried that since he doesnt have a portable oxygen tank his O2 will drop to low and that thought is horrific since most of the area between us and that other hospital is nothing but adobe hills. I am reall upset, and am to scared to go to sleep with him this way. I really thin khe needs some serious help but I dont know how to get him it. And this all doesnt make a bit os sense to me why he is having these problems. He doesnt have a cough, or is wheezing. ANd this has just came on so fast I know this is serious, but I cant get him the help he needs. I swear to god that if he is permentally injured, or anything happens to him I will have to kill that doctor. I cant believe this. I am waiting for the the clock turns 8 and the head haunchos drag there A%^ into the hospital because heads will roll over over this. And come heel or high water I am getting him some help. There is going to be a law suit over this I think, I wont rest until this stupid Doctor looses a rights to practice medicine.

Okay I have vented and i am sorry if i am to negitive, but this has got to be the worst night mare for any one.And I am left with sitting here praying to God he doesnt get any worse and I can figure out how to come up with with a portable oxygen tank so I can get him to the next hospital.were we can figure out what to do to help him. I really love and need my DH. And I have three kids oldest is 9, and the youngest is going to be 2 in April, and they need there Daddy. And I am so dumbfounded that there is even a doctor out there that is actually doing more harm to people than he is doing good. I know this is long and I am sorry for that. But thank you guys for being patient with me right now. Just please pray for my DH if you all would. Thanks.

 

[Stormhorse23]

they wont admit him? yep. SUE THEM ALL.

i hope he does ok! you can vent here anytime you want! we'll always be here to listen to you.

 

[LoneCowboy]

Sorry that things are going so bad. Hang in there, keep him calm it'll be ok.

 

[BirdBrain]

Alley,
Even if they do not admit your husband to the hospital, you can take him back and they can give him O2 in the hospital ER. From there, if they will not admit him, you can arrange for transfer to the other hospital and he can be taken by ambulance. That seems to me the best way to go. DO NOT stay at home. GET BACK TO THAT ER even if they won't admit him, at least they can treat him. I'm praying for you!!

 

[hsm5grls]

The same thing happened with my step father for months. He kept going to ER with headaches and he was disoriented. They kept sending him home. Come to find out he had a brain tumor.He died of terminal brain cancer 6 months. later. My advice and this was given to me by a hospital worker, next time call 911 have the ambulance take him in. They will make sure he is seen in a reasonable amount of time and taken care of. And yes OS that low is a valid reason to call 911. My thoughts are with you.


Edited to add: some times you have to be very upfront and demand health care. I learned this also from my step dad. You can't just assume that one doctor or nurse's response to your situation is going to be the same as another. If you are not satisfied demand another doctor. Even in the ER. Demand that another doctor give his opinion. Also the ambulance will sometimes ask what hospital you would like to go to. At least here they do. You could ask that he be taken to the hospital that you are more comfortable with.

 

[Patchofheaven]

My thoughts and prayers are with your family right now. Keep your chin up.
Hsm5grls is right about the ambulance - based off of what you have said about his O2 levels - he should be back at the hospital. The EMTs will help him and he will become priority in the ER.
I was rushed via ambulance back in September, when a tree fell on me. I live 14 miles from the hospital and received a bill $1496.00 - Insurance paid only $600.00 - I'm appealing this through the insurance now, but at the time it was an EMERGENCY and money was not the issue - saving my life was and they did.
Don't think twice, call 911 if you are scared and need help - that's why we have that service available.

 

[jjthink]

What BirdBrain said.
Oxygen is too low. Go to the ER, get him oxygen there and then see about transfer by ambulance to a better hospital.
Has he had an echocardiogram? Your dh is so young that I doubt he has the problem I'm about to relay but I offer it as an example of the need to get to a better facility.
My x-dh had similar symptoms and was misdiagnosed (big time) with allergies. In truth, it was a bad aortoc valve that he was born with but never knew. Valves like his only last into the person's 50's. He nearly died but in the nick of time got correctly diagnosed by an ER I took him to and now has a new valve. I was largely absent from BYC for months last year because of the crisis with him and also a crisis with my mom who was in and out of hospital for 4 months. Hospital very nearly killed her by sending her home against our best judgement. Turns out they released her in congestive heart failure and she very nearly died as a result of their error. We no sooner got her home and had to call 911.
You can't have this worry at home. We agonized over my mom when she was home at various points when we knew they had no business releasing her. My poor 80 year old dad didn't sleep a wink as he watched over her, afraid she would stop breathing. It's so sad how bad things can be with our health system. (we ended up changing hospitals and will never return to the one that was close to their home - at one point there she was kept in a hallway for 3 days in the ER with no monitors or nurse call button. The nurses explained that they are so crowded because ER's all over the country are closing due to bankruptcy from being forced to treat all the people that don;t pay/aren't insured/aren't citizens). It was heartbreaking to watch my mom in these conditions, being treated this way in a country where she had worked so hard for the past 75 years.
So, out the door you go and keep us posted. Once the right place figures out what needs fixing with your dh, then hopefully they can help him lickety split and you can all rest easy.
JJ

 

[arlee453]

well, by now I hope he's gotten the help he needs.

My hubby is a nurse practicioner who worked in cardiology and neurology offices. He said based on what you wrote here, that your hubby needs immediate help.

Take him back to the ER and demand an ambulance take him to the other hospital. Worse case you have to pay the ambulance out of pocket, but there are transport ambulances and they would have the O2 he needs for the trip.

I'll be praying for him and I hope he gets some answers soon!

 

[texaschickmama]

Something very serious is going on with him, I don't have to tell you that, I'm sure you already know that. You said they did chest x rays to check for possible pnemonia? My next guess is something with his heart. This is serious and you need to bring him back to the hospital and demand they care for him, this doesn't happen to "healthy" people. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

 

[hsm5grls]

I am so worried about your DH. I wish There was another way to get a hold of you. Seriously call 911 and do it now. This is serious. Call 911 the hospital will take you serious if you show up in an ambulance.