Hubby is not doing well. long post

[hsm5grls]

Alley,
No regrets. I know that it is a normal feeling when you are dealing with a sick loved one, but remember if anyone has davey's best interests in mind you do. We can only do what we can. We do the best we know how and that's all we or anyone else can expect. Anger is a very natural emotion at this time. It is easier to be angry than sad and some strength comes from anger. So if your mad that's fine be mad. Also something I learned when dealing with my SF's illness is to take one day at a time. Don't get ahead of yourself. Today has enough worries. Take a deep breath and deal with today. I know it is hard to do but try to stay focused on what is happening right now. You may be dealing with things emotionally that you will not have to face and it is exhausting. If God forbid the day comes when you have to deal with those things you will have plenty of time then to deal with them. I can't pretend to walk in your shoes as I have never had to, But I am trying to give you the best and most loveing advice I can. I am still praying for you and your family.
All my prayers and thoughts
Tracy

 

[Lunachick]

Please don't lose hope. We haven't. I know that's easier said then done. Please stay strong.

 

[BantyChickMom]

While I know everyone reading this thread is praying for Alley and her family, I would like to ask everyone from here on out to say a special prayer every hour on the hour.
Then, not only will many prayers be going up, but there will be hundreds going up at the same time.

Thank you to everyone in advance for doing this.

 

[Chickadee28]

Alley,

I have been praying for you during this ordeal. I know that it is very easy to lose hope, but like everyone else has said miracles do happen. I know from personal experience that the Dr's do not always know what the outcome will be, 20% may sound grim, but there is a chance that he can recover. If you can please try to concentrate on that. I know that it is so hard to sit in the hospital room and not think of all the "what if's" and let your mind go crazy. Try to take one minute at a time. Try not to think about the future right now, regardless of the outcome things will work themselves out. You are strong and you will get through this. Your kids will be your strength.

 

[bamagirl68]

Quote:
Alley
Miss Prissy is so right! I could not have said it any better. Whatever you do, don't give up on God. You sound like a very strong person and I believe you can weather this storm. You are not alone! Vent all you need to. We are here. Take care of yourself so you can help your kids through this.

 

[65browneyes]

Alley.........you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[hensdeliverthegoods]

Alley - almost 10 years ago, I lost the man I lived with and was engaged to. I understand what you're feeling right now. Reading your words brought it right back to me. I did make it through; but I won't lie to you, it's hard as heck to do. How will you do it? Most of the time, it's by getting through one minute at a time, and sometimes it's only one second at a time. And if you lose it sometimes, that's ok too. You seem to have good backup. The darkest hour is always just before dawn...

 

[keeperofthehearth]

Alley,

so sorry to hear this latest news. Everything you have written, I understand how you feel. Alley, God can handle your anger at Him. HE does love you though you at this time feel HE does not. That's O.K. also. Be angry right now if you have to but let me tell you something girl. If you can, in any way possible right now, ACKNOWLEDGE that God is GOD. If you can remember a song about the wonder and grace of God, sing it. Turn you eyes now, while you are hurting beyond anything else you have experienced, on Jesus your redeemer. Sweetie, this is going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to learn, understand, experience . . . HE already died for you. HIS will be done.
While my DH lay in the hospital dieing he asked me to promise him one thing. That though I might be angry at God if he, my DH, were to be taken "home", that I not curse God, nor stay angry at HIM. My DH is still with me, though things have not been easy. God knows the plans He has for you & your DH. I will continue to pray for you & your DH. May God provide a miracle for you.

 

[chickflick]

Alley, you need to let your feeling out. Go to a private place and just let it all out,,, have a real good cry. You can't hold it all in, that's what's making you sick. Cry and then cry some more, and then you can pull yourself together and face the world again. Be strong, for Davy and the kids, but don't forget to take care of yourself.
We're all praying for you and Davy. I sure do hope things turn for the better soon. Doctors have been wrong before, lots of times. So, keep up the faith. I know it's hard right now, but now is the time to believe more than ever.

 

[AhBee01]

Ally, You have to get thru it for your children, they need you. Please don't give up, I know it is hard. It isn't fair and hard not to be mad at everything.
Know you are in my prayers, hang in there
Brenda