Hubby is not doing well. long post

[JaciesCoop]

I'm so glad to hear the Dr. is not willing to call it quits. I think that's a good sign.
And please my dear, I know everyone has said this but take care of yourself. Eat, get rest, and get some quiet time for yourself.

Jacie

 

[jjthink]

Oh Alley, what to say...there are no adequate words.

You are in my heart and my thoughts. I am wishing you strength and wellness. I am hoping things turn around for Davy.

Your body is sending you a message loud and clear with you getting sick so much. Please please try to take care of yourself a bit so you have the strength for the dreadful situation you find yourself in. Drink juice and water and eat many small meals. By doing so, you are giving medicine to yourself and Davy and your kids and your FIL. If there is a health food store anywhere around, have MIL or someone pick up some Rescue Remedy. It's a nontoxic Bach Flower Remedy - the most famous in the world - and has a natural calming effect that can only help when minds and bodies are so tired and stressed. It comes in a mist that can just be sprayed in the room or anywhere any of you are.

You have so many posts to read - I'll keep this short for now and will keep sending lots of energy and hugs your way.
JJ

 

[cknmom]

Alley,
I have been offline for a couple of weeks and just found this. I have been sitting here for several hours reading every word. i don't know anything that I could say to help except that i am praying for Davy, and your family.

You are not having a pity party for yourself, don't be ashamed or feel bad about expressing your emotions to us. You need to let them out and we are the perfect sounding board(so to speak).

You just take care of yourself and those wonderful children, it would do no one any good if you yourself landed in another hospital bed.

Screaming and crying do wonders to help relieve stress.

Love,Monica

 

[back2basics]

Alley,

I have been away for a few days, I just caught up on 20 pages of posts. People care about what is happening to you and your family.

Its been said over and over;
STAY STRONG, TAKE CARE OF YOU... LEAVE IT TO GOD.

I cried reading your posts, I will hug my DH when he gets home.

Vent here whenever you need to and can.

More positive thoughts, prayers and hope to you and your family.

Mary

 

[McGoo]

You poor baby.... I am so very sorry for you. Do you have anyone - a friend, a relative who you are close to and can come and bring you support ... aside from this forum and your inlaws. IF you do I would call them to help you out....cuase you need it right now.

In the meantime we are all here to aid you in this terrible time. Crying is not a bad thing, but after a long bout you should try and sleep a little bit.

Please know that you, Davy and your entire family are in my prayers.

ps. Don't worry about the money, that can be settled long afterwards.

 

[SpottedCrow]

At least the doctor has put some faith in his abilities and I'm even more glad that he's put a bug in the ear of the other quacks (no offense to any duck owners) that screwed this up...

More more prayers and hugs for all of you..

When everyone gets there, you should have the doctor talk to them all at the same time, so you don't have to keep repeating it...
And don't let any of them talk you into anything...

I'll tell you right now that some of them are going to try and write him off...don't listen to them!

Judy has a good suggestion with the Rescue Remedy...

 

[kees]

Alley,
I PM'ed you with my contact information and from your info looked up your phone number from the white pages. I called and was hung up on. Tried calling back and was told I had the wrong number, but don't really think I did. I wanted to send you some flowers or presents for your kids to let you know that it's a small world but everyone on this board really cares about you. Sorry if your MIL or FIL took offense or if I overstepped any boundaries. Offered my phone number and said you could call collect. Please check your PM's. Apologized to your family members and wished them a good night.
I know that it's impossible for you to sleep not knowing what the next minute will bring. I am praying for all of you. Miracles do happen sometimes.
You're a wonderful person and don't deserve any of this to happen to you or your children. Don't regret any decisions that you've made. Please hang in there and keep us posted. If you get a chance, call me, even if it's just to know that someone is willing to hear you vent, scream or cry. We're all human. I care.
<extra hugs and more from New York>
Suzy

 

[James Bond]

Alley
While on break at work I found your thread and sat and read your posts.
My heart, thoughts and prayers are going out for you and your family. Please stay strong - I can only imagine how difficult this must be but please know that we are all here for you. I hope you can feel our support.
I did take your advice and hug my DH -
Please keep us posted - share every thought - just let it out, we are here to listen!
God be with you.
Here is a website that may help you keep in touch with your friends and family without spending a lot of time on the phone away from Davy.

caringbridge.org - it is free and is an awesome support for you.

My son has a 3rd gr classmate that has been ill for over 2 months and the family posts often on this site - that keeps friends, family and your community updated.
Check it out - it may help.

You are in my prayers -
Peggy

 

[wegotchickens]

Alley, I have hugged my DH so often that he started to worry that something is wrong! So I explained about you and Davy...

I know you don't want to take money from any of us, but please remember that we want to help and feel helpless. If you were members of our real world community, we'd be bringing casseroles and other food goodies to help sustain you and your family. Or taking the kids out for a Happy Meal so the grown ups could interact. Or cleaning your house, tending your critters, and just filling whatever needs we could. We're that kind of people. And that's what makes us want to send cards or flowers or cold hard cash. Not out of pity, but out of love and a sincere desire to make your life easier.
<sigh>
I really wish there was more we could do to help...
The southern hospitality gene says I must find a way. And its more powerful than the hatchaholic gene (which is pretty doggone powerful)!

 

[krturpie]

A.

Davy's Dr. sounds like a good man. I don't know his talents as a healer, but from what you've written, personally, I'd stick with him.

Know also, that we here at BYC will keep pulling for Davy until whatever conclusion that God wills. We will be keeping all of you in our thoughts and will continue to pray for a turn for the better. Rage at Heaven for all your troubles, but take solace in God, knowing that He will give you the strength you need. Blast your frustration at us, for we will lend our support freely, and we will read every word, absorb every letter, and cry it back toward Heaven on your behalf. This is what we can do. It is all we can do. But it is something; a very important something.

I am sure that each person here is chomping at the bit to do anything to keep you strong. I know my dear sweet wife would make your family enough frozen, home cooked meals to pack your freezer and fresh baked bread to stuff your cabinets. But, we can and should also respect your privacy and our bounds. I am absolutely sure that most every single person that has posted in this thread or sent a PM is a gracious and kind soul who means well, but I think we can also understand your need for us to keep a respectful distance. We feel so close to you, we feel frustrated to help, but we are in reality still strangers to you.

Also, you are truly a phenomenal, strong young woman. But, I must be very direct here. I think that the road ahead is going to be long and you will need to pace yourself. Keep up your strength for Davy and your family. Take the litany of advice posted by us to take time to breathe, to eat, to rest, and to safely vent your anger. Recognize and show kindness to your allies. Seek the shoulder of a friend or a counselor there to carry some of your burden if your internet supporters are not enough. You are your family's castle now. Do not let yourself fall; especially from within.

For this post I will leave a passage from a much, much better prayer writer than myself:

Psalm 147 3:5 He is the Healer of the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. He fixes the number of stars; He calls all of them by their names. Great is our Master and abundant in Power; His understanding is beyond reckoning.

I continue to pray for Davy's improvement and for the well-being of his dear wife and family.

K.