Husband just died

[what's kickin' chicken]

so sorry

 

[arabianequine]

I am so very sorry for you and your daughters loss. I would get your daughter some counseling to help her understand what has happened and you too if needed. You and your daughter will be in my thoughts.

Weren't you legally married?

 

[turney31]

I am so very sorry......

I believe he can hear what you say now. Tell him.

 

[maple]

I can't imagine the pain you and your little girl are facing. He must have been a young man since he has such a little daughter.

My father died in his sleep as well at age 64 so I was 27 then... I felt cheated. He would never be able to walk me down the aisle and be a part of any future grandchildren I intended on having. But now I look at your little girl and think, at least I had him into my twenties. My heart greives for your loss. It must have been quite a shock. My mom was the one to find my father who had passed in the middle of the night and she couldn't sleep so she got up and read a book down stairs and fell asleep there. She went through the...if only I did this....and I think she still thinks that way 10 years later, though I know it's gotten better with time.
My dad at diabetes and was diagnosed with kidney failure but we all thought we had more time....we thought we would be seeing him through tougher times like diayalisis and getting ourselves checked to see if we were a match since he would be put on the bottom of any transplant list. So we all thought we had more time. It was his heart that got him in the end. He was over weight but strong and muscular, but obviously didn't eat the best and had more alcohol then he should have and didn't exercise the way people should. So perhaps it shouldn't have been a shock but no matter how much you prepare....you're never truly ready to loose someone you love.

I know it will be tough to go through all the hassles you will be faced with in days...months...ahead. But you will get through this, God willing and He will give you and your daughter what you need to be ok. Hopefully the things you are dreading will go more smoothly than you anticipate...we can only pray. Take it day by day. I remember when my dad passed that I was living in a fog for a good month before life seemed half way back to normal....it took my mom longer. He sounds like a wonderful man, husband, and daddy....he will be sorely missed by many it sounds like. It soothes the soul to remember happy memories...he'll live forever in your hearts and there are ways to memorialize him in your lives as time presses on....planting a tree or garden in his memory....getting his favorite plane engraved on his grave stone... Don't give up your dreams and keep moving forward sweet woman. You and your husbands child need you so and you need her so. Hug her tight and smother her with kisses and keep his memory alive by sharing stories together.

May your faith remain strong and may you have comfort in days, weeks, months, years....to come.
Many prayers and blessings coming your way from a very family orientated and loving bunch this BYC group is.
Most humbley we pray...Amen.

 

[cassie]

I am so sorry. I will give you the advice a friend of mine was given when she lost her husband as a result of an accident. The deputy who came to her place of work to deliver the devastating news told her to sit down and to listen carefully. He told her she would be in a state of shock and her first priority was to take care of herself. This was necessary for her to do what must be done to get through the next few days and weeks. He told her to live by the clock. Go to bed at her regular time and to get up at her regular time. To eat meals when the clock said it was meal time because otherwise she may forget to eat. He told her that when she got up in the morning to be sure to get dressed and fix her hair and makeup. If she looked better she would feel better and be able to function better. He said to put off making major life changing decisions for some weeks or even months. Do not be afraid to ask for and accept help. When people ask what they can do tell them if you can think of anything they can do. There have been several women on BYC, including myself, whose husbands have died suddenly in the last few months. They can all give you help and advice through tis very difficult time. I hope you will find the deputy's suggestions helpful. My friend did and so did I when my turn came. Again, I am so sorry. You will get through this. Take it one day, or one hour at a time.

 

[maple]

Amen Cassie....very sound advice.

 

[peeps7]

I am so sorry for your loss

I know words don't mean very much at a time like this but you always have your BYC family to lean on for comfort and help if you need any.

 

[wolftracks]

Quote:
Exactly what Cassies said!

 

[Chic-n-farmer]

You have my deepest sympathy. I am praying for you.

 

[andalusn]

Like so many have mentioned, I am so sorry for your loss. These first few days will be so hectic, know that there are so many thinking of you and supporting you during those tough moments. Hug the memories, share them with your daughter.