Husband just died

[redhen]

Good news then!! Just take it slow and enjoy yourself for a change! Keeping fingers crossed for ya!

 

[babylady4]

I bet you know of this, but I thought I would include it anyway (the horse world is pretty small). Here is a link to the HB riding groups in MI.

http://nemahc.weebly.com/contacts.html


I do wish you the best of luck. I hope you manage to find people who make you whole again and who treat you the way you deserve to be treated...... in my world the definition of a friend is somebody who helps you when you need them; not when it is convenient for them.

 

[michickenwrangler]

Thanks,

I did get hit on this weekend by an Arabian trainer from Wisconsin. Bad part is, he's in Wisconsin.

 

[babylady4]

That is not too far...... he can always move!

 

[michickenwrangler]

Actually, he's probably not too far from you. PM me for his name.

 

[prairiehen74369]

30 years ago this month my husband had a massive heart attack at age 36 and died. I'm telling you this so I can give you some advise from been there done that department. First your married friends intentions are good but...you and they are going to be uncomfortable trying to include you. And I got so tired of being ask in that condicending tone of voice How are You? I found myself wanting to scream not worth a darn what do you expect? Two years will pass before you can wake up in the morning truly looking forward to a new day.There will be alot of changes within you during that time ,it is called the griefing process and beware of the people that decide for you that it's time you move on you have to do that at your own pace and believe me you will. Having someone to talk to to help you through it is great. The one thing I came away from my experience with, was I had to learn to manage my life by myself with out my partner and it's ok to have men friends just don,t try to replace him right away might or might not work out and the might not is what usually happens. Wishing you good luck and if I can help pm me.

 

[michickenwrangler]

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And found out that he has a criminal record.

 

[chickengrl]

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And found out that he has a criminal record.

Back away slowly from that one. I had to sort through lots of losers to find a good one. It will happen when you least expect it to usually. Just enjoy the attention.

 

[babylady4]

Really? So quick to judge a person without knowing what they were charged with???

I looked him up.

Disorderly conduct (class B) and bail jumping while living in Madison- 1997
Civil suit against employer and insurance company-2003
Disorderly conduct (County level) - 2002
Divorce -2005
Speeding ticket -2006
Dog at large -2007
OWI - 2010


Really not that bad for a Wisconsin boy...... hard to find one without something in the courts. People change and they grow up (well, most of the time they grow up....).

Long distance friend for sure right now.

 

[chickengrl]

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yep, I have high standards. Just looking at the charges, he is a hot head and probably a drinker. I do beleive that people can change...some... but after marrying one of those the first time around, it is pretty much a deal breaker. Unless, somehow he can show some outstanding progress with his life. There are plenty of guys out there without a rap sheet.....I am sure of it. Why stoop?