HUSBANDS!!!! The non-annoying ones thread!

[baltimoreharps]

Aww, Cheri, that's SO sweet!!

I'm going to brag on my hubby of almost 18 years too.

We don't say, "I love you" to each other all that much, but we both say it in other ways. He puts up with my moods and my fibro which both leave me on many days unable to do a lot of nothing other than sitting and in pain.
He got that, and enabled me with a garden first, and then REALLY enabled me with chickens. That has been the BEST thing that's happened in a long time to get moving and active. I hurt, but there is a lot riding on my chickens, I've got to move before I can take care of them, so I do and I realy enjoy puttering around with the girls!!

He further enabled me this weekend to get fertilized eggs from here on BYC for our broody hen to raise and I am SO excited about it!!

He was a city boy in every way until we started gardening 3 years ago... and the rest is history.

He used to be the biggest workaholic in the world, 90+ hours a week when we owned 3 restaurants. Time and age make a difference, and while we enjoyed things, those same "things" don't matter a bit when it comes to relationships and marriage and can actualy hurt a relationship.

We went through a long valley with finances, debt, and learned a LOT about how to not depend on anything other than our relationship with Jesus and then after that, our marriage, and things have gone SO much better once all of the clutter was gone with trying to be what we aren't. I do not want to be like the Jones's and I could care less what they have any longer!

Now, he works hard at 40 hours a week, comes home, plays with the kids, helps me around the house where I need it,(mostly building garden boxes and pens for the girls) we catch up several times daily on the phone where he starts out the day by waking me up because I don't do alarm clocks, I unplugged mine, lol, and talk to each other all day long after he gets home.

I know that his biggest priority is his family and that makes me love him just that much more after all of this time!

In this day and age, real love, is hard to come by so I'm keeping him!!

 

[Rex Mom]

My husband is my love... he puts up with all my animal demands.. dogs, rabbits, chickens... our lone cat... and is so supportive. When he graduated from the academy (police) he was ok with me leaving my job to be a SAH mom for my son.. what a gift!! I love him so much... he's been a father figure for my son... and I do my best to support him. I love him, still think he is the sexiest thing in my eyes... and can't get enough of him. Someday we will have our own slice of heaven and have our own few acres. Until then we will suffer with suburbia... ugh.

Susan

 

[cherig22]

Aww, Cheri, that's SO sweet!!

I'm going to brag on my hubby of almost 18 years too.
We don't say, "I love you" to each other all that much, but we both say it in other ways. He puts up with my moods and my fibro which both leave me on many days unable to do a lot of nothing other than sitting and in pain.
He got that, and enabled me with a garden first, and then REALLY enabled me with chickens. That has been the BEST thing that's happened in a long time to get moving and active. I hurt, but there is a lot riding on my chickens, I've got to move before I can take care of them, so I do and I realy enjoy puttering around with the girls!!

We tell each other ' I love you' every day, most times several times a day.

Your hubby obviously loves you, and he is your help mate. Good for you!!!!!!!!!!

Cheri​

 

[baltimoreharps]

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We tell each other ' I love you' every day, most times several times a day.

Your hubby obviously loves you, and he is your help mate. Good for you!!!!!!!!!!

Cheri

Wait til he gets enough land for a cow.... I'm going to be thrown overboard for the milk!!

He's a REALY great man who's willing to sleep on the couch so I can get over my never ending insomnia time at this time of night and get up and go to work at 7 am. (How he does it, I don't know.

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He is my help mate, and one of the reasons that we don't say I love you very much is that we are thinking the same thing at the same time, I say JUST what he was thinking less than a second ago!

He does this

when I say like I did earlier tonight, "Well, hon, I think that you had a very relaxing weekend this weekend, didn't you?" He just started laughing and saying that was just what he was thinking and there I went talking about it!

We're planning on a highly non-formal renewal of our vows on our 20th wedding anniversary.I just want to show just how much I still love my hubby after all of this time!

 

[CATRAY44]

I love my husband with all my heart. He is a good, kind, self sacrificing man (and handsome, to boot!) Thank you for starting this thread. It is nice to read these positive stories. God bless you!

 

[turney31]

I met my DH on a blind date and we have been together 20 years, married 11. I was divorced with 3 children, he never had children. He stepped in and became a wonderful Dad, Now with 4 grandchildren he is a great Big Daddy! This man took care of me when I had a horseback riding accident, I had reconstructive surgery on face, nose and sinus'. Irrigating sinus' every 2 hrs. Then when I had my hysterectomy I had complications and had to stay in hospital 7 days. while drs were regulating my internal thermostat,you could hang meat in the room, I find that wonderful man right by my side wearing insulated coveralls! He has bought Santa Claus for countless single moms children. We at this time have a single pregnant mom living with us. She had nowhere to go. When she got here she told him thanks for letting her stay.His response was " No, thank you! Its such an honor to be a part of a child coming into this ole world " He is a very strong masculine sexy man...........With a tender, giving heart. Never hesitates to say I love you, I can only hope and pray that I am worthy.

 

[mmtillman]

Yes...it is refreshing to hear the positive side of marriage.

NOT that the rants dont deserve their equal time... They do !! I have been in both camps, to be sure. But, life is short and time spent on strife is wasted time.

When I consider the BIG picture and compare my life to what it was 30 years ago....well..those little annoyances dont seem quit so annoying anymore!
When hubby irratates me, I just usually take the high road and remember all the reasons I married him in the first place!

And think how my life would be without him.

Hubby is honest, loyal, considerate, funny, generous, creative, talented with his hands.....and he is my best friend , as well. I could go on and on. LOL
I thank God for my wonderful hubby everyday and for 2nd chances !

 

[Javamama]

Greyhorsewoman - our anniversary is June 22 too! 13 years for us.
I am so blessed to have found one of the good ones. To have someone that loves me when I don't make it easy (often) is a treasure. He is the best Dad around, puts his family right after God and before everything else. He works hard at his job, and when he comes home his belief is that if Mommy still has chores to do, then it's his responsibility to pitch in. He takes care of the kids whenever I need to run errands or just want a break. He is strong and fit and takes care of himself. He works hard around the house without my nagging most of the time, and he is turning this just-outside-suburbia-house into a little patch of heaven because that's my dream, and he's happy to do it. I don't know what he does for himself because there isn't much time left after all that.

 

[ChevygirlBeth]

I love reading everyone's stories!

I know I'm young, but I searched a long time and went through some crummy relationships before I found my hubby. What someone else said earlier on here about how experiencing the bad helps you appreciate the good one when he comes along, was so true for me! Without the hurt and heartache of previous relationships, I wouldn't have any idea of the true value of my husband.

Mike and I have been together for 3 years (this coming weekend). We have been married for almost 1 year (June 28th).

He is a huge blessing to me. He works hard at a job he hates, but he does it for us and for our future. He pitches in and helps around the house any time - sometimes I have to ask, others he just sees something that needs done and does it. He helps me build fencing/housing for our critters, makes sure that all of the vehicles are maintained (something I used to always do myself, but he kind of took over once we started dating), and helps me with the garden and flower beds. We love spending time in the hayfield together - we make faces at each other each time we pass in the field and we find that being silly makes the time go faster. He acts all big and tough, but he's really the sweetest, gentlest person. It's funny to watch him go and check on the eggs in the incubator and his little bunnies that he HAD to have (I told ya, he's a softie even if he won't admit it!). He's great with kids (they just LOVE him) and he cannot wait to have one of our own. He's very mature and responsible for his age (he's 5 years younger than me) and would rather be home than out partying and carrying on. He will stand up for me against anyone - his family included. He knows me better than anyone on earth, understands me, and yet loves me regardless.

Just this past week I got pretty sick due to a bad reaction to an antibiotic. My wonderful hubby took care of all of the critters, did the laundry & dishes, and took care of me. He even took me to my parents' house at night so I wouldn't be home alone and sick while he was at work (midnight shift)! Then Friday, after working all night long, he came and took me to the doctor when he should have been sleeping.

I couldn't ask for more. He's my best friend and I love coming home to him (our wedding song was "Home to You" by John Michael Mongomery - a song that came on the radio at the drive-in theater while we were searching for the station with the sound for the movie. It was our first real date. We both just stopped and started singing the song. We talked about how we loved the song and the simple everyday kind of love it is about.)

 

[Drivegirl54]

Thanks so much for this thread. Reading everyone's stories has made me even more grateful for my dh.

I dated dh in high school, but we ended up going separate ways. I married someone else, and he ended up in a relationship that gave him a daughter. Long story short, we ended up back together and are working on our 6th year of marriage. We've had a long 6 years and honestly I didn't think we were going to make it.
In the past year we've gotten into a church and both of us have become new people. My husband is a wonderful provider for us, and a great father! I feel so blessed for what I have now.
Not just any man will drive 2 hours one way to crawl on his hands and knees in a coop until you find the perfect chicks. After driving cross country the day before. OR take your stuck contacts out of your eye for you, when he can't even think of touching his own eye.
My husband is the one that wanted chickens and had to talk me into it. Now that I'm in love he's completely supportive of my addiction and occasionally calls me the crazy chicken lady. For mother's day, he spent money we shouldn't have to get me a great dane puppy because I've always wanted one. I have an amazing son with him, and wonderful in-laws. I am truly blessed to have them all in my life.
I am nowhere near the perfect wife, but he loves me nonetheless. And even though at times he can be the most aggravating person on the planet, I still love him. I don't show him near enough how much I appreciate him. Thanks for the motivation guys!