I Am So Devastated

[jason_mazzy]

My condolances. it is tough to lose a friend or friends. My grandmother has cancer and I was told to fly out to visit her for Christmas as they think it is the last one for her. When I came back a week later a pair of hawks had moved in and eaten 90% of my flock including my handraised blue d'uccle that I had saved from the trashcan at tractor supply

My feelings are with you RIP all our lil friends.

 

[Imp]

Gosh, I'm sorry you are going through this.

Imp

 

[NellaBean]

Oh no, so sorry to hear this. Definitely might help, even if only for peace of mind, to add an automatic closer on the gate. I need to do the same on my dog gate......at least then if it was left open it would sort of shut itself. It shouldn't be necessary but sounds like, with your hubby around, it is.

i can't imagine coming home to such a massacre

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

mr. birdaholic :

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Uh, sorry, but the silent treatment doesn't work on men. We ABSORB the silence.

Hatch Lots more chicks, lay into hubby for his goof-up, & ban him from the coop!

Absolutely agree! He needs to know how devastated you are, and that he FAILED in his duty to protect his wife. If he is even HALF a man, he will care for the things you love--simply because they are important to you, regardless of his own feelings towards then. Failing to close the door might be excusable, his indifference when the massacre was discovered is NOT.​

 

[PineappleMama]

I hate to ask this but... does your hubby LIKE the chickens, or does he dislike (even resent) them?

Assuming the door thing was accidental, don't reckon he's that much of a meanie... but why in the nine hells would he leave that carnage for you and/or kids to find? A DEAR Hubby would NOT do that. Not mine anyways. Even if he didn't have anything at all to do with it, if he found one of our pets ripped apart he'd bundle it up to save his family the added hurt of seeing it. The loss is bad enough, hurts enough, without that image being burned into your brain. So would I... gross, upsetting as it would be I would do what's needed to make sure the kiddos weren't hurt any more than the basic knowing the pet died would hurt. Seems like if someone wanted you to get rid of your birds, and an opportunity to totally turn you off of them happened to land in his lap... well hard to not take advantage of that opportunity...

The fact that he didn't warn you, just set you up to walk out there and be forever hurt by that really bugs me... that combined with the fact that they weren't laying...makes me wonder if that door being left open really was accidental. Really, REALLY, hope that's not the case but the way he's acting... makes this admittedly paranoid pineapple wonder.

for you and your surviving babies... you sound like a wonderful chickie mama so those eggs would be very lucky to be a part of your family... I hope you can bring yourself to help usher those new lives into the world.

And a great big

for the dork for causing this mess, accidentally or not, and for setting you up to deal with the carnage.

And one to grow on.

 

[Matt A NC]

Matt

 

[Chicken.Lytle]

Sorry for your loss. That is really awful.

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In my (harsh) opinion, he needs to make amends or make tracks.

The right thing for a man to do after such a lapse in judgement would be to provide predator control duty. An apology alone is not sufficient.

 

[jason_mazzy]

not to stir the pot, but I don't think this husband bashing is at helpful or supportive. you are only encouraging feelings of anger and resentment. How about more uplifting and helpful posts, at least till we get more information about what happened or what the husbands response is.

 

[Welsummer Rancher]

Terrible thing to lose your flock. Been there myself. Sorry for your loss. But seriously, crying and screaming??

 

[magicpigeon]

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Yes, crying and screaming

When my first chicken died i cried for weeks and even posted an obituary online....and systemically failed every single test in that period...