I Am So Devastated

[CityGirlintheCountry]

It was more fun than you can imagine! We stayed for about 4 hours. Thankfully it was a dead time for the restaurant.

We are going to do it again. Keep us all posted and when you are ready for more babies, this lot can hook you up. Lots of chicks (running strong to silkies) in this lot!

There is a new Middle TN thread over in the places forum. Join us there!
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=440277

 

[chickerdoodle]

emmalynn, I think I understand your love, no, even more--your need for these chickens. I have always loved my pets as children and since my thirties (nearly 20 years) they have helped center me and act as a wonderful "tool" (if you can use a crude word like"tool") as I went through a long, difficult and nearly fatal health issue. My husband has gone through this with me and now that I am so much better he built us a beautiful chicken coop for our relaxation and pure joy at our suburban home. He adores them and our other pets as well but is not always as demonstrative as I am. He has, however, become more and more talkative and "kooky" about them since our marriage over 18 years ago.

I can understand your husband's lack of apology as he probably doesn't know how except to give you something else you want. Accepting that and who he is may be why he loves you.

 

[Welsummer Rancher]

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I'm so sorry for your loss..
And, Wellsummer, "Seriously?, did you really just say that?"

Yes, I really did.

 

[K9Carrie]

Oh Emmalynn, so sorry to hear of your loss. I too am the type that totally has to go to sleep after something traumatic has happened, it just seems like I can't function right until I do. I had two baby goats that were stillborn the day after Christmas and I didn't go right to bed and I felt like a zoombie even the following day. Maybe in our minds we think "tomorrow will be a better day" even if we get up later and it is still the same day. Sending you a hug

and also thinking, yes you need to hatch those little ones...they need a great mommy like you!

 

[Nekhebet]

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I'm so sorry for your loss..
And, Wellsummer, "Seriously?, did you really just say that?"

Yes, I really did.

To each his own, IMO. Everyone expresses grief differently. This is not the time to question how the OP mourns her companions all things considered

 

[AmyRey]

*hugs*

 

[Nat123]

I'm sorry for your loss

Perhaps your husband didn't share the same interest as you in raising chickens, that he didn't feel that the chickens were also his, that he wasn't involved and all?

I am sure new chickens will cheer you up

and you'll enjoy raising chickens again. Time dims memory

 

[drdoolittle]

I completely understand how devasted you must have felt. The first chickens I got I hand picked from an English woman and her husband who raise all kinds of poultry and some livestock. They were really, really tame, and in fact, one of the silkie hens was named "Too Easy" by my youngest son because she was "too easy to catch". That fall, the day before Thanksgiving, I stupidly left my chickens and ducks out free-ranging while the kids and I ran to the grocery for some items for the next day's meal. When we got home, we found all our birds---except one 1-legged hen and a chick who had hid on our porch-----dead all over the yard. We found out it was a neighbor's Dingo (who had got out of their yard due to a short in their invisible fence) that did it. It was horrible for my kids to see their beloved pets like that.

As far as the "crying and screaming", my poor hubby once came home to find me out back crying and screaming because our sow had got loose and we couldn't catch her----I was so afraid of her getting out in the road and getting hit (not just because she could be hurt or killed, but because of the damage an animal that size could do). Some of us just let our frustration/anger/grief out that way.

I hope you do get more chickens, and I'm sad for you, but also feel badly for your husband----I know how horrible my hubby would feel if he caused the death of any of our animals (not because he necessarily loves the beasts, but because of the pain it would cause me).

 

[Scoop]

Emmalyn, it sounds like your husband is apologizing in the only way he knows how - by installing the automatic coop door. I think that's good and I'm sure he feels horrible about what happened. Now he is looking towards a future with more chickens. You are hatching more I'm assuming.

 

[SilkieTime]

I was so hoping to see you at the meet up then Trisha told me what happened to you and I had a hard time thinking about anything else. We seem to have a lot in common. I am having a slow time with my whites an a very few white hens. I have quit a few splash and am tryung to work out a few major issues with them. I am so hoping that when I get them worked out that our timing will be right on. Knowing that we both love the same colors. I will keep cheching in with you from time to time. May your loved ones always be in your heart. Thinking of you