I could cry from frustration. People have NO respect! *It happened again! But worse this time. Page

[Happy Chooks]

Like others have said, you are being the doormat. It's your families company - YOU have the power here. Do NOT clean up the mess. Leave it for your boss to find. (take pictures too) Assert yourself. When he tells you to clean it up, tell him you are very sorry, but that is not in your job description. Make him go to your father to try to get you to clean it up. (assuming you have a good relationship with him) Your boss cannot take any action against you without your father's approval.

This will never stop until you put an end to it.

 

[EweSheep]

Like others have said, you are being the doormat. It's your families company - YOU have the power here. Do NOT clean up the mess. Leave it for your boss to find. (take pictures too) Assert yourself. When he tells you to clean it up, tell him you are very sorry, but that is not in your job description. Make him go to your father to try to get you to clean it up. (assuming you have a good relationship with him) Your boss cannot take any action against you without your father's approval.

This will never stop until you put an end to it.

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As for my boss' daughter, her and I like each other and she was very very nice to me. I do like the boss himself, he went out of his comfort zone to hire me, as a deaf person and gave me the chance. Worked for him for five years before he got the boot from the higher up which it was a big regret for all of us. Such a nice gal!

 

[debilorrah]

Like others have said, you are being the doormat. It's your families company - YOU have the power here. Do NOT clean up the mess. Leave it for your boss to find. (take pictures too) Assert yourself. When he tells you to clean it up, tell him you are very sorry, but that is not in your job description. Make him go to your father to try to get you to clean it up. (assuming you have a good relationship with him) Your boss cannot take any action against you without your father's approval.

This will never stop until you put an end to it.

Unfortunately most job descriptions these days have one last little phrase at the bottom Other duties as assigned. That is how I wound up with like 8 different titles.

 

[SillyChicken]

A friend of mine once posted a sign at work...

YOUR MOTHER DOESN'T WORK HERE!!
YOU ARE EXPECTED TO CLEAN UP
YOUR OWN MESS!

I'm lucky where I work, people clean up after themselves for the most part. They even (well mostly in the woman's rr) wipe down the counter in the bathrooms... the guys not so much... some still have "mommy syndrome" ... this is what happens when you moms do everything for your boys (and girls) and don't make them clean up after themselves when they're little... just sayin)! They turn in to slobs at the office!! I would refuse to clean up after anyone like that. If I found out who made a mess like that, you better believe I would be talking to them about being more courteous to others.

And I agree, you're enabling them to treat you like that. Stop cleaning it up, and force them to deal with the mess. That, or hire a day porter to come in and clean up for you!

 

[rufus]

You are in a unique position in that your family owns the company. But if that were not the case, I would suggest just biting the bullet and clean the mess. In this economy, if you have a job and the paycheck cashes, do what you have to do to keep the job.

Being a pain in the posterior is the fastest way out the door.

Rufus

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Quote: Don't bother asking. Simply post a notice on the door of the refrigerator on brightly coloured paper that any food or opened containers will be tossed every Friday at X o'clock. Don;t even sign the notice--just post it. Be fairly punctual on tossing it all (5 minutes late wouldn't hurt, but an hour would). So, you toss the Rubbermaid container with the salad, the half-eaten frozen dinner and the cup of soda from Burger King, but you leave the unopened can of peaches and the unopened gatorade bottles. Opened bottles get tossed.

Quite frankly, I would toss the remaining things that you are having to wash. Next time it needs to be washed, toss it; or wash and place on the desk of whoever owns it along with a note that it needs to be taken home.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Hmmm, okay, it is a family business. Talk to your father or grandfather about a job that has more responsibility and more of a future than remaining the receptionist. Ask whether you need any schooling or certification to make that kind of move, and talk to him about the skills and talents he sees in you and how those best match the positions in the company. You're not asking for an immediate transfer, you are looking at mapping a career path. If this is the family business, some day you may be the one running the company, and you need to know that path to get there successfully. Quite frankly, if I owned a company and saw my child being disrespected as you are, the fit would hit the shan.

I have to wonder about the maturity and personal responsibility of the ones who work at the group homes rather than your offices that come in and leave huge messes; makes me wonder about the sanitary condition of those homes. Why the heck were there turkeys in your office at all? I might vaguely understand if it were late November and an office Thanksgiving feast was occurring...but in the spring?

 

[ChicknThief]

Don't bother asking. Simply post a notice on the door of the refrigerator on brightly coloured paper that any food or opened containers will be tossed every Friday at X o'clock. Don;t even sign the notice--just post it. Be fairly punctual on tossing it all (5 minutes late wouldn't hurt, but an hour would). So, you toss the Rubbermaid container with the salad, the half-eaten frozen dinner and the cup of soda from Burger King, but you leave the unopened can of peaches and the unopened gatorade bottles. Opened bottles get tossed.

Quite frankly, I would toss the remaining things that you are having to wash. Next time it needs to be washed, toss it; or wash and place on the desk of whoever owns it along with a note that it needs to be taken home.

I made a sign and will post it on Monday. Hopefully this will help take care of the problem

Hmmm, okay, it is a family business. Talk to your father or grandfather about a job that has more responsibility and more of a future than remaining the receptionist. Ask whether you need any schooling or certification to make that kind of move, and talk to him about the skills and talents he sees in you and how those best match the positions in the company. You're not asking for an immediate transfer, you are looking at mapping a career path. If this is the family business, some day you may be the one running the company, and you need to know that path to get there successfully. Quite frankly, if I owned a company and saw my child being disrespected as you are, the fit would hit the shan.

I have to wonder about the maturity and personal responsibility of the ones who work at the group homes rather than your offices that come in and leave huge messes; makes me wonder about the sanitary condition of those homes. Why the heck were there turkeys in your office at all? I might vaguely understand if it were late November and an office Thanksgiving feast was occurring...but in the spring?

I actually have no idea why they brought down turkeys. I wondered about it myself. Apparently a big turkey lunch is scheduled for this week, but there isn't a stated reason why. Guess someone just felt like turkey?

As for eventually running the company, good Lord I hope I never get roped into that. Don't get me wrong. I have a lot of respect for what we do. It just is not what I want to do as a permanent career. This job is a stepping stone. In 12 days I will have been here for three years. I am waiting until year 5 to turn in my resignation. That way I am fully vested in my retirement fund and can take the full amount without penalties. Otherwise I will have to leave a couple thousand dollars behind. I have talked to my dad about upward movement though. His answer was extremely discouraging. Basically they are very cautious about how they treat me, and how they allow others to treat me. They don't want anyone to feel like I am "special" or that I have any special privelages. This means that he won't step in about the cleaning. This also means that they can't promote me without stirring the pot of office politics. "She only got the job because she is the boss' daughter". They don't want to do that, and so this will be my desk until I resign. Which is sad, because there are a couple of jobs here that I think I would like to do and be good at.