I don't often ask for help but....

[annaraven]

As a parent, yeah - they're not supposed to be the ones to go!

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. You have every right to feel angry, betrayed, hurt, grieving or anything else you're going through.

I'm sure you'll do whatever you need to do to make sure your granddaughter is taken care of properly. She's not your dear daughter but she is your blood, and your daughter's connection with the future. And it'll be just a little easier on everyone if ya'll know what her mom's wishes were. Never easy, but one less load at a time when no one needs to deal with more than they already are.

Words fail. All I can do is tell you how sorry I am you're going through this.

 

[perolane]

Prayers &

going out for all of you!

 

[sonew123]

Aww Boyd

alot of great advice going on here for you and your family. My prayers will be strong for all of you!!!!

stay positive even through the tears

 

[turney31]

Gosh, I will be praying for you all.

May I suggest video taping her wishes. It might help for the deciding factors, to hear it from her and then, no doubt about who wrote what.

 

[chixie]

I am praying for your daughter and your family... hugs

 

[pdsavage]

If the father is still alive he still has rights,now this is hard to say as your hurting right now but if and i do mean if she passes you have rights as far as being grand parents and visitation.

she is proubly allready thinking this,so I would take her by the hand and ask if she has thought of her daughters future and what her wishes are.There is also through the probate court tempary gaurdianship,wich would keep the child in one place and if your daughter gets sicker gives you the right to get your grandaughter treated at the hospital or doctors office if your daughter is to weak to take her....

Grandparent Visitation Rights In The United States
http://family.jrank.org/pages/733/G...arent-Visitation-Rights-in-United-States.html

OR
Third Parties' Rights to Custody of a Child
http://family-law.lawyers.com/child-custody/Third-Parties-Rights-to-Custody-of-a-Child.html

Im not a praying person but I hope for the best for your family and hope this info will help you.

 

[Whispering Winds]

So sorry to hear this, have really missed your input on here since you got a job, for which I am very glad you did, but to see this sad post is heartbreaking. Will pray for you and your whole family, and PLEASE have the talk and get the paperwork in order. IF you don't, children's services might come in and take him because their rules are a lot different than what we think they should be. MY DS had a boy in his class just this past year, whose dad had to go to prison for awhile (nothing really bad, dummy just kept driving on suspended lic., and finally when he was caught the fifth time, it was jail time) and this 10 year old had never really known his mother, (she literally handed him to the dad when he was a baby and said, "here, you can have him. I don't want him" and the day that man went to jail, DCFS was there waiting to take this boy to a mother he never knew and away froom the grandparent's he had lived his whole life with, only because they never had guardianship paperwork done . . .he is back with the grandparent's now, but ONLY because the mother didn't want to mess with him after 2 months. It's a sad state of affairs, and my heart is so sad for you, but the grandson is the most important person right now, because his future needs to be secured. ALL the grandparents need to be at the meeting, or one with you Boyd, after you and Ashley get things in order, because if it becomes necessary to "share the care" a plan needs to be in order on who, what, when and where this little guy is going to be most of the time . . .everyone can always appear to be agreeable, but let them think they are being treated unfairly, even the nicest people turn into people you don't know! Thoughts and prayers coming your way, and will mention this for the prayer group at church Sunday. We have some powerful prayers in my SS class, they have touched me many times with their prayers.

 

[michickenwrangler]

Hope your daughter pulls through.

Now, I'm having all kinds of conversations and making decisions I didn't think I would have to make for years. In my current mindset, direct is best, (mainly because I begin crying if I beat around the bush). You may want to make the direct offer to care for granddaughter if daughter is unable to. My husband died without a will in place, and luckily the law favored my situation, but if there is a lot of family still alive, hard to say what could happen to granddaughter. My lawyer has been talking about setting up a legal trust for my daughter and it may not hurt for you to take daughter to a lawyer to do the same. You may even be able to do it on legalzoom.com

Just remind your daughter that you have her and granddaughter's interest at heart and if God(s) willing, your daughter comes through chemo well, granddaughter is still covered should an accident occur.

 

[Kansaseq]

Prayers sent.

 

[equine623]

Prayers coming from PA