I hit an all time low tonight.. but am getting better!

[incubatingisfun]

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Thanks!

I do have some eggs in the bator from this flock that I may get to hatch! I hope so!

good luck with your hatch

its always fun to have baby chickens

 

[Bammony]

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Interesting veiw. When my son comes in the house from being out at the coop and I specifically ask him if he shut the door and he lies and says yes, I would say yes. I guess it could be the adults fault that I can't follow all 8 of our children around all day checking up on their answers when we ask if they've done what they've been asked or taught to do. I didn't think of it like that. I'll rethink my parenting issues and see if I could maybe make them responsible for their actions and honesty issues at an older age. I feel terrible now. Maybe I could go hug him and tell him it was my fault instead and see how much I can confuse him.

Of course my son wasn't scolded. He feels terrible about it. How would scolding have helped? He was never told it was his fault, there's no need for that.

You must have me confused for a Mother who doesn't care about her children, and that is very sad. That couldn't be further from the truth.

 

[Bammony]

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The OP is a loving woman, whom I have had contact with for quite a while, and I can GUARANTEE she is not punishing that child. And yes the 9 year old was responsible for locking the coop. How else does a child learn? If you never give them responsiblities, and allow them to fail, how do they learn? That boy has learned something tonight. And it will stay with him for a good long time.

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you Debi! Thank you for that! I am actually quite hurt by that post you quoted. Thank you for confirming how much I care for my children.

 

[debilorrah]

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Interesting veiw. When my son comes in the house from being out at the coop and I specifically ask him if he shut the door and he lies and says yes, I would say yes. I guess it could be the adults fault that I can't follow all 8 of our children around all day checking up on their answers when we ask if they've done what they've been asked or taught to do. I didn't think of it like that. I'll rethink my parenting issues and see if I could maybe make them responsible for their actions and honesty issues at an older age. I feel terrible now. Maybe I could go hug him and tell him it was my fault instead and see how much I can confuse him.

Of course my son wasn't scolded. He feels terrible about it. How would scolding have helped? He was never told it was his fault, there's no need for that.

You must have me confused for a Mother who doesn't care about her children, and that is very sad. That couldn't be further from the truth.

See my response.....

 

[debilorrah]

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The OP is a loving woman, whom I have had contact with for quite a while, and I can GUARANTEE she is not punishing that child. And yes the 9 year old was responsible for locking the coop. How else does a child learn? If you never give them responsiblities, and allow them to fail, how do they learn? That boy has learned something tonight. And it will stay with him for a good long time.

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you Debi! Thank you for that! I am actually quite hurt by that post you quoted. Thank you for confirming how much I care for my children.

Laura I KNOW you, and I know you would never punish a child for learning what they did wrong.

 

[Bammony]

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you Debi! Thank you for that! I am actually quite hurt by that post you quoted. Thank you for confirming how much I care for my children.

Laura I KNOW you, and I know you would never punish a child for learning what they did wrong.

He's done a pretty good job of punishing himself tonight. I love my little man and will help him through this. Tonight's hitting both of us pretty hard.

 

[debilorrah]

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Laura I KNOW you, and I know you would never punish a child for learning what they did wrong.

He's done a pretty good job of punishing himself tonight. I love my little man and will help him through this. Tonight's hitting both of us pretty hard.

I can imagine. Poor guy!!!! What a lesson!!!

 

[justbugged]

These kinds of lessons are the ones that will stay with a child for the rest of their lives. He will have learned a number of things with this lesson. I will bet that this will be one of those defining moments in his life. It is hard as a parent to step back and allow the consequences to fall where they do. There is no lesson that can be taught with such impact as one like this. I know it is hard, and there could be other hardships, but then there could be hidden blessings too.

 

[Bammony]

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Well said. Thank you!

 

[silkiechick236]

for you and your little one