I just don't understand some people...

[The Yakima Kid]

I wouldn't just change my number; if I were renting my house I'd consider moving. It's really hard when you love someone who doesn't love you - just your wallet.

 

[DarkUnicorn]

Can't move yet.... thanks to no cash... but he wouldn't show up here.. the guys in the shop next door (as in 15 feet away) Will Kick His A** and have said so...

I've loved this guy since I was a kid. He was different then... I'm trying to remind myself that I love the person he was 15 years and more ago...

Oh don't worry the bank will be going er him for the loans, sadly I had to choose a bankruptcy... let's just say I dug myself a nice hole.... and I did learn my lesson! I paid those payments for just shy of a year, basically by myself. He would send 100 here or there... um not quite enough....

Never again will I sign anything for anyone else.... Nope, Nada, NO WAY!

I just wanted to thank all of you. I just needed a good solid kick back onto the better path cause I was starting to waver. There's really no one to chat with about this...

So again Thank You All!

 

[Catstar68]

You have found my ex.....RUN! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!

 

[Mattemma]

He seems to have forgotten the financial obligations. I am a fanatic when it comes to my credit and would not contact him just on that one point.Ofcourse if you add together all the other things mentioned it is wise for you to change your number.Remind him of why you are not having contact with him. You are not kids anymore and yet he is acting like one,and does not understand why you won't go along.

Indeed,giving you more chances for what? More stress? More heartache? More financial woes?

We love what could have been.The reality of what you actually would get is quite grim. Stick with your good man.Hopefully he is not freaky if you mention the past,becasue he should be privy(sp?) to what is going on.No need to let him think you are getting in with the childhood friend.

Best wishes whatever you decide to do.

 

[welsummerchicks]

Your 2 boys really need to see you make that happen.

I fell in love with someone like that who was a user. It really was quite the same, I loved him the way he had been when he was 17. But he was no longer that person. He became a drug user, would drive drunk, and the idea that he might kill someone driving made him - you wouldn't believe this, but he would just snicker and say, 'who gives a....'. If he thought he could get something out of a woman, he would do it without even pausing to wonder if it was ok.

I can't even describe the manipulative stunt he pulled on me when my mom died. This is a family web site.

It was very, very sad. But I had to get the cobwebs out of my eyes and see him who he really was today and stop thinking about what he used to be.

The other thing is, 'what he used to be', that probably isn't even what he used to be either. It is probably more what you NEEDED him to be back then.

 

[pdsavage]

For some reason you can't quit let him go...Did you get soft fuzzy warm feelings when you wrote the first post?If not why hang onto him?
Totally delete him from your life unless you love how he makes you feel now go back and read your first post thats how he made you feel.

 

[herefordlovinglady]

simply RUN, focus on you and your boys

 

[ScaredOfShadows]

I have been in your shoes and past it. I have learned alot in the few years I've been around - and thank god I wasn't so fooled and blind (just my realistic/narcissitic nature that saved me there) - into getting into debt for either of the two losers I was with.

This guy knows he can use you and abuse you financially because you've let him, and he wants to get back in on that little band wagon...Do not let him. He will only ruin you further and ruin the good relationship with a good guy you are in now. If you KNOW all his bad faults - and feel used and abused by him (Which is the vibe I keep getting) its not love that you're missing - its the rememberance of the love you ONCE had for him as a boy. He is now a horrible using man and the only thing to do to keep your boys from his influence is RUN AWAY - change your phone number but make sure you don't take the coward way - tell him the day you change your number either via text or call that you do not want anything else to do with him and are severing the connection. Let him know you are done, over, through, finished, and tell him good bye and good riddance - that is my only advice.

good luck ,take care, and best wishes!

 

[DarkUnicorn]

I haven't answered the phone when he calls at all and it pisses him off.

I spoke to my BF and when he goes to pay the cell bill tomorrow he's gonna look into blocking my ex's number or changing my number... I have to go to work and play musical buses again so I can't run to AT&T... We had a good long talk today too.... It helped as well... I'm honest with him and show him all the calls and texts. I won't hide anything from him...

Yeah I still get those moments of "fuzzy feelings" but then the "he hurt me" kicks in pretty darn fast and I can't forget that.

I plan to leave him in the past but the phone calls don't help much when he's being all nice....

I grew up and he didn't....... The past is well the past..

We had good moments and bad. I will be strong enough to keep going forward...

I just needed that swift kick when I was looking back...

Again thank you for the swift kick

I do appreciate it... Truly I do.

I feel better now that I got some time in at work today and saw some of my friends there... and can't wait for the school year to start because they will all keep me on the better path.... Summer is just hard since we all run with our separate families.....

Thanks again BYC....

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Quote:
No you have NOT. You may have loved the person you THOUGHT he was, but most likely you merely feel a very strong attraction to him; you have a crush on him. The person you think you love does not exist; probably never did.

It will get better.