I just need to get this off my chest

[chubbydog811]

First off -

The advice everyone has given so far is great! Just keep your head up, and don't give up!
I was with a real jerk of a guy for 4 years before I finally got the courage to break it off for good. Sometimes, finding the right person just takes awhile. Honestly, I gave up on finding a guy too. I was VERY leery of actually getting into a relationship with someone...I was the annoying "step in, then step right back out" kind of person with it. Very annoying (for me and whoever was on the other end).
I did just meet this wicked awesome guy though about a month ago. I've been making him jump through hoops...he's still around, and I'm slowing giving him my trust.
Point of my little story, is don't give up just because of one jerk who wants to be like that!
Good luck to you

 

[sourland]

In life past behavior generally predicts future behavior. In a way it's lucky that his true nature expressed itself before you were in a committed relationship with kids. Stay away from this jerk. When you least expect it a "good guy" will appear and you will know. Sorry that you had to deal with this.

 

[SillyChicken]

Quote:
Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me

 

[aubreynoramarie]

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I also had a really REALLY bad relationship for many years and afterwards I just seemed to give up. Just dated men and used em. My current boyfriend just fell into my lap at the right time and now we've been together for four years and e is honestly the greatest person I have ever met.

Don't be scared to try again! For ever good man out there there are plenty of bad ones

 

[Miyashi]

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Word!

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Don't give up on dating. Take some time to heal and do things to make yourself happy. In time, you will find someone who makes you happy. There are good people out there. We often find them when we aren't looking.

 

[vanilla.exe]

This is why people like us have pets. Boys (or girls) will come and go, but your pets usually only leave you if they die. And most of the time they listen without talking back. -hugs- It'll be ok. Give your heart time to heal and you will find someone else. Or if you decide that you really do just want to go it alone, that's okay too if it's what makes you happy.

 

[Attack Chicken]

Thank you all for your words of wisdom and Vanilla that is so true about the pets thing.

He never even really cared for my birds or other animals. He always "joked" about how I should get rid of them so I could spend more time with him. I simply made a jokingly laugh with the word no at the end.

It still hurts a little to think about him but you all have made up my mind to think and forget. Thank you all

 

[watchdogps]

Don't take this wrong, but you sound very young. If that's the case, just know that there are going to be a lot of guys who dont know what they want and you really shouldnt take it personally. Very few young men have any idea of what they are looking for long term, so take your time, have fun, and dont look at every guy as a long term potential.