I just need to vent a little

[skand]

Where was the adult?
Why did you just trust that she closed it up right? It's Not her fault that the owner did not make sure that thier birds were not vulnerable to the cold freezing temps and that the foxes,etc did not harm them?
Why is it that a child should hold all the responsibilty of a adult? Do you not ask your partner,lover, spouse if they checked to make sure that the doors were locked to the house?
Why did you not ask the child, then check to make sure it was closed? It is your responsibility of keeping your birds safe. If you don't make sure that she holds, feeds your birds in a safe manner, then how could you expect her to know how to do it right.
It is not the attitude of a child that is the problem, it is how the adult responds to the attitude that makes the difference.

 

[vfem]

Thanks for slapping the blame on me... hope that felt good for ya!

 

[skand]

No not placing blame, letting you stand back and see where the whole problem comes from. You should see all parts of the problem before placing total blame on a child, when you were just as much at fault.

 

[skand]

If I forget to see that one of my birds was left out overnight, and it gets eaten. Whose fault is it that I missed seeing that bird? Mine, my daughter's, my husband for not checking behind me, or the foxes for eating what was handed him?
As my mom always said, put up your playthings when you are done with them, so you don't lose them.

 

[vfem]

First of all, I came to vent a little on the situation. I had a right to be scared and upset. I did tell her to lock up, I was outside with her and her mother and she stated she got it. I did not see the nest box from where I was standing.

I should have known to just keep this to myself because there is always someone on here that is so much better then me, they have to state how wrong I am and how right they are.

Thanks for your concern and the slap in the face.

 

[skand]

I've done it with my pheasants. I left two out overnight, thankfully, no harm no foul.
I just thought you needed a reminder that it does happen, and we shouldnt run to place blame without thinking it through all the way. Yes she was wrong, but it wasn't totally her fault, you should have walked by and just checked to make sure that she didn't lie, just to get to leave.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Seems like an almost 11 year old is old enough to follow directions and old enough to know how to care for animals. If she was told to close up when she was done playing, then she was careless not to do so. Certainly it's fair for her to lose her chicken privledges until she has proven herself responsible and mature enough to handle them. (And I would think part of being mature and responsible would be to listen to you 100% of the time!)
Vfem trusted the girl and took her at her word. It is valid to expect an almost 11 year old to tell the truth when directly questioned.

Vfem- glad your girls are all okay. I too got out of my routine the other day and left the big coop gate open. I realized it before I went back inside, but it scared the willies out of me at what almost happened. What is your broody hatching?

 

[cockadoodlemom]

vfem just remember to check behind the kids all the time. Don't let skand's comments get to you. Yes you made a mistake by not checking behind this kid but it sounds like she leaves you rattled. I would tell my best friend that her child doesn't mind and your tired of dealing with her so she needs to have a serious one-on-one with this child or find another sitter. I can tell my bf anything and I am sure you can to or she isn't a bf.

 

[vfem]

Please stop replying, I'm getting this thread locked.


I came here to get it out, hear others situations, and move on. I let her mom know, and asked her not to say anything to her I would talk to her because she doesn't need to be punished or anything. Her mom seemed madder then me when she finally responded, but she's just going to let me handle it. I feel it was best to just be upset here, and get an idea that was good to show her what she did. A learning experience. She wants her own chickens and she has to prove her responsiblity first.

Even if someone got out or killed, I'd be upset but I would not go as far as punishing her or asking her mother to and so on. Because I get accidents happen. So I'll just leave this thread as a what have learned... and I will no longer be posting anything other then questions and congrats around here anymore.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Sorry, Vfem.
Hope it all works out for you and the girl.
Good luck!