I Just Want Her to be Loved :(

[saddina]

She is loved silly, you love her. If she ever asks why she doesn't see Grandma "Grandmother is very busy". You don't have to say with what, after a few years she'll figure out what busy means. Kids are bright, they pick up on what's not said as well.

 

[M To The Maxx]

I am so sorry you are going through this and your daughter. I can't be very helpful but I was thinking the same as the post above.

 

[GaNewChick]

My FIL has 3 grandchildren he has never met ~ ages 18, 15, & 11. He hasn't seen or talked to my step-daughter since she was 3 ~ that would make it 22 years.

You can't make somebody like you ~ I wouldn't say anything to her until she starts asking questions...and then take it from there.

Good luck!

 

[deb1]

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I had to break off contact with my mom because she was directing her abuse at my oldest daughter. She told Abigail that she wouldn't get to heaven like my youngest daughter would. Abbie was only nine years old. What a terrible thing for a grandmother to tell one of her grandkids.

Breaking off contact with her was the best thing for my kids.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Invite Granddad to visit often, but never invite Grandmom. If she comes, your husband needs to make it very clear to her what behavior is appropriate and what is out of line. If she crosses the boundary, he needs to tell her that she is no longer welcome. Continue inviting Granddad.

 

[Whispering Winds]

What a shame. But, life is too short and you need to be as honest with your little one as she can understand. Does she even realize it yet? If she doesn't, then let it be until she does notice. This is such a loss on the grandmother's part, what a sin and a shame. You know what they say, you can pick your friends, and you can pick your friend's nose, but you can't pick your family. Just do the best you can, and feel sorry for this woman and pray for her. She needs it desperately. But, don't cow down to her either. You deserve more respect than that, and it will be up to you to make sure SHE knows it. I think its great that you and your DH can make it work regardless. My MIL, who has now passed on, was very unfair to our kids also, she loved them but the other daughters kids and the older son's boys ruled and we all knew it. We just laughed it off and said they needed it worse than we all did. Our kids never really held it againest her, just tried to understand that it was just the way it was. Good luck and pray that the hand of God will reach down and grab ahold of her shoulder (Hard!) and make her see the error of her ways.

 

[debilorrah]

I had a MIL like that. I always told Brandon that she doesn't dislike him, she dislikes everyone.

 

[McCord6]

I know how that feels. My kids are not rejected by husband's family but his Uncle is doing whatever he can just to get my kids taken away from us. He has called DCF on us too many times to count but they end up not finding anything to support the complaint.

I found out from my father in law that he has once again called the Children's Service and Im armed and ready for them next week if they show up. This time I ain't taking anymore B.S. When they show up and find out that there is nothing to go against me and my husband, Im filing a false accusation harrassment charges against him. Im fed up! We hardly ever see him but every time he comes up north florida from south florida, he files a complaint against us.

This time it's over our CHICKS being in the house! Oh common, how dangerous towards kids are tiny little 1 week old chicks?

 

[English Chick]

Well Holly... I think it is time to "kick your MIL to the kerb" ... it is a simple as that, neither you nor your daughter needs to tolerate this verbal abuse from her any longer...... let her get on with her own life, whilst you and yours live your loving and caing lives together and away from her venom.