Quick run down for those who don't know my situation. My husband is active duty military and stationed at a base the children and I cannot live due to serious health issues with our youngest son. We have lived apart for 4 years now. We get to see him twice a year. Once for a week mid Summer and for a week during the Winter Holidays. There is no way we can afford for him to come home more often. Maintaining two separate households is pretty expensive. Anyway, his family knows this. His mother also hates me and has made that very clear. For the past 3 years she sends him plane tickets to fly him to her house for Thanksgiving. This is not some teenage boy away from home. This is a man who has a wife and three children he would love to be with, would much rather be with than going to her house, but his only choice is to go there or be alone. Oh, this doesn't include any offer to help me and the kids go there, or even an invitation to go there if we chose to on our own. If it was me I would refuse the tickets and spend Thanksgiving by myself. He won't. I bite my tongue and haven't said a word, but it makes me angry and it hurts. I don't think she should have to pay for him to come see us, I just think it is VERY wrong for her to pay for him to go there. Am I totally wrong in feeling this way?