I know I had to do what was right...

[redhen]

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My husband has done alot even when the doctor said NO. He was in the hospital 6 weeks ago for chest pain that they couldn't figure out where it was coming from so they suspected his heart, which is why he been out of work for a while. But Since he been out of work he been doing scrap yarding, going to people's houses (that call and request) picking up their trash and taking it to the scrap yard. It brought us some money but not enough since the prices at the scrap yard has been cut by alot! He was also doing odd jobs for a friends' mom. This was all until the truck broke down, leaving us hanging, then a old friend popped up and asked if hubby wants to help him with gathering stuff up and doing odd jobs for side money. They been doing it together and splitting the profit, which isn't much. when the electric got cut off, his friend gave him his half of the profit. If hubby doesn't get his job back at the AC company, he has a back up plan. There is a job site in Gainesville that hires just about anyone and they appoint the employees to different companies, ususally construction related, and they do odd jobs and stuff for that company and get paid daily (maybe $50 to $80 a day, depends on if you have your own transportation and if you are "carpooling" for others who don't have the transportation). Hubby is WELL known there and that is how he got his job at the AC company, was through them. The name of the company is Able Body Laborers.

The doctor has given him permission to go back to work but he needs to get the truck running, which is to replace the rear end. Just today his dad gave him the last parts that he needs, the truck should be on the road in a few hours, as soon as they get the new brakes, brake line and a few other things put on, which they are doing right now.

I am stressed out and so is he, everyone is. Im hoping and praying that things would get better now that he will be back to work on Monday.

He said he doesn't care if which it will be. If he doesn't go south with the AC company, he is going to ABL no matter what. I got the older kids back today, we descussed it and decided they can come home since the power IS back on. My friend BEGGED to keep Baby Lily for a lil while, She is having a BLAST, which I don't mind. She is being SPOILED over there and has ALOT of attention. This is giving me a lil time to get some stuff done (work work work) around the house and rest in between. Kids are outside with Papa right now doing this and that around the yard while Daddy is working on the truck. Im going back and forth between cleaning this and that and to the computer to see if I got any craigslist response.

I got alot done already today. I cleaned the fish tank, turtle tank, and scrubbed the truck's bed cover (I thought it was brown in color but suprise it is really WHITE!

It never been cleaned since we got it...

). Im actually feeling pretty good today, sore but have alot of energy. I want to tackle the yard myself, at least clean the front porch (CAN I?! I promise that I won't lift the heavy boxes, just straighten up a lil!). Im going to get as much laundry done as I can as well.

Mccord..you need to stop making excuses for your DH..if he was able to do ALL these side jobs...he should be able to go back to work. He wasnt crippled..again..sorry, but you know that i'm going to be honest with you. (because i care what happens to your family..)
I feel very bad for you..you shouldnt have to deal with all this right now...your expecting another baby very soon. its supposed to be a time of joy..not this stress crap...
I think that you need to sit you DH down and have a REAL serious conversation....you CANT get any more serious than having to give up your kids because of an unpaid bill...

Something IS wrong there..and you need to REALLY look hard into it...
Again, if i lived by you i would help your kids out in a heartbeat!!...but YOU are the adult..you need to make sure you AND your DH are responsible enough to be bringing more children into this world. You have my best wishes that things get better...but only YOU and your DH can make them better...time to get motivated....you have a little baby coming soon that will depend on you to be a responsible parent.

 

[Slinkytoys]

I know this is going to sound witchy, but I just can't help it.
Quit having kids. If you can't afford them, don't have any more. It's not fair to them. Our society today can be quite harsh to those who can't keep up (computers for their homework for example). I'm not saying that it's right by any means, but it is a fact of life.
We owe it to our children to give them the best start in life possible. How can we do that if we can't afford housing, electricity, food and other necessities? I'm not trying to be cruel, but hey---you do know what causes pregnancy don't you?
Please understand that I'm not trying to bash you, I know things are hard for many now a days.

Carrie McLean

 

[ranchhand]

Gosh, I'm just glad there are people to take care of the kids, since ya'll can't. I guess your friend took Baby Lily out of her concern for the child, what a nice friend! Everyone needs friends like that! And you said she's getting "ALOT" of attention, which must be nice for her.

You know, if your DH is able to do scrap-yarding then he can clean up the front yard and porch at the same time, and since you are cleaning the inside, that will all help make the father in law happier, then he won't be able to yell at you. Even though he IS helping pay your bills. Sounds like you and FIL have quite a history.

And get rid of the ants before the baby gets back.

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?pid=3217416#p3217416

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=267241

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=267576

What happened to being so happy?

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=267944

I am truly sorry you all are having such a hard time right now. But a lot of your topics posted seem to be emotional outbursts- I know it's hard being pregnant, and if you aren't careful, the hormones will take control. You certainly have enough experience with that to deal with it. Women have carried children for centuries, long before they had a chance to rant on BYC or the internet in general.

Get your emotions under control- look at the terrible situation you are in with calm and logic- and then tackle each issue, one at a time. You CAN do this! Be practical and logical.

 

[ranchhand]

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I wasn't going to say it, but that's what I wanted to say.

I am NOT saying you are a bad Mom- only that you have more kids (and animals, btw) than money. I hope the world looks better for you soon. Meanwhile, more time doing stuff and less time on the computer.

 

[Katy]

I always wanted at least 6 kids. We had 3...why? Because that's all we could afford....and there were times affording them was a stretch. By the time they're teen-agers the costs for just the basics for them is unreal....and that's without name brand anything. I am sorry that you're having a rough time of it, but I think you and your hubby need to take a hard look at your finances and what you need to do differently. It is not fair to your children.

 

[McCord6]

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LOL! This little one was SOOO unexpected. I did have my tubes tied after DD2 was born but still I got pregnant again. I already spoke to my midwife about trying a different way, which now they have a new technology that is WAY better then the surgery type and we are going for that one. they put some kind of rod in your tubes and they naturally close up. After 3 months, a type dye will be inserted and an MRI will be done to confirm rather the tubes are fully closed or not. This new technology, so far, has not failed.

Im not the only one that I know of that had their tubes tied and it FAILED! Having your tubes tied is not always successful. A lady down the street from where we used to live got pregnant with TWINS right after having her's tied then after the twins were born, she tied them again, but that failed as well. She ended up having her entire ovaries removed.

Money was good up until about 2 months ago...Hubby's job slowed down then he wasn't allowed to work based by Dr's orders. Not making excuses for hubby, that's the fact of what it is. Anybody's income can go for steady and good to absolute NOTHING overnight. Times are hard nowaday.

 

[TipsyDog]

Wow - I didn't know about the tube ties thing. When I did mine (after 1 kid) 20 years ago, the doctor told me "If you get pregnant now, you'd better have the kid because it'll be the second coming".

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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My husband has done alot even when the doctor said NO. He was in the hospital 6 weeks ago for chest pain that they couldn't figure out where it was coming from so they suspected his heart, which is why he been out of work for a while. But Since he been out of work he been doing scrap yarding, going to people's houses (that call and request) picking up their trash and taking it to the scrap yard. It brought us some money but not enough since the prices at the scrap yard has been cut by alot! He was also doing odd jobs for a friends' mom. This was all until the truck broke down, leaving us hanging, then a old friend popped up and asked if hubby wants to help him with gathering stuff up and doing odd jobs for side money. They been doing it together and splitting the profit, which isn't much. when the electric got cut off, his friend gave him his half of the profit. If hubby doesn't get his job back at the AC company, he has a back up plan. There is a job site in Gainesville that hires just about anyone and they appoint the employees to different companies, ususally construction related, and they do odd jobs and stuff for that company and get paid daily (maybe $50 to $80 a day, depends on if you have your own transportation and if you are "carpooling" for others who don't have the transportation). Hubby is WELL known there and that is how he got his job at the AC company, was through them. The name of the company is Able Body Laborers.

The doctor has given him permission to go back to work but he needs to get the truck running, which is to replace the rear end. Just today his dad gave him the last parts that he needs, the truck should be on the road in a few hours, as soon as they get the new brakes, brake line and a few other things put on, which they are doing right now.

I am stressed out and so is he, everyone is. Im hoping and praying that things would get better now that he will be back to work on Monday.

He said he doesn't care if which it will be. If he doesn't go south with the AC company, he is going to ABL no matter what. I got the older kids back today, we descussed it and decided they can come home since the power IS back on. My friend BEGGED to keep Baby Lily for a lil while, She is having a BLAST, which I don't mind. She is being SPOILED over there and has ALOT of attention. This is giving me a lil time to get some stuff done (work work work) around the house and rest in between. Kids are outside with Papa right now doing this and that around the yard while Daddy is working on the truck. Im going back and forth between cleaning this and that and to the computer to see if I got any craigslist response.

I got alot done already today. I cleaned the fish tank, turtle tank, and scrubbed the truck's bed cover (I thought it was brown in color but suprise it is really WHITE!

It never been cleaned since we got it...

). Im actually feeling pretty good today, sore but have alot of energy. I want to tackle the yard myself, at least clean the front porch (CAN I?! I promise that I won't lift the heavy boxes, just straighten up a lil!). Im going to get as much laundry done as I can as well.

Mccord..you need to stop making excuses for your DH..if he was able to do ALL these side jobs...he should be able to go back to work. He wasnt crippled..again..sorry, but you know that i'm going to be honest with you. (because i care what happens to your family..)
I feel very bad for you..you shouldnt have to deal with all this right now...your expecting another baby very soon. its supposed to be a time of joy..not this stress crap...
I think that you need to sit you DH down and have a REAL serious conversation....you CANT get any more serious than having to give up your kids because of an unpaid bill...

Something IS wrong there..and you need to REALLY look hard into it...
Again, if i lived by you i would help your kids out in a heartbeat!!...but YOU are the adult..you need to make sure you AND your DH are responsible enough to be bringing more children into this world. You have my best wishes that things get better...but only YOU and your DH can make them better...time to get motivated....you have a little baby coming soon that will depend on you to be a responsible parent.

Hmmm, so you are telling someone at serious risk of having a heart attack and dying, leaving her a widow with NO support, that he needs to ignore medical advice and "man-up"?

Maybe I'm just not getting it--to me, sending the kids to spend a few days with close friends is not at all the same as turning them over to CPS and saying "I can't take care of them." Having an on-line friend take care of them is no different than having a friend who is a neighbor take care of them.

There are probably things that they can and should have done to avoid the current situation, but crying about spilt milk doesn't change the fact that it is gone and the mess needs to be cleaned up. Which is what they are trying to do. Driving wedges between a wife and her husband is not helpful in any way.

Oh, and many, many of the people who have a legitimate need and right to a disability parking sticker do not "look" like they need it, but they are DISABLED. This is exactly the same situation that her husband has been in--disabled, but it is not visibly obvious.

 

[ranchhand]

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Mccord..you need to stop making excuses for your DH..if he was able to do ALL these side jobs...he should be able to go back to work. He wasnt crippled..again..sorry, but you know that i'm going to be honest with you. (because i care what happens to your family..)
I feel very bad for you..you shouldnt have to deal with all this right now...your expecting another baby very soon. its supposed to be a time of joy..not this stress crap...
I think that you need to sit you DH down and have a REAL serious conversation....you CANT get any more serious than having to give up your kids because of an unpaid bill...

Something IS wrong there..and you need to REALLY look hard into it...
Again, if i lived by you i would help your kids out in a heartbeat!!...but YOU are the adult..you need to make sure you AND your DH are responsible enough to be bringing more children into this world. You have my best wishes that things get better...but only YOU and your DH can make them better...time to get motivated....you have a little baby coming soon that will depend on you to be a responsible parent.

Hmmm, so you are telling someone at serious risk of having a heart attack and dying, leaving her a widow with NO support, that he needs to ignore medical advice and "man-up"?

Maybe I'm just not getting it--to me, sending the kids to spend a few days with close friends is not at all the same as turning them over to CPS and saying "I can't take care of them." Having an on-line friend take care of them is no different than having a friend who is a neighbor take care of them.

There are probably things that they can and should have done to avoid the current situation, but crying about spilt milk doesn't change the fact that it is gone and the mess needs to be cleaned up. Which is what they are trying to do. Driving wedges between a wife and her husband is not helpful in any way.

Oh, and many, many of the people who have a legitimate need and right to a disability parking sticker do not "look" like they need it, but they are DISABLED. This is exactly the same situation that her husband has been in--disabled, but it is not visibly obvious.

Some further reading of the OP's threads, of which there are many, might clarify their terrible, awful, miserable, pitiful situation. It is just heartbreaking, all the woe and misfortune that has befallen them.

 

[agnes_day]

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LOL! This little one was SOOO unexpected. I did have my tubes tied after DD2 was born but still I got pregnant again. I already spoke to my midwife about trying a different way, which now they have a new technology that is WAY better then the surgery type and we are going for that one. they put some kind of rod in your tubes and they naturally close up. After 3 months, a type dye will be inserted and an MRI will be done to confirm rather the tubes are fully closed or not. This new technology, so far, has not failed.

Im not the only one that I know of that had their tubes tied and it FAILED! Having your tubes tied is not always successful. A lady down the street from where we used to live got pregnant with TWINS right after having her's tied then after the twins were born, she tied them again, but that failed as well. She ended up having her entire ovaries removed.

Money was good up until about 2 months ago...Hubby's job slowed down then he wasn't allowed to work based by Dr's orders. Not making excuses for hubby, that's the fact of what it is. Anybody's income can go for steady and good to absolute NOTHING overnight. Times are hard nowaday.

the thing is... when you post things like this :
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it makes people worry about your situation...if your little girl has never had decent clothing or ever had a brand new pair of shoes then its time to sell the computer and the wii and get that little girl some clothes. seriously, tell your husband its time to grow up and be an example for his children.