I Lost My Best Friend My Husband Bill

[cassie]

A good friend's husband was killed in a motorcycle accident. The deputy who came to deliver the bad news sat her down and gave her some good advice. She said that in a way it was like a lifeline. He told her to live by the clock. Meaning that she would not feel like eating or sleeping so to watch the clock and do those things at the proper time. He told her that it was very important that she take care of herself. She was to go to bed at her regular time and to get up at her regular time and to eat regular meals. When the clock says it is mealtime eat whether you are hungry or not. Take pleasure in small things like a bird's song, a beautiful rose or a baby's smile. Try to have someting to look forward to each day. For me it is a special cup of tea and a good cookie. No matter how hellish my day has been, I have that little ritual to look forward to. Get through it one day at a time or one hour at a time. You can eat an elephant one bite at a time.

In just a little over a year, I have lost my mother, my step father and my husband. The advice the deputy gave my friend has helped me cope.

Veterans are entitled to burial and a nice ceremony at a national cemetery and it is free. My husband died in May and we had him buried at the San Joaquin National Cemetery. I think the address is Gustine but it is near Santa Nella. It was very nice. The funeral home can tell you how to proceed.

I am very sorry for your loss.

 

[the lemon tree]

I just can't imagine the sorry and the shock that you're enduring. My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family.

 

[SillyChicken]

Sorry for your loss...

 

[dinahmoe]

i am sorry!

 

[chics in the sun]

I am a widow, too, and for a long time I second-guessed and had a lot of "what-ifs" about my husband's cancer, which wasn't caught until it was too late. I've since accepted that there was nothing that could have been done differnt, and that the outcome would have been the same regardless. With not catching it early, it gave him a happy, normal life until the very last month of it. We didn't know he was sick until after our son was born, and for that he was always grateful. What if you had heard your husband on the floor? Maybe he would now be in the ICU now, with tubes and machines everywhere and brain damage and no quality of life for months and months while the doctors and you and your family had to make decisions nobody should have to make. This is how it was meant to end for him, so don't berate yourself or blame yourself. Just remeber him everyday for the the life he lived, and I promise you over time the pain will ease.

 

[sourland]

My eyes are filled with tears. I feel your pain. Surround yourself with loved ones.

 

[andehens]

 

[OrpingtonManor]

Oh Kim, I'm so overwhelmed by this post. I'm sorry I didn't see it yesterday. I know Bill was everything to you. What a terrible tragedy! Please, please let us know if there is anything we can do. I am only an hour away from you.

 

[chuckzoo]

So sorry!

 

[easttxchick]

I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss. Praying for strength and peace for you.