StormyMoon I had to do it your way, too--the slow cutting down. I eventually doled out how many cigs I was allowed each day and let myself "get used" to that. When I was down to 6 a day, having donw that for two weeks, I was finally ready both physically and mentally to quit.
I really believe being ready in my mind was the bigger battle for me. I did exactly as you did, too-- went back when the origional reason for quitting became less of a reason. Three times! I SOOOO feel for you-- this is hard! I have been a non smoker for 12 years now, and there are times when I smell a lit cig, I WANTTTTT!!! But one cig would be all it took to restart, so i look at it like an alcohlic friend helped me see --just DON'T have the "one"--ever.
Good luck to you and I'll pray for your success! I know the chickies really help with your motivation!