I need advice big time!!!

[Baymule]

I babysat other kids when my own kids were small. I had good experiences with good people. I kept 4-6 children besides my own 2 kids. No one treated me like you are being treated, nor would have I tolerated it. YOUR FAMILY COMES FIRST!! I loved all the other children, some of which I still know now and they grew up to be pretty good adults.

Make rules. Do it now. Getting PAID is rule number one. Period.

 

[hollys chooks]

I' d be teaching them plenty of art, finger painting, pottery, maybe a swear word or two. I'd make sure they spent some time close to the stinky problem basement. And I'd send them home in whatever state they got into through the day. But then I am a terrible person and no one ever asks me to babysit.

 

[BusyBlonde]

I' d be teaching them plenty of art, finger painting, pottery, maybe a swear word or two. I'd make sure they spent some time close to the stinky problem basement. And I'd send them home in whatever state they got into through the day. But then I am a terrible person and no one ever asks me to babysit.

 

[1muttsfan]

But then I am a terrible person and no one ever asks me to babysit.

No one ever asks me to babysit twice - once a friend's daughter said "I am hungry" as she sat on the floor watching TV. I said "OK". After a few minutes she said, "Aren't you going to get me some food?" And I said "I never heard a please in there" - rolling her eyes she said "OK - Please" and I said, "you are old enought to get your own food and you know where the kitchen is. I am not your mother. Help yourself".

 

[mstricer]

I babysat other kids when my own kids were small. I had good experiences with good people. I kept 4-6 children besides my own 2 kids. No one treated me like you are being treated, nor would have I tolerated it. YOUR FAMILY COMES FIRST!! I loved all the other children, some of which I still know now and they grew up to be pretty good adults.

Make rules. Do it now. Getting PAID is rule number one. Period.

I also babysat when my children were going up, it was a way for me to make money and be home with my kids. I always interviewed the parents and the kids, I got the first and week of payment up front. I loved caring for kids. If I watched them a day extra they got charged overtime. You are giving them a service, they sell things don't they want their money also. Find your voice and tell them they have 3 days to pay you in full or they can take the kids to the store with them, it is not you concern then. Did you even set up a weekly fee?

I' d be teaching them plenty of art, finger painting, pottery, maybe a swear word or two. I'd make sure they spent some time close to the stinky problem basement. And I'd send them home in whatever state they got into through the day. But then I am a terrible person and no one ever asks me to babysit.

I was fine with what you said until the swear word or too. REALLY, not trying to be mean, but I hope you don't have kids.

Quote: Then if you don't want to do it right, then why say yes.

 

[hollys chooks]

I was fine with what you said until the swear word or too. REALLY, not trying to be mean, but I hope you don't have kids.

So do I.

 

[chickened]

Them telling you bad things will happen if you don't watch them is a scam. They will simply reapply to another persons' sympathy. I would cut your losses, they will be fine as users are taken care of in society nowdays.

 

[Mattemma]

If you say anything I doubt you will get paid. I am suprised they did not give a $20 here and there. That to me shows they don't give a hoot.I would cut your losses and just stop cold turkey.Tell them when they drop off the kids,"Hey today is the last day I can take care of your kids and pets." I would not say why,but if they pushed I would say," Well it is just to stressful for me to have everyone,and then on top of that I don't even get paid." Stick by it.The mom can totally watch her own kids and pets the next day.No need for you to watch them while they find someone.End of story.It might mean the kids lose the friends,but oh well you are all better off.

Life is to short to be scammed by others, I agree users and scammers always find a way to survive.Let it not be off you anymore.It is hard to do this,but you will feel better once it is over.

 

[sonew123]

Updates?

 

[Mtn Laurel]

Yikes! That's a mess and a half, alright.

I have a measuring stick for such situations. I ask myself "Is what I'm doing in the best interest of my children, my family, and myself?" My way of thinking is that my first responsibility and my first obligations go to my children and then my family as a whole and then certainly to myself because if Momma can't function, then nothing will go right. If anything is compromising that, then something has to change.

If it were me, I'd give them a three day notice. Tell them that your first responsibility is to your children and family life and that both are suffering under the current arrangement. If they can't understand that, then they're not friends you need to keep.