I need advice (egg and person related)- Long Read

[raingarden]

It may be best that you do not show this to your boyfriend.

 

[CKfarm22]

It may be best that you do not show this to your boyfriend.

And who said i was going to LOL.

Also see your original comment was “your relationship is doomed” so could you elaborate as to how lol.

 

[raingarden]

No

 

[SourRoses]

A long time ago, I don't remember when, I learned that things outside of my immediate possession were outside of my control.
I would chalk those particular chickens up as a loss and stop investing in them.

It's not right and it's not fair, but it seems like you're stuck learning the painful lesson here... she has taken control and you have zero leverage to get it back.

She has shown you who she is, do you believe her?

Your boyfriend has demonstrated he will not choose your side over hers. Is that the kind of relationship you want moving forward?

People don't change just because you want them to. Women the world over have had to learn that lesson the hard, time sucking, soul crushing way again and again and again.
The faster you can learn it, the more likely it is that you'll get the chance to become the woman you meant to be, rather than what others want from you.

 

[CKfarm22]

A long time ago, I don't remember when, I learned that things outside of my immediate possession were outside of my control.
I would chalk those particular chickens up as a loss and stop investing in them.

It's not right and it's not fair, but it seems like you're stuck learning the painful lesson here... she has taken control and you have zero leverage to get it back.

She has shown you who she is, do you believe her?

Your boyfriend has demonstrated he will not choose your side over hers. Is that the kind of relationship you want moving forward?

People don't change just because you want them to. Women the world over have had to learn that lesson the hard, time sucking, soul crushing way again and again and again.
The faster you can learn it, the more likely it is that you'll get the chance to become the woman you meant to be, rather than what others want from you.

Unfortunately, you are right. He did choose my side over her taking eggs whenever she felt like, and he agreed it wasn’t right to just help herself. I can say that.

 

[CKfarm22]

I am asking admin to close this thread as people are getting off track saying my relationship is doomed but will not elaborate. Thanks to all that actually helped.

 

[Wyorp Rock]

Eh, it's not doomed.

What's she doing with the eggs? What is she making?
Sounds like an odd question, but I'm interested.

 

[CKfarm22]

Eh, it's not doomed.

What's she doing with the eggs? What is she making?
Sounds like an odd question, but I'm interested.

She eats them for protein the 2 days a week she works…. nothing else… and she’s told me in the past she uses only like 3 eggs… that’s half a carton a week.. so i don’t know where the other eggs are going that she needs a carton every week lol.

Sometimes his sister makes cakes and stuff but that’s once in a blue moon. Other then that she doesn’t make dinner or anything else so i’m not really sure where they’re all going too lol

The one week i did check the refrigerator because I felt like being nice and giving her a carton because my mom just got a carton, she had a carton of store bought and a carton of ours in the fridge. lol

 

[Wyorp Rock]

She eats them for protein the 2 days a week she works…. nothing else… and she’s told me in the past she uses only like 3 eggs… that’s half a carton a week.. so i don’t know where the other eggs are going that she needs a carton every week lol.

Sometimes his sister makes cakes and stuff but that’s once in a blue moon. Other then that she doesn’t make dinner or anything else so i’m not really sure where they’re all going too lol

The one week i did check the refrigerator because I felt like being nice and giving her a carton because my mom just got a carton, she had a carton of store bought and a carton of ours in the fridge. lol

OK.

Well, I think that you really need to communicate with her as previously suggested.
If this has not been brought up, then she doesn't even realize how you feel or that you have plans for using the eggs to sell, to eat for yourself, etc.

Keep up with tracking the eggs laid too. You may discover you are not getting as many eggs as you think you are too.

As for your coop/his coop, her property/his property. If the property is in her name, it's hers. Sorry there Kiddo. Doesn't matter what he does around the property, it's still hers. There's no entitlement there. I'm up there in the Geezer category, but for many years I did chores at different relatives places - mowing, maintenance, whatever - giving my time, using my money and my equipment (we are talking acres and acres here). Doing these things gave me no entitlement to anything they have or had, it was just helping out family.
I'm not bashing you. You're young and there's things you will end up dealing with as time goes by. You can fill your life with love, hope, kindness and caring - communicate it as you go, things won't always work as you hope, but you still try or you can become filled with resentment and a victim mentality. It's your choice.

 

[CKfarm22]

OK.

Well, I think that you really need to communicate with her as previously suggested.
If this has not been brought up, then she doesn't even realize how you feel or that you have plans for using the eggs to sell, to eat for yourself, etc.

Keep up with tracking the eggs laid too. You may discover you are not getting as many eggs as you think you are too.

As for your coop/his coop, her property/his property. If the property is in her name, it's hers. Sorry there Kiddo. Doesn't matter what he does around the property, it's still hers. There's no entitlement there. I'm up there in the Geezer category, but for many years I did chores at different relatives places - mowing, maintenance, whatever - giving my time, using my money and my equipment (we are talking acres and acres here). Doing these things gave me no entitlement to anything they have or had, it was just helping out family.
I'm not bashing you. You're young and there's things you will end up dealing with as time goes by. You can fill your life with love, hope, kindness and caring - communicate it as you go, things won't always work as you hope, but you still try or you can become filled with resentment and a victim mentality. It's your choice.

Thank you, I really appreciate it. I’m going to end up talking to her about it, and what mine and my boyfriends plans are about selling the eggs. She will need to let us know in advanced if she needs them.

I’m no way bashing her, really. It’s just I'm so confused by her actions, and i needed to know if i was over reacting about it