I need help with a friend situation!

[tabsmonsters]

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Well, she bought the popcorn from my kids so I guess that makes me part of the transaction. I also volunteer for the Pack.

 

[tabsmonsters]

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I highly doubt it. Maybe her home number but that was disconnected a year ago.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

If she questions you and you are worried about being honest, put it into her head that perhaps the leader got the number from the bank or from a credit bureau. If she has money troubles frequently, this might be something she would believe.

I agree with not selling anything to her in the future, and that it was smart to involve the leader.

Good luck with this situation!

 

[FunnyFarmer]

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So, you were supposed to tell the troop leader "no, you can't have this person's phone no?" There are ways of getting people's contact info in situations like that. Just don't say anything to your friend unless it comes up and then say as little as possible.

 

[tabsmonsters]

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Good Idea! Thanks!

 

[bantamman13]

Tough situation for sure I am glad my son is not having to sale anything right now with the economy it seems like it's harder to deal with these fundraisers right now. Unfortunately sounds like you have you one of those danged if you danged if you don't situations.

 

[Jennyhaschicks]

Is she brings it up to you I or asks how your leader got your friend's number I would not give any more info then needed. I would just say that the leader called and asked you for your friend's number and you have no idea why.

 

[ksacres]

Honestly, if I had a friend that I knew had money trouble, I wouldn't have asked her to buy into a fund raiser in the first place. She probably knew she couldn't afford it but didn't want to hurt your (or your kids') feelings.

That aside, I still think you are better off letting the leader handle it. Her address MUST have been on her check, banks provide legal copies of returned checks, have the leader go over to her physical address and talk to her.

Really, friends and money don't mix.

 

[conny63malies]

You know a friend wouldnt do that to your kids in the first place.

 

[HennysMom]

Ouch - rough situation. I agree with the others pretty much however I differ in once thing: If selling any future items to this person, I'd request a CASH ONLY SALE - that way this person doesnt feel ostracized due to this unfortunate situation. Again, she may have felt pressured to purchase given she was your friend and - while what she did wasnt right (if it were known in advance that the funds werent there) - to exclude her from future fundraisers would just damage the friendship more.

I'm sure she's feeling pretty embarrassed and low right about now knowing she's bounced a check....and to you of all people.

Second chances go very far...remember more flies with honey than vinegar.