I feel that my wife is not fulfilling her duty as a full time mother. We have a five week old son and is our first child. We agreed she will be a full-time stay at home mom for however long she wants while I look for a job and start working; I am currently unemployed for seven months, but about to start a new job in coming weeks. Our agreement has been she does majority of rearing our child. I take care of him as much as I can during the day, which equals to about 3-6 hours of the day. Sometimes more or less, depends if im job hunting or interviewing. We are living at her mom's. We relocated to the area in hopes I can find better employment. The mother's mom (Baby's grandmother) will take care of him for about 8-12 hours of the day and not at night. So, really the only time the mother has to take care of him is at night.....which she may take care of him for about 7 hours (from 10pm till 5am) and she insists that I and her mom take care of him from 5am and on rest of the day. His mom occasionally cares for him during the day, but sometimes it is sporadic, and very few times up to 6 hours, but she usually hands him off to me or the grandmother Now, I am becoming upset with the situation of her not rearing our child. She gets stressed because he wakes up every two hours at night either to eat or wants to be held. (The mother and grandmother will typically hold him for the entire day. When I care for him, I try not to hold him the whole time by laying him in the bassinet or swing.) I don't care what the professionals say "you cannot spoil" a newborn, because you most certainly can! I explained to my wife and grandmother, it is not about leaving him in the crib or bassinate while he is crying, it is when he is content and happy is when to lay him down. of course, my wife and her mother are not very receptive of my advice giving. Now, my question is, am I being unreasonable that his mother should start picking up more responsibility of caring for our child? I admit, I have a hard time caring for him during the night, which is why my wife takes care of him at night. I agreed to care for him during most of the day when i am home. I have to attend job hunting courses and other job hunting obligations couple times a week for 12 hours each time, so i dont always get to care for him more than couple of hours. But I am beginning to wonder if while i am at work, will his mother simply going to dump him off to the grandmother and not take full responsibility of care for him. Should I be concerned and confront my wife or am I not sensitive and should i be more helpful during the night. I don't mind helping her when he is extremely fussy and i typically do. But lately, i am having to care for him about 1-2 hours every night because she just lays there in bed and refuses to get up and tells me to take care of him.