I need to get talked down a bit maybe

[EweSheep]

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I did that but original doctor's staff refused. So I had to ask the others doctors that was referred to give the new doctor some idea of the tests just to see where they can pick up from. And the old RX's medication bottles, and so forth.

To OP, I really hope you can transfer to another doctor for a second opinion. No doctor should tell you what to do if you are strongly AGAINST whatever they do or suggest or advise you to do for your daughter.

 

[zazouse]

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I agree 100 Percent.

qas far as your kidos size you be the judge as long as she is not sick.

I, my dear hubby and all my daughters were tiny growing up and never had the baby fat like some toddlers and we all have grown up to be small as far as weight goes.

I was once told that people form fat cells as toddlers and that alot of times chubby toddlers grow up to be chubby adults in the end.

 

[rancher hicks]

Perhaps it's time to see a lawyer? Do a check to see what your rights are to getting their records in your state.

Here in NY? They have to give you copies.

Send them a certified with a return receipt letter requesting they send all you childrens records to the new doctor. If they don't then call a lawyer and report them to the MDA. Let them know this is your intent before you do and see what they say to that?

I wish you the best,

Rancher

 

[rancher hicks]

BINGO! FOUND IT FIRST POSTING AFTER REQUESTING "MEDICAL RIGHTS IN KENTUCKY". Go there to read the whole thing. You are the parent and unless they intend to call in Social Services they should give them to you.
Overview

Both the HIPAA Privacy Rule and Kentucky law give you rights with respect to your medical record. The HIPAA Privacy Rule sets standards that apply to records held by health care providers across the nation. Kentucky law sets standards for records held by doctors, hospitals and other health care providers within the state. Most health care providers must follow both the HIPAA Privacy Rule and Kentucky law. If a standard in Kentucky law conflicts with a standard in the HIPAA Privacy Rule, your health care provider must follow the law that is the most protective of your rights.

Summary of Your Rights

In Kentucky you have the right to:

See and get a copy of your medical record.

Your health care provider usually must let you see your medical record or give you a copy of it no later than 30 days after they receive your request. This right is called the right to access your medical record.

Your health care provider may not charge you a fee for the first copy of your medical record. They can charge you for additional copies. Your provider can charge you the actual cost for postage if you have the copy mailed to you.

Have information added to your medical record to make it more complete or accurate.

This right is called the right to amend your record. In certain cases, your provider can deny your request to amend your record. If this happens, you have the right to add your own short statement to your medical record.

File a complaint.

You have the right to file a complaint with the Office for Civil Rights, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services if you believe your health care provider has violated your right to see, get a copy of, or amend your medical record. You can also file a complaint with the state agency that regulates your health care provider.

Sue in state court for violations of your rights under state law.

You have the right under Kentucky law to sue in state court to enforce your rights with respect to your medical record.

You can learn more about these rights in the following sections of guide.
Who Has to Follow THESE LAWS?

Most Kentucky health care providers (such as doctors and hospitals) must follow both the HIPAA Privacy Rule and state laws that give patients rights in their medical records.

There are some health care providers, however, that do not have to follow the HIPAA Privacy Rule. The HIPAA Privacy Rule only covers health care providers that use computers to send health information for certain administrative or financial purposes (such as filing claims for insurance).

Example

Sometimes Ashley goes to a doctor at a free clinic for medical treatment. The doctor does not accept private insurance, Medicaid, or Medicare. The doctor does not file any insurance claims. Ashley’s doctor probably does not have to follow the HIPAA Privacy Rule because the doctor does not appear to send health information for the types of administrative or financial purposes that would make her a covered health care provider under the Rule.

If you have questions about whether your health care provider must follow the federal HIPAA Privacy Rule, you can contact the Office for Civil Rights, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

 

[HeatherLynn]

interesting, I am going to try to go the path of least resistance first. I talked to my hubby and the new doctor nurse. My husband is going to make the request if they turn him down then the new doctor will get the transfer and let us go over her records with him. which i am fine with. They have always been freaky with records. I have not been allowed ever to see any of my kids records. I admit that i have sneaked a peek a couple times but thats rare. Generally the doctor is not as pushy or threatening with my husband. They are still pushy and threaten to get their way just not as much. We were both told if we wanted the kids to be seen by their practice we were no longer to question any vaccinnes. Our doctor knows I have deal with panic attacks and seems to use my panic to push me the direction they want. Needless to say my husband is determined to switch doctors.

I really think finding the right doctor will fix this issue. My SIL had the same issue in massachussetts. She found a new pediatrician who was shocked there was even an issue. My husband has me all talked up that this new doc is going to be great and someone the kids and I will like and trust.

 

[zzGypsy]

sounds like you've got a solution - if hubby can't get them, then the new doctor can and will share.

you might have hubby print out the info rancher hicks found for you regarding hipaa and all and take that with...

there's something somewhat satisfying about saying to people who are acting badly in the name of some sort of control mania... "really? well are you familiar with the state and federal laws that say you have to give me my records? I brought copies because I thought perhaps you weren't..."

but then, maybe discression is the bettor part of valor in this case.

I absoLUTely will not stay with a doctor who has the "do what I tell you because I'm the DOCTOR" attitude. it's my body and my health and if he can't honor that as a precedent right to his opinion, then he's fired.

I have, on occasion, when a doctor gets indignant because I have questions or want to understand why his opinion is the right one, been known to say, "so, let me just repeat this back to you to make sure I understand... your recomendation is that I GET A DIFFERENT DOCTOR... one who will answer my questions!"

I fired a couple of my mom's doctors too, and she lives 3000 miles away. she often calls me when she's got an issue, and I do some research and send her in with a list of things to ask about. that seriously annoyed the two doctors I "fired"... her new doc just asks, "did I answer all your daughter's... er.. your... questions?" she's getting much better care now.

doctors aren't gods, despite what their egos may tell them. and medical errors kill waaaay more people than you even want to know... it's epidemic. I'm an educated consumer and I expect to be treated as such. any doctor with your doctor's attitude has a problem that is bound to cloud his vision sooner or later, and I don't want to be there in his care when it does.

new doctor is the right thing. hopefully this one will be ever so much better, especially since they know why you're leaving the last one.

 

[HeatherLynn]

I actually feel better about it. I think I just needed to expel some fury and frustration. A new pediatrician is exactly what I need and I am really hopeful the one I picked is going to be a good fit for our family. I put up with our current ped. a bit too long I think so my frustration, irritation, and fears with them were a bit overwhelming. A fresh start is the perfect medicine.

 

[TinyChickenLady]

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Sounds like the same issues I went through when I was little. I was actually born late but have always had weight and size issues. My doctors ran every test under the sun and couldn't find anything. They tried accusing my mother of poor parenting. However, I ate like a pig (with foods I liked, also a picky eater) and was very hyper active. All they could come up with was a high metabolism and ADHD (which my parents chose NOT to treat with drugs). I am still a medical anomally LoL I've had my fair share of health problems over the years. GERD, osteoporosis, premature menopause... These are just a few. I'm now 25 years old, post menopausal and only 94 pounds.
If I were her parent, I would say to take it easy on the child when it comes to testing but to watch her hormone levels and activity as she ages. Also watch her monthlies when she's old enough because if she's underweight too much, she won't be able to have them and they are very important in "my book" as to determining underlying issues. We found out too late why mine were so funky and sporatic and it broke my mother's heart to find out what had really been going on all those years.
If you want more details about what to watch for or anything along those lines, just PM me and I'd be happy to fill you in.
I'm not implying that this is what's going on with your DD but there are some things you can watch for that the doctors' may not have thought of. It's not a common occurance but it could be easier to catch if you know what you're seeing.

 

[HeatherLynn]

Its not hormones. They tested her thyroid levels and thyroid function ( not sure the difference), enzymes, hormones, vitamine levels, iron. It was a really long list and I am not sure what all but they were checking everything under the sun. Parasites were in there too. The doctor is not thrilled with kids living on farms. He doesn't feel its healthy.

Honestly we were talking last night about this and I am going to cut back my daughters bottles. She was almost completely off at one and was gaining roughly a half pound a month. At 18 months they said that wasn't fast enough and told me put her back on the bottle or else. It was suggested it she got below 36 oz of bottle then I would be underfeeding her. A bottle at her age isn't really feeding her sufficiently though. But they said she could not afford such slow weight gain and if I refused to put her back on the bottle its essentially neglect. So I put her back on the bottle and her weight gain almost completely stopped. In 6 months since going back on the stupid bottle she has only gained 1 lb. These are whole milk mixed with formula bottles. Problem is now she only wants the stupid bottle and refuses most foods. I would be more than happy to cut back those bottles and parent the way i want to again. She was gaining regular then. It might have been slower than they wanted but its still weight gain. At the rate we were going she would have gained 3 lbs these past 6 months instead of just 1lb.

My husband suggested last night that if i had stuck to my guns her weight would be a non issue now. So I am going to start cutting back her bottles and offering meals and nibble trays again and all her favorite foods. She was eating 6 or 7 times a day and still have 2 bottles a day at that point but still she was doing well and i thought she was gaining very well. Everything they have pushed has caused problems. I feel stupid for allowing myself to be pushed into this position. On all the others I was immoveable. I know my kids and I know what they need. This time I let myself be bullied.

I am really glad we are switching and I will be thankful to talk to a new doctor in 2 weeks. I woke up this morning determined to take the next 2 weeks till the appointment feeding her my way. Actual good for her food. No more 36 oz of bottles everyday and milkshakes and cookies. ( yes that was their suggestions) I predict by the time I take her to the doctor in 2 weeks that she will have yet again started gaining at a good pace and this new doctor will agree with how I feed her. I am now off to the groceries to pick up some yogurts, puddings, bananas broccoli, cauliflower, cheese and the good old dependable hot dogs and nuggets. I am back in charge!!!!

 

[TinyChickenLady]

Good for you! Take charge and be the Mom you need to be! I honestly can't belive a doctor would tell you to feed your kid junk food and baby formula!

About the hormone thing.. I didn't necessarily mean now. They tested mine when I was young and the levels were fine. It was when I hit my teens that they tested again and found something wrong.

Stupid menopause

I wouldn't wish it on any woman!