I started dating a wonderful man

[heatherindeskies]

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Perhaps your wife could CHOOSE your dates FOR you?
(It really does help if the wife is involved in the process ya know!)

 

[WriterofWords]

I'm so happy for you guys. I've been single since my 18 yr old son was about 6 weeks old,, didn't get a divorce though until he was 4 because I couldn't find him lol. I'll be single the rest of my life.

 

[Andi]

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I thought finding someone that everything just fit into place with only happened in the movies. I'm here to say, it really happens, or at least that seems to be what's happening for me. There's some strange personal circumstances that this fine gentleman fits into without missing a beat. Its almost creepy, like someone told him ahead of time, which isn't possible.

Follow your gut if you find yourself oddly conversing about stuff you normally wouldn't with a man. Not all men are shmucks. My youngest son turned 19 this Spring. I guess I was ready for someone to get dropped in front of me. Maybe its time for you, too. Its time to take care of yourself now. I have only the best of wishes for you.

One nice thing I've discovered is people our age have learned a bit about what not to do in a relationship. A phrase John, the man I'm dating, says now and again is "Youth is wasted on the young." Its so true at many levels.

 

[damselfish]

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Congratulations, I love a happy story! And your comment above made me laugh out loud.

I found a good one too, but dang, it was a long wait.

Best wishes for you both.

 

[flgardengirl]

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Hey you never know.... My mom got divorced from my dad when I was 4 1/2 and she got remarried to a man she met at work the day before I turned 17. She didn't even date again until I was 16 1/2. She said there were no good ones worth dating lol. She is still married to him too.

 

[SunChick]

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[chicken_china_mom]

Oh Andi, you bring me hope that there IS a chance for those of us that are alone! I split from my ex in February of 2004. I tried dating, and the only serious relationship I've had since we split was with a really great guy, but I just couldn't connect with him. I couldn't move past the "like" phase. I also suffer from depression, though it's not really openly obvious, and when my seratonin levels are low, I tend to be numb to things, so I can't be sure if it was the depression speaking, or whether I just honestly couldn't get past the "like" phase. Either way, he kept accusing me of talking a lot about my ex, and that made me angry. Of course I was talking a lot about my ex. The bf would ask me where my kids were, they were with my ex. Why was I so upset that day? Cause the ex called me a picked a fight. He seemed to not want me to ever mention or speak to my ex, and that ticked me off. When you have kids with a guy, and you separate, you are still involved indirectly with that person for the rest of your life, whether you want to be or not. I called it quits though when the bf started talking marriage and kids after only 4 months together. I've been alone ever since, and I'm happy. My mother tries to push me to date, says she doesn't want me to be lonely like her (my dad walked out on my mom as soon as he found out she was pregnant and would not get an abortion, and she has only dated one guy since then, and that jerk was only dating her to get to her younger sister!). She hasn't dated in 31 years. I don't necessarily WANT to be alone for the rest of my life, but I also don't want to settle. I keep hoping that I'll find a good guy someday, and I haven't lost hope, but where I live now, meeting guys is virtually impossible. So for now, I'm concentration on graduating college and spending time with my kids and my chickens, and if the right guy happens to walk into my life, I hope I'm smart enough to see him for what he is, and snatch him up fast!!!!!