I started dating a wonderful man

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Andi, Jun 24, 2010.

  1. Andi

    Andi Songster

    I've been divorced for 12 years this coming July, and I haven't dated anyone for over 6 years.

    I'm just giddy. I've known him for a little over a year. Actually, I met him when he asked if I had any fish to sell. A mutual friend told him I raise fish. I was totally uninterested in the thought of ever getting involved with anyone ever again. Little conversations over all that time revealed we had an incredible amount of interests and views on life in common. He asked me out for Memorial Day and I chickened out. We kept up the conversations though and things are progressing. He's patient and thoughtful of others. And get this...communication about everything is important to him! Dang, if that didn't catch me off guard! He doesn't pry about my past. He says everyone has a past, and a past is a past, and that he's more concerned about my future. He said if there's anything I wanted to know about him to just ask. I did. He proceeded to tell me just about every detail (politely excluding most about his ex) over the course of 2 hours. I felt like I was giving a job interview. Hahaha. By the time he was done I was thinking 'Sold! I'll take 2!' Out of all the women in the world, why me? I don't know, but I'm not letting go of this one! Most of all he makes me feel beautiful, inside and out, and we laugh together a lot. I'm so pleased he's not one of those guys that tries to buy my affection either (although he did send me a beautiful Spring arrangement at work with a note saying he was thinking of me), he's more interested in spending time doing things with me. I so lucked out! He even grew up on a farm and was impressed that I had chickens.

    I'm so happy I could just scream!

    I understand most people could really care less. I'm writing this because.........I want to tell the world!

    For all you out there that have given up because there's no way there's anyone left out there worth bothering with........be patient. It might be worth waiting for the right one instead of taking what ever comes along just so you don't have to be alone.
     
  2. Amanda0609

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    [​IMG] good for you! I had a horrible first marriage and didn't think I would ever even want to date again. I found the most amazing man not long after my divorce. It's easy to want to give up but not everyone is bad. Hope everything works out for you!
     
  3. Thomas423

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    I had also stopped dating when I met my current husband. I was determined that I would spend the rest of my life alone before I spent one day with the wrong man.
    He was so worth the wait.

    I hope it all works out for you. You sound so happy.
     
  4. SarahFair

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    that is great for you!!
    Congrats on the good awesome find! [​IMG]
     
  5. PurpleChicken

    PurpleChicken Tolerated.....Mostly

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    This thread brought a huge smile to my face. I wish you both the best of luck. From what you say he sounds like a good guy and real person.
     
  6. Kansaseq

    Kansaseq Prairie Wolf Farm Asylum

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    That's so awesome! And though I'm content to be on my own for now, I love hearing stories like yours. It renews my faith that there are still a few good ones out there, and that happy endings (though yours is more of a beginning) do happen. Congrats on finding a great guy [​IMG]
     
  7. Andi

    Andi Songster

    Thank-you, everyone!

    Kansaseq, he wasn't looking either (at least I don't think he was). Keep an eye out for those you may stumble across just in chance.
     
    Last edited: Jun 25, 2010
  8. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    So happy for you! [​IMG]
     
  9. Chickerdoodle13

    Chickerdoodle13 The truth is out there...

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    It's always nice to read posts like this!

    I'm still in college and fairly young (they call me "the baby" at work, but I'm not THAT young! LOL) but one of my biggest fears is ending up alone for my whole life. A lot of closer family members never found that special someone and it just doesn't seem like a very happy life style. Anyways, I'm fairly certain my fear is mostly an irrational one, but these days there is so much pressure on dating at a young age, and just dating at any age in general. I never wanted the stress, so I have stayed away from relationships for most of my life. Right now I would rather focus on getting my life started with a career and my own place, but your post gives me hope for the future! There is definitely someone out there for everyone.
     
  10. Spookwriter

    Spookwriter Crowing

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    A heart-warming story, Andi. Glad you found someone.

    Did you sell him any fish? You didn't say...But we gotta admit,
    you sure treat your customers nice...dating them and all.

    Me, I'd also like to date a little bit more. But my wife strictly
    forbids me dating other people. She has a real problem with
    it.
     

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