I swear I pick the worst friends.........

[lockedhearts]

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I wish I could, but of course Sunday evening I cleaned it out. I had just cleaned out my entire inside of my trailer so it could be nice for her to use. I am kind of a fanatic about keeping poop out of it after I use it. I worked hard to buy my trailer and it is mine, so I try hard to keep it maintained.
I just know the next time she asks I will have to say sorry, I can;t let you borrow it again.

 

[debilorrah]

Definitely cool down before you talk to your friend. After that, try to be as honest as you can. I always tell my friends "you may not like what I have to say, but I respect you enough to be honest, so please listen". It is so frustrating when stuff like that happens. Consider this - I have a daughter (step, but she's mine), who no matter WHAT, leaves dirty dishes and clothes all over the house. She's 19. Be happy your friend did it once, and not every hour of the day.

 

[MagsC]

That would upset me too. I would have a lot of doubts about letting her borrow it again since she showed such little respect for your property.

 

[SterlingAcres]

Too bad you already cleaned it. I'd have shoveled it into her driveway.

Then again, most of my friends would have cleaned it because they'd have expected me to do that in the event it was dirty.

 

[okiemommy]

Definitely cool down before you talk to your friend. After that, try to be as honest as you can. I always tell my friends "you may not like what I have to say, but I respect you enough to be honest, so please listen". It is so frustrating when stuff like that happens.

i agree with debiraymond. I'd much rather have a friend that is honest with me than one who will retaliate on me vindictively(whether by action or inaction). To me that is real friendship. As Msbear said, she may have NO idea that she committed a big no no, or as someone else stated maybe something happened and she was unable to clean it and is calling to apologize and make it up to you. If that's the case let her. Your title says you pick the worst friends; does she have a pattern of wronging you, or is that statement being made based on this one action? If she has a history of wronging you, then maybe it's time to reconsider how closely you allow her to be in your life. If this isn't a pattern for her, it's not fair for her to be lumped into the worst friends category. Good luck to you.​

 

[SpottedCrow]

I'd write this one off and never lend her another thing...

 

[lockedhearts]

I have corresponded to her by email just today. Even mentioned how I was sorry i didn;t get to call her but that Sunday I was busy cleaning Dudley's trailer and went on to mention that i washed it and made sure all the poop was cleaned out of it before I returned it. I haven't gotten any response (she initially emailed me to see how the show went) so I am assuming she doesn;t think she did anything or doesn't care.
Has she done this before well, not this per say but has put me in an odd position by divorcing her husband, who we happen to be friends with also, she has also flaunted her new boyfriend in front of me, before her divorce was final.
I am pretty much writing this one off.
I don't have a history of picking bad friends. My thread title was just in relation to the frustration I was feeling.
Obviously Dudley is a great friend, he thought enough of me to loan me his $40,000 Truck and $35,000 Trailer. He also got it back in great shape.

 

[Katy]

Stuff like this is why my husband and I have no lending, no borrowing policy. We've had a couple of people get pretty huffy when we wouldn't lend them one of our tractors and or implements.

 

[SpottedCrow]

She's obviously a bloody oblivious idiot...no loss with that friendship.

 

[debilorrah]

Our policy with friends and family is NO LOANS - we can't afford to give it, then don't.