I don't have any proof, but I have a strong suspicion. I really can't talk to DH about it, because like alot of fathers he refuses to see anything but an angel when he looks at her. DSD #2 has been spending alot of time up here. She usually shows up at mealtime and then leaves as soon as the meal is over or (if she's fighting with her mom, whom she lives with) crashes on our couch and leaves in the morning. Little things are disappearing. Change from our change jars, an entire large pack of photo paper, her dad's cigarettes. All she has to do is ask and these things would be giving to her, but she won't ask for whatever reason. DH's ex is a thief, plain and simple. When DH's mom was staying with them (the ex and DH) while mom was in the last stages of her terminal cancer, the ex stole thousands of dollars from mom. She stole from DH too. He was naive enough to allow her to handle their finances for awhile and didn't know she wasn't paying the bills until their house was foreclosed on and utilities started getting shut off. She (the ex) did all of this because she has a need for things and didn't want to get a job to buy them. She has a sense of entitlement that the world owes her everything, that from what I'm told goes back to her childhood as the youngest when everyone doted on her. Anyhow, back to the SD. She had earned her way up to keyholder at her job until money started disappearing from the registers. Her key was taken away. She's told her sister and her dad that the key was taken away just cuz the manager doesn't like her. She's blaming all her problems on an ex boyfriend that she broke up with over a year ago. He didn't take care of HER things, he didn't take care of HER animals, etc. It's HIS fault that her finances are in a mess. She's really ticked off at me for insisting that she do the dishes last night, which she ended up conning her older sister into doing for her. As bad as it sounds, I'm hoping this means that she'll stay away for awhile. DH will still see her while he's working and I know he'll be giving poor poor her money, because she hasn't found a way to finance her party lifestyle and living expenses at the same time. Not much I can do about that, it's his money. I for one refuse to enable her anymore, but I don't know what to do about her stealing other than to watch her closely when she's here.