I was just assaulted

[asher]

I'm so sorry. How scary!

What's a "BFF's DH"?

Best friend forever's dear husband​

 

[spook]

I have been in a abusive relationship and some things you avoid for the length of time your with them. But, you need to cut your losses with the home you live in, go to a shelter with your son, especially after you place paper work, go to another state with family, anything. Just go hide until he can cool down (sometimes they do not cool down) you can end up dead in these situations. Its time to empower yourself.
You can be strong, if you cannot, then be strong for your young child. No one deserves to live like this, no one deserves to watch this no matter what age !
Find a Womens shelter and remember that objects can be replaced, clothes, you may start at empty boxes, but perhaps those of us at BYC can find a way to help you up. I say help you "up" because you do not need a "hand out" (charity) but you need a hand "up" out of this situation. If there is any way I could help, please feel free to ask. God bless you and may he help you from this situation!!!!

 

[Zookeeper9000]

BFF is best friends forever and DH is Dear Hubby. I just don't know how you can call that man your DH I would Call him a Dumb Ba****d.

Been there done that got out before my first daughter was born and will never be in that place again.

Take defense classes and don't be afraid to beat the sh*t out of him when he trys again and trust me he will. Fight back till ya can't no more at least ya will know ya did some damage try the knee cap kick it as hard as ya can then while he is hurting kick the other one and kick to break it. When he hits the ground get a leg across his chest and then your elbow across his neck hold him down and PUNCH the crap out of his face teach him that it is not ok to attack you. If ya can't get him down try to stick your fingers in his eyes it might feel nasty but he won't be able to see to hit ya again or put the heal of your hand on his chin and try to push is head off his neck. Teach your son it isn't ok to hit anyone but it is ok to fight back.

 

[joebryant]

Quote:
You went out dancing with your "best friend forever's darling husband" (with her knowledge)" ... but not your DH's knowledge?
It's too bad that your husband didn't have the good sense to just leave you and file for divorce and custody of the children; that's what I would have done.

 

[chickiebaby]

Everything spook said I say too. Violence in a relationship doesnt EVER get better on its own. Take your son and go, if that's what you need to do.

Do you know how to find a shelter?

 

[ChuckenGirl]

i can let you borrow my mean rooster to beat him up...
but seriously though i would get help for your son but leave first go far far far away another place, a family memebers house he doesn't know and take your son with you.
I know you'll find a way

 

[sunbury chick]

I'm sorry, I just don't get it....Why would you go out dancing with your best friends husband? Maybe he got the wrong idea.Was your child along too? Give more details,it's not making sense....Sorry you were hurt,I guess you learn from your mistakes...:

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[onthespot]

Quote:
You went out dancing with your "best friend forever's darling husband" (with her knowledge)" ... but not your DH's knowledge?
It's too bad that your husband didn't have the good sense to just leave you and file for divorce and custody of the children; that's what I would have done.

I agree with Joe. No one deserves to be beat up, but I cannot believe how many of you are lining up to insulate the asault victim from the consequences of her choices. I KNOW... she should never have been hit. I know, America, land of the free and she should be able to dance any time with anyone she chooses. She also said "this has happened before" and and if I were she and I wanted to go dancing with someone other than "the one who pays the bills and sometimes beats me up" then I'd legally disentagle myself from the situation and wait until societal adjustments are established before I went dancing with someone else, BFF's DH, or anyone else.

 

[Oblio13]

I just want to point out to terrielacy that I am not expressing any opinion whatsoever in this thread.

 

[sunbury chick]

I'm sorry, I still don't understand.Was it your husband or your dear friends husband, who hurt you? Not that anyone should have...